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In the second of two episodes, Coach Vern Tompke from Finding Traction joins me, as we complete this list of 12 provocations designed to challenge your recovery thinking. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/337 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

My book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn, is known for its provocative statement, “Porn is not the problem for us. It's the solution.” In the first of two episodes, Coach Vern Tompke from Finding Traction joins me, as I share 12 more provocations aimed at challenging your recovery thinking. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/336 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

Join Matt and Sam Dobschuetz as they read listener letters celebrating 10 years of Porn Free Radio. Take hope and take action! Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/335 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

Do you see yourself as broken or an addict? Then this episode is for you. Over the last 10 years, I have had a shift in my thinking;  I have moved away from diagnosing and pathologizing porn behaviors (disease model.) And I moved towards a choice/ownership model. I invite the guys I work with to examine their choices, define problematic behaviors, developing their why for going porn free, and come up with creative solutions to solve their challenges. I treat guys from day one as whole people with the capacity and capability to form new habits and change their relationship with porn. This is part 9 in our series, The Choice is Yours. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/334 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

Before recovery, I lived a divided life. I hid anything I found unacceptable from my friends and family including my problematic porn use. On the surface, I presented a "nice guy" version of myself to be liked and accepted. It was exhausting and painfully lonely. In recovery, my why is "to be the same on the inside as on the outside." But this requires honesty. This is part 8 in our series, The Choice is Yours. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/333 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

We've all heard the phrase, “Fact vs. Fiction.” But a friend of mine said it should be “Fact vs. Fear.” It's fear that often leads us to our escapism and avoidance with porn. This is part 7 in our new series, The Choice is Yours.  Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/332   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching  

Is stress based on our perception or is it objective? That was question we discussed in a recent REV group. The stressful situations guys described had one surprising thing in common. And it might change the way you look at stress.  On this episode, we break down stress and examine what helps us return to calm.  This is part 6 in our series, The Choice is Yours. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/331   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching  

“You're either working on recovery or you're working on relapse” ― Old guy at my recovery meeting  Coach Vern Tompke sits in on Porn Free Radio to talk about the line between recovery and relapse.  This is part 5 in our series, The Choice is Yours. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/330   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching  

MMA coach, Firas Zahabi, emphasizes that consistency in training beats intensity. Consistency is where we build skill and endurance without burning out. And our training volume over time leads to mastery. This powerful concept can be applied to our recovery. This is part 4 in our series, The Choice is Yours. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/329   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching  

When you started recovery, the challenge was overwhelming (high) and your skill level was low. And chances are if you have not significantly changed your habits, the challenge feels about the same. For a long time the only tool in your tool box was willpower. Some version of "JUST SAY NO." But often willpower is easily exhausted. It gives out when we need it most. What if I told you success in recovery is not about increasing your willpower, it's about building skills. This is part 3 in our series, The Choice is Yours. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/328   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching