The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Welcome to the podcast. In case you’re new here, my name is Arlina and I’ll be your host.   I think this episode is a long time in coming. Today I’m talking with Jake White, a young man who has dedicated his life to talking with kids about prevention. And he does it in a way that is fun, inspiring and he’s actually reaching the kids he’s speaking to!   Jake is the co-founder of Vive18, an author and podcast host of Party Talk- Where they focus on empowering leaders in youth drug prevention and he travels around the country talking with kids about how to have fun without drugs and alcohol.   We’re going to talk about the stresses kids face today, what inspires them and Jake’s unique and effective strategies to keep kids off drugs, even before they start.   But before we jump in, I want to share some of the resources I have to support you on your sober journey.    If you are just starting out, I have an online self paced course for you called Sobriety Reset. This is perfect for you if you are in the exploration phase. You might be in the process of taking a break, or experimenting with the idea of complete abstinence. Either way, this self-paced class will address the most common challenges from how to socialize without booze, how to prevent cravings, what to do if you get them, and self-care practices that strengthen your willpower so that you can take back control and feel great again! To find out more, just visit, sobrietyreset.com    Also, if you find that you have been struggling to stay sober, and you want private one on one support you can visit sober life school and check out my private coaching program. My approach is to do the deep work that addresses root cause issues, not just the symptoms.  There is a complete outline of the 3 phases are, what work we do together, and the evidence based practices that will help you achieve sobriety. If you’re tired of struggling and feeling defeated, and ready to break free, then visit Soberlifeschool.com. You can book some time with me to ask questions to find out if private coaching is right for you. Keep in mind this is the busiest time of year, so if you’re thinking about it, do it today before all the spots fill up!   So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Jake, and message me on Instagram to let me know what you think!   Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!  

On the surface you would think my guest Kimberly Berlin had a fancy life of privilege growing up in the south of France, attending Juillard studying ballet, and traveling all over the world. But behind the veil, was a life of abuse, abandonment and addiction.    Today she will share her personal story of addiction, her moment of clarity and how she recovered. We get into some of the problems she encountered with someone at the first 12 step meeting she went to that kept her away for 7 years, but how she ultimately found her way back.   Kimberly is now a licensed integrated psychotherapist and IFS practitioner to help people overcome addiction and trauma. We’re going to get into what IFS is and how it works as a modality for trauma therapy. I’ve been doing it myself as a client, and I can personally vouch for how productive it can be at resolving long standing negative behavior patterns.    Before we jump in, as usual, I have a couple of announcements. The first one is there is a new guide at Sober Life School.com for those who are just starting their sober journey called “How to quit drinking: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days”. It has advice on how to prepare your environment, how to navigate social situations and practical tips on how to prevent cravings or what to do when you feel tempted.    If you get it, you’ll also be added to my newsletter. I have a lot of big plans for 2024 and I can’t wait to share them with you! This includes partnerships with other well known teachers, including some NYT bestselling authors!    The newsletter is where I will be providing early access links to all the new classes and the Self-Help Junkie online meetings as well. I’ll announce it to people on my email list first, so make sure you get on it for early access and special bonuses.    That’s all for announcements, so without further delay, please enjoy this wide ranging conversation with Kimberly.    Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podcast Addict, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music, or on your favorite podcast platform. You can watch the interview on YouTube here. Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!     Connect with Kimberly here: Website: https://www.kimberleyberlin.com/  

“Ambien, when taken as prescribed works great. But basically when I took it, it did something I really liked and I immediately wanted more. My first thought after my first night of Ambien was ‘more please’... I couldn’t wait to go to sleep and that went on for years.” Laura Cathcart Robbins is the best-selling author of the Atria/Simon & Schuster memoir, Stash, My Life In Hiding, and host of the popular podcast, The Only One In The Room. She has been active for many years as a speaker and school trustee and is credited for creating The Buckley School’s nationally recognized committee on Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Justice. Her recent articles on the subjects of race, recovery, and divorce have garnered her worldwide acclaim. She is a 2022 TEDx Speaker, and LA Moth StorySlam winner. Currently, she sits on the advisory boards of the San Diego Writer’s Festival and the Outliers HQ podcast Festival Hi Friend, Welcome to the podcast. In case you’re new here, my name is Arlina and I’ll be your host. Before we get into it, I have a couple of resources for you. On my IG account @arlinaallen I am sharing tips from my new guide: How to quit drinking: 30 Tips for your first 30 Days. So be sure to follow me there if you are just starting your alcohol-free journey, share it with a friend, or just follow for daily sobriety inspo. You can also download the whole guide at soberlifeschool.com If you need a little extra support during the holiday season, you can join the free women’s facebook group, just search “The one day at a time Private Women’s Group”. And I’ll look forward to meeting you there!

My guest today has been sober for a whopping 37 years, which by itself is absolutely amazing, but it’s his practical approach to success in business that piqued my curiosity. His approach is really centered on winning the day using sobriety principles. It’s a combination of intention setting, habit stacking guided by a higher purpose.   Doug Fleener is the author of a book called “ The Day Makes the Year (Makes a Life): Transform your work and life with One-Day Success. Doug is a professional who has developed a way to apply recovery principles to business that he shares in his book.   But before we jump in. I’m excited to share that Sober Life School has been re-launched with a fancy new website! It’s a lot cleaner looking and has a new resource guide for you that I know will be very helpful for those wanting to quit drinking. The guide is called “How to Quit Drinking One Day At A Time: 30 Tips for your first 30 Days”. These tips cover everything from how to prep for alcohol-free living, how to avoid cravings, what to do if you feel triggered, how to manage your emotions, how to talk to friends and family and a lot more. You can get a free copy just by visiting soberlifeschool.com   This episode has a lot of really practical advice, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Doug and let me know what you think!   Connect with Doug here: Website: https://www.dougfleener.com/ Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Listen On:   Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/30g6ALF   Spotify https://odaatchat.libsyn.com/spotify   Amazon Music      Watch Full Episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/2UpR5Lo  

We’re doing something a little bit different today, which is to look at addiction through the lens of the family. I can't tell you how many times I’ve talked to the family members of someone struggling with drugs & alcohol who just want to know how to help and are feeling scared, angry and confused. Shoot, I’ve been there myself! It’s a really tough spot to be in.   So today I’m speaking with Dr. Carrie Wilkens about the outdated messaging that is currently being circulated, what actually hurts, and what to do instead. We are going to review solutions provided in her book Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change and the accompanying workbook with the tagline Evidence-based Skills to Help A Loved One Make Positive Change.    To give you a little insight as to what you can expect, I’m going to share an Excerpt from her blog about the myth of rock bottom:  “First, it promotes a belief that the change process cannot start until bottom is reached. It also implies that people won’t change unless they are “punished enough” by their own behavior that they see the light. Both of these assumptions could not be further from the truth and they have contributed to many treatment providers sending patients away and telling them to “come back when you’re ready.” It’s also contributed to family members and friends feeling like their only option is to step aside and watch their loved one suffer. Many opportunities for change and lives have been lost due to this flawed belief and culturally loaded statement.”   So good! I will leave a link in the show notes at odaatchat.com   The Myth of Rock Bottom - https://motivationandchange.com/who-needs-to-hit-rock-bottom/   I do have one quick announcement: There is a new resource available on my website called “How to Quit Drinking: 30 Tips for your first 30 Days”. It has practical strategies for getting started, how to avoid cravings, and what to do if you get a craving, and simple mindset hacks to get you through the day. You can download it for free at soberlifeschool.com.   I know this is going to be a great episode, so if you find it helpful or know someone who will, please share it.    Connect with Carrie here: Website: https://cmcffc.org/ Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Listen On:   Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/30g6ALF   Spotify https://odaatchat.libsyn.com/spotify   Amazon Music      Watch Full Episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/2UpR5Lo  

My guest today is a 2 time Grammy Award winner with 3 platinum albums, an Author, and Sober Advocate. I’m speaking of none other than Jim Sonefeld, drummer for Hootie and the Blowfish!   In this episode we talk about what it was like to ride the wave of fame after they got their big break on The David Letterman Show, and how he used alcohol to cope. We also talk about the pain of losing fame and his moment of clarity when his 4 year old daughter said 4 simple words to him.   But before we jump in, I have some resources for you. First is the bi-weekly podcast newsletter where you can get a digest of all the episodes, links to the show notes, and other resources that will support you on your journey to heal and thrive. To sign up, just visit SoberLifeSchool.com today!   And if you enjoy the podcast, please share with a friend, it’s the easiest way to support the podcast and I appreciate it more than you know!   I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Jim and let me know what you think!   Connect with Jim here: Website: https://jimsonefeld.com/wp/ Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Listen On:   Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/30g6ALF   Spotify https://odaatchat.libsyn.com/spotify   Amazon Music      Watch Full Episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/2UpR5Lo  

Today my guest is Dr Brooke Scheller, author of “How to Eat to Change How You Drink: Heal your gut, mend your mind and improve Nutrition to Change Your Relationship with Alcohol”.    On this podcast we talk a lot about psychology, family history, trauma, and all of the well known modalities for healing. Today we’re going to look at another approach that you can layer into your recovery practice - nutrition.   We first discuss Brooke’s own journey,  how her relationship with alcohol changed over the years to the point where she knew she had to stop and how she went on a quest to heal her body through nutrition. We discuss the quiz she has on her website to help Sober Curious people determine what kind of drinker they are and the specific healing modalities that work  best for each type.    We talk about the connection between protein and willpower and how to have proper nutrition to reduce cravings.   She also talked about how alcohol affects women in menopause and the link to breast cancer.   I learned a lot from Brooke in this conversation. I appreciate the scientific lens through which she sees alcohol use disorder and the tools she offers to help those struggling to find peace. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Brooke, and let me know what you think!   Connect with Brooke here: Website: https://www.functionalsobriety.com/ Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Listen On:   Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/30g6ALF   Spotify https://odaatchat.libsyn.com/spotify   Amazon Music      Watch Full Episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/2UpR5Lo  

Today I’m talking with Scott Strode, the Founder of The Phoenix, a Free Sober Active Community.    Scott is sharing his story of how trauma from his dysfunctional family, dyslexia and low self esteem lead to his addiction, and what he did to break the cycle. We talk about how The Phoenix came to be and all the ways that this organization is helping people recover in all 50 states, including people who are incarcerated.   Before we get started, I just have a small favor to ask. If you enjoy these conversations, it would mean the world to me if you shared this episode with a friend or subscribe to the YouTube channel. As the podcast grows, we can continue to bring on amazing guests that will help inspire you on your journey of healing.   And as always, if you need some free resources to get you started, like books, meditations, and even other recovery podcasts, you can visit soberlifeschool.com and join our monthly newsletter.   So that’s it for the intro! Please enjoy this episode with Scott Strode.   Connect with Scott here: Website: https://thephoenix.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/riserecoverlive/   Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Listen On:   Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/30g6ALF   Spotify https://odaatchat.libsyn.com/spotify   Amazon Music      Watch Full Episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/2UpR5Lo  

Of the 294 episodes I’ve published, I have to say this one feels like magic. BIG Magic. From the circumstances of how I met Elizabeth Gilbert, to the significance of the day we recorded the interview, it all felt magical. And I haven’t stopped thinking about this conversation since.    Just to give you a hint at how talented and brilliant she is, Eat, Pray, Love sold over 12 million copies and held the #1 spot on the NYT best seller list for over 6 months. If Wikipedia is correct, it lived on that list for 88 weeks! She was on The Oprah Winfrey show. If that isn’t impressive enough, Time Magazine included her on the 100 most influential people list in 2008.   Today she shares some of her experiences with writing the book that became a world-wide phenomenon, but also her recovery from sex and love addiction, and her experience with the 12 steps.    Just a heads up, we did have some technical issues about half way through but it’s not too bad.    I am so deeply honored to have her as a guest today. So, please enjoy this episode with Elizabeth Gilbert, and let me know what you think!   Connect with Elizabeth here: Website: https://elizabethgilbert.substack.com/   Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Listen On:   Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/30g6ALF   Spotify https://odaatchat.libsyn.com/spotify   Amazon Music      Watch Full Episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/2UpR5Lo  

Since we’re at the beginning of November, which is known as “Gratitude Month” I’m offering a free 30 day self love challenge in the One day at a time private women’s group. It is a daily post with simple suggestions like spend 5 minutes journaling, List 3 people who love you or take a hot bubble bath. I also like to share books, meditations and all kinds of recovery resources I find on the interwebs. So if you’re a woman and you’d like to join me, just search for the one day at a time private women’s group and I’ll see you there!   You are going to love my guest today. Chip Somers was described by Russell Brand in his book 'Recovery' as someone who has taught him that it was OK to talk about my feelings. That "he demonstrated that it was safe to be vulnerable and he was able to validate ideas I had about how to change my habits and suggest better ones."   He is the co-host of the “Soberful” podcast along with the beautiful and profoundly wise, Veronica Valle.   Chip has been sober for 39 years and today he shares his story of childhood sexual abuse, alcoholism, and drug addiction as well as his time in prison. Of course we talk about what he did to heal his trauma and what life is like now.   I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Chip and let me know what you think!   Connect with Chip here: Website: https://www.chipsomers.com/ Podcast: https://soberful.com/episodes/   Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes!   Listen On:   Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/30g6ALF   Spotify https://odaatchat.libsyn.com/spotify   Amazon Music      Watch Full Episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/2UpR5Lo