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Dec 9, 2024 • 1h 15min

Krispin's Story of Estrangement

Join a heartfelt journey as Krispin bravely shares his experiences of estrangement from authoritarian parents influenced by religious trauma. The discussion dives into the heavy emotional complexities of navigating toxic family dynamics and the cyclical nature of abuse. Listeners will resonate with the struggles of seeking validation and healing while prioritizing self-well-being. Confronting familial pressures and the importance of setting boundaries emphasize the need for healthier relationships. Ultimately, it’s a story of hope and resilience in the face of adversity.
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Nov 25, 2024 • 60min

How Do You Set Boundaries in a Family Like this?

TW/CW: corporal punishment, spanking, mention of sexual abuseKrispin & DL discuss the factors that make setting boundary in religious authoritarian families so difficult. We talk about how trauma responses make it difficult for us to speak up, the negative responses to setting boundaries, and more. D.L. mentions the Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents series by Lindsay Gibson. You can register for Krispin's workshop for therapists & helping professionals at his website: https://www.krispinmayfield.com/You can read about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at strongwilled.substack.com.You can join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access extra episodes, our facebook community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more.You can follow STRONGWILED Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here and DL on Instagram here.
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Oct 21, 2024 • 1h 3min

Corporal Punishment & Brain Development with Tori Williams Douglass

Tori Williams Douglass, a neuroscience researcher focused on the effects of corporal punishment, joins to discuss its significant impact on brain development and child psychology. The conversation delves into the emotional suppression and long-term mental health issues stemming from such disciplinary practices. Tori critiques the historical justifications for spanking and emphasizes the need for open dialogue about parenting. They also address the disconnect between societal norms and children's actual needs, advocating for healthier, more compassionate parenting techniques.
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Sep 22, 2024 • 59min

Spanking on Christian Radio

Dive into a nostalgic look at a 1988 Christian radio drama that defended spanking. The hosts unravel the impact of authoritarian parenting portrayed in 'Adventures in Odyssey' and reflect on personal experiences with corporal punishment. They also critique the character Mr. Whitaker's role in shaping community dynamics through control and indoctrination. Emotional discussions reveal how traditional discipline can harm family relationships, illustrating the complex ties between love, control, and personal trauma.
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Aug 25, 2024 • 1h 9min

DL's Story

DL shares their poignant journey through childhood trauma, faced with a parent who predicted impending doom. They open up about navigating life with late-diagnosed autism, dealing with family tragedies, and challenging gender norms in a rigidly binary world. The conversation touches on the emotional impact of growing up in an authoritarian environment, exploring themes of grief, identity, and self-acceptance. DL’s candid reflections provide insights into the complexities of reconciling past traumas with a vibrant, non-conforming identity.
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Aug 12, 2024 • 1h 6min

Krispin's Story

Krispin shares their journey of growing up in a conservative household deeply influenced by religious authoritarianism. They discuss the psychological effects of strict parenting, highlighting themes of generational trauma and the struggle for self-expression. Krispin opens up about childhood experiences of abuse and the internalized shame that followed them into adolescence. They candidly reflect on their complex relationship with faith and identity, ultimately embracing their genderqueer identity and the significance of storytelling in finding self-acceptance.
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Jul 29, 2024 • 50min

Send this Episode to Your Therapist Part 2: Family Dynamics

Marlene Winell, an author known for her insights on religious authoritarianism, joins the conversation to explore the deep-seated issues in family dynamics stemming from oppressive parenting styles. They discuss how these authoritarian frameworks often label children as 'good' or 'bad,' creating toxic roles like the golden child and scapegoat. Winell emphasizes the negative effects of gender essentialism on youth identity and the emotional turmoil faced in navigating these harmful family structures, particularly when seeking autonomy in adulthood.
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Jul 15, 2024 • 46min

Send this Episode to Your Therapist Part 1

DL and Krispin discuss the impact of religious authoritarian parenting on kids, the influence of spirituality on obedience, and different child-rearing approaches. They reference books by Gibson and Winell, and compare conservative Protestant parenting to mainstream methods. The podcast explores the intersection of religious authoritarian parenting and patriarchal beliefs, challenges in parent-child relationships due to differing expectations, and the lasting psychological effects of control in religious environments.
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Jun 13, 2024 • 47min

A daughter of Focus on the Family speaks out

For this bonus episode, D.L. Mayfield interviewed Amber Cantorna-Wylde, author of Out of Focus, My Story of Sexuality, Shame, and Toxic Evangelicalism. DL talked with her about her experience growing up as the daughter of the man in charge of Adventures in Odyssey. Amber’s story is heartbreaking, inspiring, and also a powerful indictment against the people that often told us that “family is everything.”Today Amber is a powerful advocate for the LGBTQIA+ community, focusing on people who grew up in high control religious environments. Make sure to check out her book Out of Focus: My Story of Shame, Sexuality, and Toxic Evangelicalism. She also hosts the Unashamed Love Collective.You can read the transcript and further details for this episode here. DL and Amber talk about a series her father helped produce called "The Ties that Bind," and you can listen to the season of this podcast where we discussed it episode by episode.You can check out a written version of this interview on our STRONGWILLED substack.Our STRONGWILLED season will drop next month!You can Join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access extra episodes, our facebook community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more.You can follow The Bad Place Podcast on Twitter and Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here and Danielle on Instagram here.
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Mar 21, 2024 • 56min

Holymotherforkingshirtballs

DL & Krispin discuss the season finale of The Good Place Season 1, titled "Michael's Gambit." We talk about recognizing rotten systems (that claim to be good) and also what's next for the podcast!You can Join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access to two extra episodes each month, our facebook community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more.You can follow The Bad Place Podcast on Twitter and Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here and Danielle on Instagram here.

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