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Episode 101: Amberly Lago – Resilience, Pain, and the Power of Joy What if the worst moment of your life became the defining moment of your greatest strength? In this episode, I sit down with Amberly Lago, bestselling author, speaker, and resilience coach, to discuss her journey from near death to unstoppable success. Amberly shares how a life-altering motorcycle accident left her with a one percent chance of saving her leg, yet she defied the odds through grit, gratitude, and an unshakable mindset. After 34 surgeries, she rebuilt her life, proving that pain and joy can coexist—and that true resilience is forged in the hardest moments. Topics We Cover: The accident that changed everything—and the moment she chose to fight Overcoming excruciating pain, 34 surgeries, and an incurable nerve disease How gratitude is the fastest way to shift perspective and overcome suffering The PACER Method—Amberly’s framework for resilience, healing, and growth Why community and proximity are the real shortcuts to success How Amberly’s latest book, Joy Through the Journey, is redefining happiness The power of asking for what you want and the mindset shift behind it Get Amberly’s New Book: Joy Through the Journey Connect with Amberly: Website: AmberlyLago.comInstagram: @AmberlyLagoMotivationPodcast: True Grit & Grace Support the Podcast: Leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Share this with someone who needs to hear it Subscribe for more deep conversations on mindset, resilience, and personal transformation Listen Now: Apple / Spotify PodcastsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Jbirdfit  To connect with Jason and sign up for The 21 Day Love and Abundance Challenge Starting March 1st LIVE! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit  Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary. https://988lifeline.org/ 

 🎙 EPISODE 100! We're celebrating this milestone with a powerful conversation featuring AK Dozanti, former law enforcement officer, coach, speaker, and author of Beat the Burnout: Prevention and Recovery Solutions for Frontline Professionals. Burnout is a silent epidemic in first responder careers, yet it's often ignored or normalized. In this episode, AK and I dive into the realities of first responder mental health, nervous system regulation, and the process of rebuilding after burnout. We discuss unpacking trauma, recognizing burnout before it’s too late, and how to reset your nervous system for long-term resilience. Key Takeaways from This Episode: The Signs of Burnout No One Talks About – How to identify them before they take over your life. The Role of Childhood Trauma in First Responder Careers – Why many enter the profession already carrying emotional weight. Practical Strategies for Nervous System Regulation – Small daily habits that make a massive impact. The Journey of Writing a Book & Coaching First Responders – AK’s personal experience of transforming adversity into impact. The Culture Shift in Law Enforcement Mental Health – Are we making progress, and what still needs to change? If you're a first responder or someone struggling with burnout, this episode is a must-listen. 📖 Get AK Dozanti’s book, Beat the Burnout, and learn how to prevent, recognize, and recover from burnout before it’s too late: akadizanti.com Connect with AK Dozanti:Website: akadizanti.comInstagram: @akdozanti Listen & Subscribe:📌 Apple & Spotify Podcasts: https://stan.store/Jbirdfit 📌 YouTube: Link To connect with Jason and sign up for The 21 Day Love and Abundance Challenge Starting March 1st LIVE! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit  Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary. https://988lifeline.org/ 

Tanner Chidester went from struggling entrepreneur to scaling multiple seven and eight-figure businesses—but after hitting $1M/month, he realized something was missing. In this episode, we dive deep into his journey, from early hustle to high-ticket coaching success, and the hard lessons about money, fulfillment, and business scalability. Tanner reveals why most entrepreneurs stall at six figures, how to pivot when strategies stop working, and what separates business owners who plateau from those who scale past $1M/month. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The mindset shift Tanner made after hitting $1M/month✔️ Why coaching & consulting businesses have an income ceiling✔️ The biggest hiring mistakes that prevent business growth✔️ How to scale past $100K/month (most entrepreneurs get this wrong)✔️ The future of AI in business, content, and marketing✔️ Why high-ticket is actually easier to sell than low-ticket If you’re scaling your business, struggling with sales, or looking for your next big pivot, this episode is packed with insights from someone who’s done it at the highest level. DM @tanner.chidester on Instagram with "Blueprint Podcast" to connect. Listen on Apple, Spotify, and YouTubeSubscribe, leave a review, and share this episode! Key Takeaways & Lessons from the Episode 1. The “Million a Month” Realization: Money Won’t Fix Everything Tanner hit $1M/month, threw a huge party, and quickly realized… no one cared. After sacrificing friendships, relationships, and free time, he started questioning what actually mattered. His new goal: Building businesses that don’t just make money, but also fuel personal growth and freedom. 2. Why Coaching & Consulting Won’t Make You a Billionaire High-ticket coaching is great for cash flow, but bad for scale because it requires manual fulfillment. After interviewing ultra-high-net-worth individuals, Tanner found that billion-dollar businesses have: Private Equity: Buying & scaling businesses. Hedge Funds: Managing investor capital at scale. Tech & SaaS: Low-overhead, high-leverage products. If freedom & scalability matter, you need a business that delivers consistent value without constant effort. 3. The 80/20 Rule for Pivoting When Business Strategies Stop Working Many entrepreneurs panic and completely overhaul their strategies too quickly. Instead, test new strategies gradually → Keep 80% of your budget/resources in what’s still working and 20% in testing new approaches. Example: If spending $10K/month on ads, keep $8K in proven methods, $2K for testing. 4. Scaling from $100K to $1M: Why Most Entrepreneurs Stall 0-100K/month: Can be brute-forced with hard work and personal effort. 100K-1M/month: Requires hiring, delegation, and team leadership. Biggest mistake: Entrepreneurs think “working harder” will grow their business. Instead, success depends on acquiring & keeping high-level talent. If your team can’t execute at a high level, your business will hit a ceiling. 5. Organic vs. Paid Traffic: What’s Actually Working in 2025? If you don’t have money for ads: Create engaging content that starts inbound conversations. Cold outreach – Manually message potential leads. Content Strategy Tanner Recommends: Case Studies → Show testimonials & proof. Value Posts → Teach something people can use immediately. Lifestyle (optional) → Build relatability & trust. Why high-ticket is easier to sell: Fewer sales needed to hit revenue goals. Perceived value increases when pricing is positioned correctly. 6. The Truth About Instagram Shoutouts & Boosted Posts Do shoutouts still work? → Not as well as before. Best for B2C (fitness, lifestyle brands), not B2B (coaching, consulting). Better alternative? → Boosted posts with DM automations (ex: “Comment ‘Blueprint’ for a free training”). Rule of thumb: If it doesn’t bring a direct return, it’s not worth it. 7. AI in Business & Content Creation: What’s Useful Right Now? AI is great for copywriting, DM automation, and content ideation. Not replacing human storytelling anytime soon. Best use case: Automating repetitive tasks to free up time. Final Thoughts & What to Do Next Tanner Chidester has built, scaled, and pivoted multiple businesses to seven and eight figures. His biggest lesson? Money alone won’t fix your problems—but the right strategy will give you both freedom and financial success. Want to grow your business? DM Tanner @tanner.chidester on Instagram with "Blueprint Podcast." If you got value from this episode, share it, subscribe, and leave a review! Available on Apple, Spotify, YouTube and anywhere you listen to podcasts.  To connect with Jason and sign up for The 21 Day Love and Abundance Challenge Starting March 1st LIVE! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit  Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary. https://988lifeline.org/ 

  Synopsis In this solo episode, Jason Smith breaks down what happens when you start stepping into your truth—why it makes people uncomfortable, how to navigate criticism, and what it really takes to grow without shrinking in the face of projections. If you’ve ever felt the weight of other people’s opinions holding you back, this episode is for you. Key Topics Covered The emotional and social cost of growth Why expansion creates resistance (from others and within yourself) Understanding the difference between healthy feedback and projection How to build your capacity for uncertainty Why faceless critics are often the loudest Practical strategies to navigate criticism without shrinking Key Takeaways Growth triggers people—not because of you, but because it forces them to reflect on their own stagnation. Uncertainty is a skill—the more you expose yourself to it, the stronger your capacity becomes. Most criticism is projection—don’t internalize what someone else hasn’t processed for themselves. Your energy is valuable—learn when to engage and when to walk away. Powerful Questions to Ask Yourself Where am I shrinking because of other people’s opinions? Am I waiting for permission to be fully seen? What would I do differently if I truly trusted myself? Resources & Next Steps Join The Antares Society – A coaching group for those who refuse to stay stuck. Get access to weekly calls, a private community, and exclusive content. Sign Up for The Breakthrough Mindset Newsletter – Weekly insights, actionable exercises, and deep dives into personal development. Catch Up on Past Episodes – Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube. 21-Day Love & Abundance Challenge – Starts March 1st. Don’t miss this opportunity to reset, refocus, and level up. Sign up in the Stan Store. If this episode resonated with you, do three things: Rate and review the podcast—it helps spread the message. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. Tag Jason on Instagram @jbirdfit with your biggest takeaway. Growth isn’t comfortable, but it’s always worth it. Step into your next level. Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary. https://988lifeline.org/ 

In this episode of The Blueprint Podcast, Jason welcomes Ciara Devereux, a licensed psychotherapist, trauma, grief, and loss specialist, and public speaker based in San Francisco. With a background spanning addiction recovery, post-incarceration rehabilitation, and relationship counseling, Ciara brings a wealth of experience to the conversation. She shares how her own personal journey led her into the mental health space, emphasizing the importance of radical self-ownership and the power of rewriting the stories we tell ourselves. Together, Jason and Ciara dive deep into why people-pleasing keeps so many stuck in cycles of external validation and self-sacrifice. They explore the hidden cost of avoiding conflict, the role of shame in shaping identity, and how unprocessed emotions often manifest as anger, anxiety, and avoidance. Ciara introduces the concept of “if you spot it, you got it,” explaining how our triggers reveal deep-seated wounds and offer opportunities for growth. The discussion shifts to relationships and attachment, breaking down the anxious-avoidant cycle and why so many people mistake familiarity for love. Ciara challenges the narrative of waiting for external validation and explains why true transformation begins with internal work. She also provides insight into why boundary-setting is difficult and how men, in particular, struggle to advocate for their own needs due to societal conditioning. As the conversation unfolds, Jason and Ciara examine grief, trauma, and the misconceptions surrounding healing. They discuss why grief is often misunderstood, how to recognize its presence in everyday life, and why people unknowingly carry unresolved loss into relationships and decision-making. Ciara shares strategies for self-regulation, including how shifting internal narratives can create a foundation for lasting change. The episode concludes with an exploration of the future of mental health and the shift toward self-healing. Ciara emphasizes the need for emotional literacy, particularly for men, and highlights the importance of building real-life community and mentorship. She challenges the traditional approach to therapy, advocating for a more holistic and empowering model that places individuals in control of their own healing. For those looking to connect with Ciara, she can be found on TikTok and Instagram under RealTalkTherapy. She also offers coaching for individuals navigating relational distress and personal transformation. To join Jason’s free men’s community, The Antares Society, or explore his coaching programs, visit the link in his bio. This episode is packed with insight, practical tools, and hard-hitting truths about self-awareness, relationships, and overcoming past conditioning. If you found value in this conversation, consider sharing it with someone who needs it and leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. Connect with Ciara!  To connect with Jason and sign up for The Ultimate Self-Love and Secure Attachment Program click the link below! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit  Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary. https://988lifeline.org/ 

In this episode of The Blueprint Podcast, Jason Smith welcomes back Paola Michelle for an inspiring conversation about self-discovery, healing, and authenticity. Paola shares her transformative journey of moving to California, where she faced solitude, overcame challenges, and discovered deeper truths about herself. She reflects on the lessons learned, including the importance of embracing loneliness as a gift, releasing codependency, and building a foundation of independence. Together, Jason and Paola explore the power of integration, reframing healing as a process of self-acceptance and growth rather than a linear journey. Paola discusses her approach to authenticity in content creation, sharing how she stays true to herself while navigating judgment and embracing the creative process. She candidly addresses the commercialization of spirituality, the need for discernment when choosing guides and practices, and the importance of grounding oneself in real-life experiences. Humor also plays a vital role in her life and content, providing balance and connection during challenging times. This episode highlights key insights about living in alignment, making intentional choices, and showing up as the most integrated version of yourself. Paola and Jason also dive into the transformative power of mindfulness, the impact of what we consume, and the importance of being present in the moment. Paola shares her future aspirations for content creation, focusing on real-life struggles, relationships, and creating a deeper connection with her audience. Whether you're navigating your own journey of self-discovery or looking for inspiration to embrace authenticity, this episode is packed with wisdom, humor, and practical advice. Tune in to learn how to cultivate resilience, embrace solitude, and create a life rooted in purpose and self-awareness. Key Takeaway: You’re always in a state of becoming, and the choices you make each day shape who you are and who you will become. It’s time to align with your highest self and take steps toward living authentically. Connect with Paola!  To connect with Jason and sign up for The Ultimate Self-Love and Secure Attachment Program click the link below! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit  Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary. https://988lifeline.org/   

In Episode 95 of The Blueprint Podcast, Jason sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Talia Bombola for an honest, raw, and empowering conversation about personal growth, healing, and transformation. As the year comes to a close, many people set big goals for the new year, often aiming to “fix” everything at once. But Talia offers a refreshing perspective — it’s not about healing from being broken, it’s about learning to adapt and grow. They discuss the power of radical accountability, how to navigate life’s inevitable challenges, and why "doing the work" doesn’t mean overhauling your entire life overnight. Talia breaks down the stages of conscious change, the concept of self-sabotage, and the need to stop viewing ourselves as "broken." Instead, she encourages us to see ourselves as people who are always adapting, always evolving, and always capable of more than we realize. This episode will leave you with a powerful message: You are not broken. You are becoming. If you’re stepping into a season of change, preparing for 2025, or simply want to understand yourself on a deeper level, this episode is filled with practical tools and thought-provoking insights. Listen now to learn how to: Shift from "healing" to "adapting" Navigate the tricky terrain of relationships when you grow but others don’t Recognize and break free from the victim mentality Develop radical self-accountability and personal agency Understand how childhood programming impacts adult decisions This episode is a wake-up call for anyone ready to rewrite their narrative, drop the victim label, and step into their authentic, most powerful self. Connect with Us: Host: Jason Smith Guest: Talia Bombola, LMFT Social Media Links: Follow The Blueprint Podcast on Instagram, and Facebook. Contact Us: Have questions or topics you’d like us to cover? Reach out through my Stan Store! Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary. https://988lifeline.org/ 

Episode Description: In this powerful episode of The Blueprint Podcast, we’re joined by bestselling author, entrepreneur, and creative force Brittany Bacinski. Brittany’s journey is one of resilience, creativity, and bold defiance of societal expectations. She’s the author of Reaching for Driftwood, On His Way Back to Me, and co-author of Hippie Eats. Her works have captured hearts worldwide and are now making their way to the big screen. We dive into Brittany’s incredible evolution from a small-town girl with big dreams to a self-published bestseller with a film deal on the way. She shares her journey through divorce, self-discovery, and the power of following her intuition—even when it defied logic. Brittany’s philosophy of "being a defiant human" is a recurring theme throughout the episode as she shares her lessons on love, independence, and creating a career outside of the traditional mold. Key Topics in This Episode: Brittany’s journey to becoming an author: How she channeled childhood trauma into creative energy. Writing Reaching for Driftwood and On His Way Back to Me: The process of turning life’s hardest lessons into art. How Brittany’s Reaching for Driftwood and her upcoming TV/film adaptation came to be. Age-gap relationships, attachment styles, and the complexities of love and dating. Navigating the "fearful avoidant" attachment style and how it’s impacted her romantic relationships. The origins of "The Defiant Human" brand and how it became a driving force in Brittany’s life. Brittany’s disciplined approach to fitness, self-care, and life’s daily challenges. Her journey of self-publishing her books and how TikTok played a major role in building her audience. Manifesting dreams on your own terms and overcoming "gatekeepers" in traditional publishing. Guest Bio:Brittany Bacinski is a bestselling author, entrepreneur, and host of The Defiant Human podcast. Her books include the memoir Reaching for Driftwood, the novel On His Way Back to Me, and the co-authored plant-based cookbook Hippie Eats. Known for her unfiltered honesty and "defiant human" philosophy, Brittany’s story is a testament to the power of intuition, self-determination, and creative passion. From self-publishing success to landing a movie deal, Brittany’s path has been anything but ordinary—and she wouldn’t have it any other way. Follow Brittany Bacinski: Website: www.brittanybacinski.com Instagram: @brittanybacinski TikTok: @brittanybacinski Enjoyed this episode? Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. If you’re looking for inspiration to live authentically, take control of your story, and defy the odds, this episode is for you. Get ready for deep insights and candid moments that will leave you feeling inspired and ready to write your next chapter. To connect with Jason and sign up for The Ultimate Self-Love and Secure Attachment Program click the link below! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit  Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary. https://988lifeline.org/ 

Episode Summary: In this episode of The Blueprint Podcast, Jason sits down with the one and only Cathy Heller — renowned teacher, bestselling author, and host of the top-rated podcast Abundant Ever After with over 45 million downloads. Cathy shares her powerful philosophy on abundance, manifestation, and the "Law of Reception." This episode dives into deep, practical wisdom for anyone feeling stuck, unworthy, or unsure how to tap into their potential. Cathy reveals how to overcome feelings of lack, release old programming, and rewire the mind to receive more abundance in every area of life. They explore how to cultivate authentic power, find creative flow, and become the person who can hold the blessings that are already waiting for you. With personal stories, relatable metaphors, and actionable insights, Cathy provides a guide to stepping into alignment, trusting your inner wisdom, and living a life of deeper fulfillment and love. Whether you’re struggling to believe abundance is available to you, feeling stuck in your career, or seeking a sense of purpose and joy, this episode is packed with tools to help you shift from scarcity to abundance. Tune in to learn how to become a vessel for infinite possibility and how to access your true creative genius. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction to Cathy Heller and the themes of the episode 3:45 - Jason’s reflections on Cathy’s new book, Abundant Ever After 7:30 - What inspired Cathy to write Abundant Ever After and what she hopes readers take away from it 12:50 - Why feeling "unworthy" is a false story we’ve been conditioned to believe 18:40 - How to recognize when your ego is in control and shift to a state of flow 25:10 - The "Law of Reception" explained and how to expand your capacity to receive 30:45 - Why abundance is our natural design (and how nature reveals this truth) 37:20 - How triggers from others are actually opportunities for growth and self-reflection 43:55 - Cathy's personal journey through music, pivots in her career, and lessons on following intuition 52:15 - Why alignment impacts every part of your life, from career to relationships 58:10 - How to overcome the fear of "not being enough" and give yourself permission to thrive 1:05:45 - Why manifestation is about energy and alignment, not just "positive thinking" 1:10:20 - The power of checking in with yourself daily and setting "intention alarms" 1:16:45 - The Christmas lights story and the lesson about capacity and holding abundance 1:22:30 - The takeaway: How to begin expanding your capacity to receive abundance today 1:26:15 - How to connect with Cathy Heller and join her 21-day challenge Key Takeaways: The Law of Reception: Abundance isn’t something you "attract" — it’s something you "receive" by expanding your capacity. Just like a light bulb’s wattage, you’re only able to hold as much energy (wealth, love, joy) as your internal circuitry allows. The Power of Flow State: When you’re aligned and in flow, everything you desire is drawn to you naturally. Flow state can be achieved by rewiring old mental programs and stepping into a mindset of limitless possibility. Triggers Are Teachers: If someone’s success triggers you, it’s an opportunity to notice what’s unresolved within yourself. Use that moment to reflect, realign, and grow. Energy Dictates Results: Your energy sets the frequency you’re tuned into, and life’s blessings (people, opportunities, and success) are drawn to that frequency. Raise your energy and watch your life shift. You Are the Wizard: Like in The Wizard of Oz, you are the one with the power to shift your reality. No one is coming to "save" you — you have everything you need to create the life you want. Quotes to Highlight: “Every tree, every eagle, every living being is designed to thrive. So are you.” - Cathy Heller “If you’re feeling unworthy, it’s not because something’s wrong with you — it’s because something’s right with you. You’re meant for more.” - Cathy Heller “The more you receive, the more you give. That’s how abundance works.” - Cathy Heller “There’s no wizard of Oz — you’re the wizard.” - Cathy Heller “Every single time you’re in overflow, your joy spills over to the people around you. The world needs more people walking around with full cups.” - Cathy Heller Where to Find Cathy Heller: Podcast: Abundant Ever After (Available on all podcast platforms) Website: cathyheller.com Instagram: @cathy.heller Book: Abundant Ever After — Available wherever books are sold Join Cathy’s 21-Day Challenge: Start your most abundant year on January 1st with Cathy’s 21-day manifestation challenge. Learn how to access flow state, receive more abundance, and break free from scarcity thinking. Details here. Subscribe to The Blueprint Podcast: If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Your support helps bring more amazing guests like Cathy Heller to the show. To connect with Jason and sign up for The Ultimate Self-Love and Secure Attachment Program click the link below! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit  Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary. https://988lifeline.org/ 

On this episode of The Blueprint Podcast, Jason Smith welcomes Dr. Taylor Burrowes, a relationship coach and creator of the transformative "vetting system" for dating. In this insightful conversation, Dr. Burrowes shares her expert approach to vetting potential partners, overcoming dating challenges, and building stronger, healthier relationships. Jason and Dr. Burrowes discuss the biggest struggles men face in dating today, the dangers of chasing superficial connections, and how men can reclaim their confidence. Dr. Burrowes emphasizes the importance of compatibility beyond chemistry, emotional regulation, and the power of discernment in both dating and life. From navigating long-distance relationships to understanding attachment styles, this episode offers essential advice for men (and women) seeking meaningful relationships. Dr. Burrowes also dives into her own personal journey as a former licensed mental health counselor turned relationship coach and new mom, sharing how her experiences shape the unique perspective she offers her clients. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or striving for personal growth, this episode is packed with actionable strategies to help you build better relationships and become the person you’re meant to be. What You'll Learn: The Vetting System - How to apply logic, desire, and love to find the right partner. Dr. Burrowes explains her tried-and-true system for selecting partners and making sound relationship decisions. The Importance of Compatibility - Learn how to assess compatibility early in the dating process, looking beyond surface-level attraction. Avoiding Dating Pitfalls - Discover the common traps people fall into during the dating process, such as "professional dating" and attachment system manipulation. Emotional Regulation - Dr. Burrowes explains the importance of recognizing when you’re dysregulated and how to use upregulation and downregulation techniques to find calm in difficult moments. Healthy Boundaries in Relationships - Learn how to establish healthy boundaries with exes, opposite-sex friends, and in new relationships. Long-Distance Relationships - Tips for navigating long-distance dating successfully, including how often you should meet in person and why constant texting can be problematic. Why Men Struggle in Modern Dating - A discussion on why older men often feel insecure about their attractiveness, and how to develop confidence through self-improvement and intentionality. Social Media Vetting - Advice on how to use social media to present yourself authentically and vet potential partners without falling into the trap of "over-sharing" or "online stalking." Breaking Toxic Relationship Cycles - How to identify and avoid toxic relationship patterns, as well as Dr. Burrowes’ approach to helping clients break free from these cycles. Accountability and Self-Growth - Learn why taking personal responsibility for your growth is essential for finding a long-term partner. Memorable Quotes: "Logic, desire, and love. If you have all three, you’re on your way to an ideal relationship." — Dr. Taylor Burrowes "Stop trying to impress people or chase people. The most important relationships come from being authentically you." — Dr. Taylor Burrowes "Vulnerability for men is not oversharing your life story on the first date. It’s being authentic, honest, and grounded in who you are." — Jason Smith "You’re not supposed to fix people you’re dating. Vet them well enough in the beginning so you’re not signing up for a project." — Dr. Taylor Burrowes About Dr. Taylor Burrowes: Dr. Taylor Burrowes is a former licensed mental health counselor who transitioned into relationship coaching to help individuals and couples achieve fulfilling, long-lasting love. She’s best known for her "vetting system" that teaches people how to assess compatibility and alignment with potential partners. Dr. Burrowes works primarily with men, offering direct, no-nonsense guidance. As a new mom, she’s also navigating the world of family life while continuing to provide value to her clients and audience through social media and one-on-one coaching. How to Connect with Dr. Taylor Burrowes: Instagram: @taylorburrowes Website: DrTaylorBurrowes.com X: @TaylorBurrowes To connect with Jason and sign up for The Ultimate Self-Love and Secure Attachment Program click the link below! https://stan.store/Jbirdfit  Disclaimer: The training is intended for informational and educational purposes, it is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, and/or treatment. Please consult your medical professional before making changes to your diet, exercise routine, medical regimen, lifestyle, and/or mental health care. Your background, education, experience, and work ethic may differ. There is no guarantee of success. Individuals do not track the typicality of its student's experiences. Your results may vary. https://988lifeline.org/