The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
I'm Dr. Margaret, a psychologist for over 30 years, TEDx speaker, and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. I created The SelfWork Podcast in 2016 to explain mental health treatment and to give you the chance to consider therapy without thinking it's weird or that it somehow suggests you can't fix your own problems. My team is very honored that nine years later, SelfWork has earned nearly 5 million downloads! Each episode features the popular listener question as well as interviews with outstanding guests, authors, and experts, adding to the wide diversity of topics listeners so appreciate. Regularly rated as one of the top mental health/depression podcasts out there (ranked as a top .5% internationally) I keep it short, casual, and focused on "what you can do about it." I'd love to hear from you. Please join me.
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Apr 30, 2017 • 21min
020 SelfWork: Why Risk Vulnerability?
Vulnerability is the presence of a sensitivity, a painful hurt or a struggle. In this episode of SelfWork, Dr. Margaret explores how recognizing your vulnerability is pragmatically important in managing mental illness. Accepting and revealing these tender aspects of yourself is also vital in deeply connecting with others, and with developing a greater understanding of […] The post 020 SelfWork: Why Risk Vulnerability? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Apr 23, 2017 • 22min
019 SelfWork: Narcissism And How To Cope With It
Understanding narcissism is difficult. But if you’re a person who’s trying to love someone with a lack of empathy, the tendency to be quite self-involved, and to need an incredible amount of attention or praise, he or she could have narcissism. It’s vital to know what it is and how it affects relationships. What’s important […] The post 019 SelfWork: Narcissism And How To Cope With It appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Apr 13, 2017 • 24min
018 SelfWork: Facing Change – Both Welcome And Unwelcome
Change, whether it’s welcome and wanted, or unwelcome and difficult, involves stress. Today’s podcast is about living with both kinds, as well as the sometimes bizarre ways people try to avoid the reality of change. What are the most stressful life transitions for adults and children? And what is the most successful way people can […] The post 018 SelfWork: Facing Change – Both Welcome And Unwelcome appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Apr 6, 2017 • 25min
017 SelfWork: How Do We Fight The Stigma Of Mental Illness
What do Bruce Springsteen (The Boss), Jay Guillermo (collegiate football player), Kid Cude (rapper) and Princess Diana (not the Disney kind) all have in common? They’ve suffered with chronic mental illness, revealed it, and talked openly about it. Prejudice against mental illness is alive and well, but we can all fight it, both within ourselves, […] The post 017 SelfWork: How Do We Fight The Stigma Of Mental Illness appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Mar 27, 2017 • 22min
016 SelfWork: What Is So Hard About Couples Therapy?
Individual therapy can be emotionally difficult, although well worth it. Couples therapy? In some ways, it’s even harder, as two people who are more or less demoralized try to remedy problems that have been around for quite a while. With both nurturing and directness, Dr. Margaret identifies the four major signs of relationship disaster (researched […] The post 016 SelfWork: What Is So Hard About Couples Therapy? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Mar 21, 2017 • 20min
015 SelfWork: What Keeps You From Leaving
Abusive relationships, whether the abuse is emotional, physical or sexual, can be extremely difficult to leave. Yet many people will shrug their shoulders, saying, “If someone treated me like that, I’d be out the door.” What is that old saying? “Walk a mile in my shoes….”. This podcast is all about the complication of abusive […] The post 015 SelfWork: What Keeps You From Leaving appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Mar 8, 2017 • 21min
014 SelfWork: When Gratitude Backfires
Gratitude is a wonderful thing, right? It definitely is when it’s demonstrated and expressed in relationships, whether they be an intimate one, a good friend, or even perhaps with perfect strangers. But can it be a problem? Today we’ll be talking about the importance of gratitude in partnerships, especially when there are children involved. Two […] The post 014 SelfWork: When Gratitude Backfires appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Feb 27, 2017 • 17min
013 SelfWork: What To Expect When You’re Divorcing
Divorce is tough, no matter how amicable. If you or someone you love is considering divorce, this episode of SelfWork will walk you through what you may be able to expect. Dr. Margaret offers some surprising facts about divorce, and reveals six ways to be your best self during what can be a difficult life […] The post 013 SelfWork: What To Expect When You’re Divorcing appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Feb 19, 2017 • 20min
012 SelfWork: How To Become An Emotional Grownup
What does it mean to feel emotionally grown up? Feeling mature, decisive, not being reactive but responsive, having insight into our own behavior and changing that behavior when it’s appropriate – when we can do these things, we are acting in our adult selves. So much of how or how long that takes depends on what […] The post 012 SelfWork: How To Become An Emotional Grownup appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Feb 7, 2017 • 23min
011 SelfWork: The Emotionally Abusive Mother
Emotional abuse is very real for many, When it comes from a parent, the damage done can horrific and life-altering. This is a complex issue — and Dr. Margaret talks about it with understanding and compassion for all involved Today’s post describes a mother who meets criteria for what’s termed Borderline Personality Disorder, (BPD) which is a way […] The post 011 SelfWork: The Emotionally Abusive Mother appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
