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Carolyn Rubenstein, PhD is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Florida specializing in anxiety, burnout, perfectionism and trauma. She particularly enjoys helping anxious overachievers experience greater ease by finding worth in being, not just doing.Dr. Rubenstein is the Chief Wellness Adviser for Misfits Gaming Group, a global esports and entertainment leader, building thoughtfully tailored programs from the ground up for its competitive teams, its content creators, and all staff to boost productivity and strengthen the culture of the organization. She lives in South Florida with her husband and two young kids. I found Carolyn on Instagram earlier this year and have LOVED following along with all of her incredibly helpful content that not only really resonates with me and my very apt-to-burnout lifestyle, but I love that all of her posts give actionable takeaways that have honestly made my life better! She and I get to talk all about anxiety, burnout, perfectionism and building self-esteem today and I think you're going to absolutely LOVE this episode. Time Stamps:[00:59] - Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein’s passion to help people starts from her childhood. What happened?[03:12] - Dr. Rubenstein shares the two lessons she learned in college that transformed how she viewed the medical world.[05:41] - How can people recognize that they have anxiety?[07:15] - Dr. Rubenstein shares the first steps to address anxiety and create a little separation from the feeling.[10:10] - How can parents notice and speak about anxiety with their children?[13:04] - Dr. Rubenstein shares how kids can have conversations around intense or ambiguous feelings like anxiety.[15:13] - Return your focus to you and check in with yourself.[17:50] - These are signs that you may have burnout or be on the path to burnout.[20:15] - To move away from burnout, first identify what in your life is draining you.[22:58] - You can have routines and mini routines for when you need to regroup yourself.[25:01] - What does Dr. Rubenstein think about self-care?[27:11] - Create a self-care menu of activities that bring you peace.[29:53] - Corrine and Dr. Rubenstein share what’s part of their self-care menu.[31:52] - What are signs of perfectionism?[34:50] - Dr. Rubenstein talks about whether perfectionism comes from internal pressure or external pressure.[36:28] - How can someone build healthy confidence? How can this be done with children?[39:28] - Help children see themselves as the multifaceted person they are.[41:19] - Dr. Rubenstein encourages you to trust yourself and your ability to handle hard moments. Supporting Resources:Carolyn’s websiteCarolyn’s Instagram @carolynrubensteinphdSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

One of the most frequently asked questions in my DMs these days goes something like this: “So many of my friends or family are leaving the church. What do I do or how do I respond?” This really is a hard thing if you love your church as much as we do, but the way you respond is extremely important in doing exactly what we feel called to do as members of any church that worships God, which is to show love and kindness. Today we're going through a few key things that will help you navigate situations when people you love leave church, or leave their faith.Time Stamps:[00:40] - Corrine says she keeps seeing this question lately about friends and family leaving the church.[03:23] - We cannot force matters of the heart.[06:13] - Let people have their own agency.[08:49] - Do people who leave the church expect you to reach out? (Hint: Sometimes.)[11:29] - Neil brings up how we can show unconditional love towards our family and friends who leave the church.[14:05] - “Just listen.”[16:46] - Corrine talks about how we’re all in need of God equally.[18:21] - What do you do when your spouse is leaning away from the church?[19:51] - Neil says you don’t carry the burden of convincing people to come back.[21:48] - Always make people feel welcomed for whenever they decide to return.[24:48] - When it’s time, people will make a change on their own. Don’t be afraid to offer a simple invitation.[27:38] - “Is this the right time?”[30:28] - Our ability to extend a hand to others is powerful.[32:07] - “All of us are free to choose.” Supporting Resources: “Preparing the Heart” talk by H. Burke PetersonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Richard K. Hada graduated from the Arizona School of Dentistry and Oral Health where he excelled in general and special needs dentistry. His love of general dentistry has afforded him to further his career by studying the latest in Cosmetic Dentistry, Implantology (dental implants), and Endodontics (root canals). He not only happens to be our dentist but he also did an incredible job with veneers on my teeth a few years ago, and then on Neil's teeth just this past year.Dr. Hada and his wife have two girls and two boys. He is an active member of his church and community. In his free time, he loves to play sports, surf, and do woodworking projects. But what really impresses both Neil and me is the incredible company culture he's built in his dentistry practice at Hada Family Dental. His google and yelp reviews accurately reflect just how many raving fans he has here in south Orange County, but you can also really feel that whenever you walk into his practice. Everything is beautifully decorated, his office staff is extremely efficient and friendly, and he's somehow made even people who hate going to the dentist love visiting his office. Today Rich teaches us about how he created such a tight knit culture in his office and what he's done to create a radically unified team at Hada Family Dental and the exact practices you can apply to whatever work or leadership opportunities that you personally have too. Veneer Giveaway! Go to @doctor.hada or @corrinestokoe on Instagram for details on entering the giveaway. Time Stamps:[01:37] - Dr. Hada first chipped his tooth in third grade.[03:33] - Who convinced Dr. Hada to be a dentist?[05:06] - How is Dr. Hada so happy as a dentist? He talks about why his passion for dentistry feels fulfilling.[07:20] - Dr. Hada explains the philosophy of his work culture at the practice.[09:10] - Always deliver an exceptional experience and invest in your team.[11:44] - Dr. Hada’s warmth is the same no matter where he’s at.[14:08] - Dr. Hada creates an environment where people are happy to come to work. How does he build a work culture?[16:01] - Dr. Hada shares a team building exercise that he admires.[18:58] - This work culture habit is inspired by Dr. Hada’s wife.[21:47] - Here’s how you can get a free consultation with Dr. Hada.[24:00] - Dr. Hada treats his team to tacos for lunch. What’s the significance?[26:18] - Be a team player and have each other’s backs.[28:47] - Optimize and be scrappy.[31:22] - Dr. Hada talks about creating raving fans for the dentist practice. What’s the story behind it?[33:52] - Dr. Hada is grateful for all the people who rock the Hada Family Dental merch.[35:04] - Corrine mentions how Dr. Hada helped the dental journey of her and Neil.[36:41] - Why are veneers useful in dental health?[38:50] - There’s something that holds people back when they are not comfortable with their smile.[41:37] - “The more you give. The more you live.”[43:19] - Thank you Dr. Hada, and thank you for listening! Supporting Resources:Hada Family Dental websiteDr. Hada’s Instagram @doctor.hada Veneer Giveaway! Go to @doctor.hada or @corrinestokoe on Instagram for details on entering the giveaway.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this podcast, the hosts discuss whether it's right to marry an addict and share personal experiences. They explore the impact of addiction on a relationship and the importance of not enabling the addict. They also delve into the decision to marry an addict, highlighting the struggles and the role of prayer and introspection. The podcast emphasizes the importance of trusting intuition and divine guidance in relationships.

Have you ever caught yourself either invalidating your own suffering, saying something like “I shouldn't be complaining because so-and-so has it so much worse,” or thinking or even saying, “Oh yeah well, did you go through this? I didn't think so! I had it so much worse than you,” kind of like the classic fable of parents who walked home from school a mile in the snow with no shoes, and uphill both ways?! Well today we're going to talk about this idea of comparative suffering, that either you're bad because you're complaining when you haven't suffered enough to qualify to complain or feel sad, OR, you think someone else shouldn't complain because you've had it worse. Both lead to unhappiness, and both are destructive. So we’ll unpack this idea of comparative suffering and also provide 3 antidotes that will help you to overcome this kind of thinking and instead live in peace and joy and abundance, even through challenging times. Time Stamps:[01:02] - Corrine gives an update on her bed rest. She talks about a community she found.[03:43] - What happened after a community member compared her suffering to her friends?[05:27] - What is comparative suffering?[08:17] - Allow suffering to pass through.[10:05] - People aren’t thinking about you as much as you think.[12:54] - What other people think of you is none of your business.[14:23] - Even the smallest things need care and attention.[17:06] - Corrine explores how pride can show up in comparative suffering. [19:57] - Be careful not to fall into the trap of pride, ego, and entitlement. [21:50] - Neil talks about how suffering is relative to the person.[24:20] - It’s nice to have someone empathize with your suffering.[27:07] - Corrine shares how freeing it felt to move on from things that hurt her in the past.[28:56] - Suffering is part of divine design. Heavenly Father knows the nuance of what we go through. [31:03] - Neil talks about how prayer can bring relief in the midst of suffering.[33:20] - How can you use gratitude to give yourself a wider perspective?[36:15] - Each day is miraculous. Supporting Resources: “But for a Small Moment” Talk by Neal A. Maxwell “Beware of Pride” Talk by Ezra Taft BensonGratitude quote by Melody Beattie John 14:24-27 Scripture about the comforterAlma 7:11-12 Christ knows how to succor us in our infirmitiesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Heather Avis is the founder of The Lucky Few, a New York Times best-selling author, podcaster and a Down syndrome advocate, working to create a more inclusive world where everyone belongs. For more than a decade, she has led this effort by shouting worth, shifting narratives, and reimagining what it looks like when we embrace our differences. Heather just released her 3rd book called Everyone Belongs, a children’s book that teaches kids about being loving and inclusive especially to those who have disabilities. Heather patiently and graciously talked through all my questions about what it's like to be a mom of kids who have Down syndrome and gave beautiful advice on how we can teach our kids to be more inclusive and why she believes it starts with our kids. I learned so much from this interview and was left feeling so uplifted and I know you will too. Time Stamps:[00:59] - Heather Avis talks about The Lucky Few and where the phrase comes from.[02:22] - How can we tell a “truer story” about Down syndrome?[05:19] - Who is Heather’s “Scariest and Best Yes”?[07:04] - “You can’t know what you don’t know.”[09:27] - When speaking about people outside of our own community, we should get our cues from that community.[12:17] - Heather shares the spark she felt the moment she read this email from a social worker.[14:54] - What was it like to finally complete the adoption?[16:39] - How did Heather’s family react to the decision?[19:22] - Heather talks about dealing with society systems that try to put a limit on who her children are as people.[21:04] - Every person is already valuable, even when in pursuit of better.[24:02] - What made Heather decide to say “yes” to another baby diagnosed with Down syndrome?[26:50] - Parenting is one step at a time for every parent.[28:11] - Everyone belongs.[30:56] - Heather shares examples of how parents can have open conversations with their kids around disability and differences.[33:47] - You are equipped to handle your journey, and there is a community here to help you.[36:14] - “Exactly who you are is exactly who we pick.” Supporting Resources:Heather’s Website: Heatheravis.com“Everyone Belongs” Book by Heather AvisSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A self-proclaimed lifelong cheerleader, Darcey Wilde cherishes relationships and works each day to help the world feel beautiful, one woman at a time. Darcey is co-owner and CEO of Shine Cosmetics, the positive voice in beauty. Committed to being the leader in removing the sexualization of women in the beauty industry, Shine Cosmetics is determined to help women recognize their true beauty, by creating high quality, easy to use products that highlight the very best features of the unique and bright women who wear them. Darcey believes that words matter and the Shine product line focuses on the positive qualities every woman possesses and serves to reaffirm them as she prepares for her day. Use code MAM15 for 15% off anything at shinecosmetics.com Time Stamps:[01:14] - Darcey Wilde says the idea for Shine Cosmetics came during a dance competition.[04:02] - Corrine and Darcey share their views on makeup and confidence. Makeup enhances what’s already beautiful about each of us.[05:59] - Darcey is very intentional about the names of the makeup products, so that they are empowering affirmations.[08:39] - Darcey is a serial entrepreneur who’s not afraid to tackle a problem when she sees one.[10:21] - Here are Darcey’s tips for dealing with imposter syndrome and forging your own path.[12:01] - The people who resonate with your brand are your people.[13:55] - Darcey encourages you to trust what you are being called to do.[15:28] - Darcey speaks on what she learned about self-talk and redefining her identity.[17:47] - “The loudest voice you hear every day is your own.”[19:54] - Darcey explains why it’s so important to talk to yourself with love and understanding.[22:26] - Corrine shares that thoughts aren’t always right, true, or real.[24:59] - It’s not silly to say good things about yourself. Words matter.[27:56] - Corrine explores the idea that imperfect parenting is by design.[29:35] - “What would you tell your 13-year-old self?”[32:00] - Darcey talks about when she gave herself a makeover in her 30s. What happened?[34:44] - Darcey says that you need to be the one to like what you see in the mirror.[36:22] - There are no rules to makeup since we are all unique.[38:47] - We all can have our own favorite when it comes to makeup.[40:21] - In every stage in your life, you are beautiful. Supporting Resources:shinecosmetics.comShine Cosmetics Instagram @shinecosmeticsDarcy’s Instagram @darceywildeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you facing a really big challenge in life right now? If you are (and the chances are pretty high that you are, because most people are!) then today’s episode might be just for you. We're talking about choosing joy and having a positive perspective no matter your circumstances, a few of the ways to do that, and how it will impact your life. Time Stamps:[00:28] - Flip the script from sadness to joy. [02:43] - Corrine shares her pregnancy journey over the past months. What has she felt lately?[05:04] - Corrine talks about going to Disneyland during her pregnancy.[06:58] - Bonus: A reservation tip for your next Disneyland trip.[08:56] - What made Corrine nervous that she was experiencing a miscarriage?[11:25] - Corrine talks about an ultrasound that took an unusually long time. What was going on?[13:37] - Placenta previa is why Corrine was directed to be on bed rest.[16:36] - Joy is less about circumstances and more about what you focus on in life.[18:47] - Neil shares how he feels about this recent pregnancy journey and how he takes one day at a time.[20:30] - Corrine says that thinking of her “why” empowers her to see a bright future.[23:02] - Trust that what’s happening now is adding up to something greater.[26:00] - Challenging times can turn into blessings.[27:38] - How often do you remind yourself of the eternal perspective? It can make everything clear and remove the distractions.[29:49] - Corrine encourages you to see the micro and macro purpose of your current journey.[31:28] - Neil discusses decision-making based on an eternal perspective. What actually matters?[34:23] - Allow yourself to be happier. Your purpose is to have joy.[36:26] - Here are five things that keep life in the eternal perspective. Supporting Resources: “The Adventure of Mortality” Talk by Dieter F. UchtdorfThe Home Edit post on breast cancerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Allison Hottinger & Lisa Kalberer are the sisters behind The Giving Manger, who believe kindness is an everyday practice and giving can change everything. With 6 kids between them (Lisa has one son, Allison has five kids), their focus is RAISING KIND KIDS. Kids who Give. Kids who CARE. They are constantly looking for ways to make giving and kindness simple and a daily practice. Today I get to ask Allison and Lisa all about their journey with starting the Giving Manger and how they've helped bring that tradition to thousands of families and created millions of acts of service around the world. We also get to talk about their inspiration behind their newest project, the kindness chain, and how this kid-friendly, family centered activity can help unify kids and parents with their communities and bring more love and kindness to the world. Time Stamps:[00:58] - Allison explains where the idea for The Giving Manger came from.[03:57] - “If we can’t get it out of our mind, it might be something that we need to do.”[05:41] - Lisa talks about the drive they had once they were set on bringing The Giving Manger to life.[07:35] - Real joy comes from being in service and helping each other.[09:53] - When you follow your purpose, resources will show up for you.[12:51] - Did Allison and Lisa feel any opposition as they created The Giving Manger?[14:57] - Reach out to the community around you.[17:38] - Shifting the focus to giving.[19:26] - Take time to appreciate others and be intentional.[21:13] - Human connection is part of giving. Lisa shares what happened when she took a chance on having a kind chat with a stranger.[23:18] - Our small contributions add up. Allison shares a story of a stranger making a friendly request to make another person’s Christmas joyful.[25:26] - Be kind.[27:24] - A smile goes a long way.[30:12] - We can all be more understanding of each other.[31:51] - Corrine recalls a moment where simple words from a nice stranger made a situation more comfortable.[33:40] - Where did the creative prompts come from?[36:11] - Kindness creates a chain reaction.[38:57] - Try to be part of the solution. Allison and Lisa talk about how their families are being more and more involved in creating change.[41:38] - Remember to be kind to people, even when it feels inconvenient. You never know what impact your kindness could have.[43:32] - Kindness is a daily practice. It starts from one thing at a time. Supporting Resources: Instagram @thegivingmanger The Giving Manger website “The Giving Manger” Book by Allison HottingerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Bre Welch is an actress and photographer who has studied and performed in London, New York City, and Walt Disneyworld. She has performed in venues across Utah including Hale Centre Theatre, The Grand, The Ellen Eccles, Centerpoint Legacy Theatre, and the Salt Palace. Bre studied vocal performance for over fifteen years and is the owner and photographer of Pepperfox Photo where she takes rad headshots and modern branding photos. She is mommy to 3 incredible humans. Late last night I was on instagram when I saw a post from Bre about putting goodness into the performing community rather than the toxicity she was seeing, and it really struck a chord with me. The stars all aligned so that 13 hours later, we were able to sit down and talk all about this! I was so uplifted by the things Bre shared with me and I hope you leave this interview feeling the same way too. Time Stamps:[00:56] - Bre Welch gives the backstory of The Pepperfox Podcast and its connection to the artist community. [03:21] - How did Bre start doing photography?[06:21] - Bre says she was really active in photography, but she noticed this scarcity mindset she had.[08:52] - When you clearly communicate what you offer, you become the “go-to” person.[11:50] - Bre shares her experience of being a Disney princess. How did she hear about the opportunity?[13:31] - What do you do to audition as a Disney princess? PART 1[16:31] - What do you do to audition as a Disney princess? PART 2[18:29] - Your worth does not fluctuate. You are always worthy.[20:34] - What is Bre’s advice to people in scrutinizing careers?[22:41] - We are here to fully live our lives.[24:40] - Who is the most magical person Bre remembers from her time at Disney?[27:26] - Bre wants to see more good infused into the theatre community.[29:52] - What is the hardest part of theatre in Bre’s opinion?[31:23] - Opportunities are abundant, and they’ll keep coming.[33:14] - We want to see people being people.[35:48] - Bre talks about which personality traits she sees emerging in her children. PART 1[38:14] - Bre talks about which personality traits she sees emerging in her children. PART 2[40:00] - It’s not so much about what you do, but who you’re becoming.[41:57] - Thank you Bre, and thank you for listening! Supporting Resources:Bre’s photography pepperfoxphoto.comInstagram @pepperfoxphotoBre’s podcast The Pepperfox PodcastSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.