The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I speak with the brilliant Neuroscientist, Best-Selling Author, Sex Therapist, & Licensed Psychotherapist Dr. Nan Wise. During this conversation, we dive into the fascinating and transformative topic of "The Neuroscience of Pleasure and Happiness," uncovering how our brains are beautifully designed for connection, joy, and emotional well-being. Along the way, Dr. Wise shares her inspiring journey from therapist to scientist, sparked by her deep curiosity about the powerful impact of pleasure on mental and emotional health. We also explore essential topics like overcoming sexual anxiety, fostering deeper, more authentic relationships, and navigating the challenges of our tech-driven world. Packed with wisdom and insight, this episode gives you some practical takeaways, including powerful exercises like "sensate focus" to reconnect with your body and mindfulness techniques to nurture more fulfilling, joyful connections in your life. Connect with Dr. Nan Author: Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding The Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life Website: https://askdoctornan.com Instatgram @AskDoctorNan Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode, I sit down with Certified Erotic Blueprints Coach and Somatic Sexological Bodyworker Ayce Kypton. Ayce shares his inspiring journey from growing up as a conservative, Republican Christian kid to living an erotically liberated lifestyle as a trans-masculine individual. Together, we explore his passion for somatic embodiment and reclaiming pleasure. Along the way, we dive into the importance of creating safe spaces—especially for LGBTQ individuals—to reconnect with their desires and express their needs openly. Ayce opens up about his personal journey of sexual self-discovery, revealing how approaches like the Erotic Blueprints and sexological bodywork helped shift his focus from pain to pleasure. Ayce teaches more about the five Erotic Blueprints and how they can enhance relationships and personal fulfillment. This conversation is packed with personal insights, practical advice, and a powerful reminder of the transformative impact of embracing pleasure without shame. Listen in on this engaging episode! Connect with Ayce https://www.aycekyptyn.com/somaticsexology Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ayce_kyptyn/ Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with holistic mental health pioneer, Annie Boheler. Annie introduces us to the concept of relationship anarchy– a uniquely refreshing approach to relationships that balances chaos and order, recognizing the full range of connections equally. Hear about the influence of drawing from her extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration. Annie's extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration influences how she views the range and styles of relationships and the varying factors that play an impactful role to our experiences of autonomy and intimacy. Along the way, we explore her insights on dealing with societal norms like monogamy, and the importance of consent and authentic communication while healing relationships. We also discuss the pervasive impacts of shame and information overload, and how to navigate modern challenges in our relationships. Throughout the conversation, Annie offers us actionable steps to enhance connection and cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Connect with Annie https://lovagesomatics.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewildingintimacy/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@wellnessgeneralist1318 Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Author & Polyamory Educator Kevin Patterson exploring the world of non-monogamy. During this conversation, we delve into the nuances of polyamory, debunking stereotypes, and discussing the importance of clear communication and respect in non-monogamous relationships. Kevin's personal experiences, from navigating long-term relationships to balancing family and social dynamics, offer valuable insights for anyone exploring life outside the bounds of monogamy. We also get into the challenges of balancing multiple relationship dynamics, maintaining personal interests, self-care and parenthood. Kevin speaks to race and representation in the polyamorous community, emphasizing that acknowledging racial differences can enrich our understanding of one another. Kevin's thoughtful approach to identity, power dynamics, and personal customization of relationships promises to be both enlightening and transformative. Whether you are polyamory-curious or poly-experienced, this conversation is rich with valuable tips and perspectives to nurture healthy polyamorous relationships and foster more inclusive communities. Connect with Kevin https://www.kevinapatterson.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/polyrolemodels Get the Books https://www.kevinapatterson.com/books Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with BDSM educator and creator of Dom Sub Living, Alesandra Madison. We delve into the dynamic world of Dom/Sub relationships, exploring how BDSM can be both healing and beneficial for partnership. Alesandra shares a bit of her journey into BDSM as a lifestyle, giving us some invaluable insights into the importance of open communication, mutual respect, and regular check-ins in maintaining healthy relationships. We talk about different styles of BDSM partnership, safety, finding partners, kink in modern culture and how to get started with BDSM. We also discuss the challenges of balancing a BDSM lifestyle with everyday responsibilities like family and finance. Alesandra tells about the importance of self-care rituals to stay aligned with one's role and gives us a glimpse into some of her personal practices. This conversation is chock full of tips and tidbits from talking to the kids about what they might discover to finding a BDSM partner and everything in between. Plus, Alesandra gives us a ton of resources from her free library on DomsubLiving.com, and gives us a sneak hint at her upcoming four-day challenge. Don't miss this enlightening conversation filled with practical advice and heartfelt stories to help you navigate your BDSM journey. Connect with Alesandra https://www.instagram.com/domsubliving/ Free Resource Library Domsubliving.com/free Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with Pamela Madsen, a true pioneer in women's sexual wellness and founder of the "Back to the Body Method." We dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence, self-love, and how women can reclaim their erotic energy for more than just sexual expression—as a vital force in all areas of life. Along the way, Pamela shares her journey, from her roots in the Bronx to creating immersive retreats in Joshua Tree that help women explore their bodies in safe, empowering environments. We talk about the holistic view of sexuality, where self-care, emotional wellness, and sexual health are all interconnected. Pamela tells us about her commitment to helping women embrace their full sexual selves. During this conversation, we explore the importance of sovereignty of all kinds and how reclaiming control over our lives begins with understanding and accepting our own sexuality. Join us for this candid conversation about how embracing erotic energy can lead to personal growth, confidence, and fulfillment. Connect with Pamela https://www.instagram.com/thepamelamadsen/ https://www.facebook.com/pamelalmadsen/ Learn about Back to the Body Retreats https://backtothebody.org/events?by=retreats Join the Newsletter https://back-to-the-body.mykajabi.com/newsletter Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborahhttps://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with acupuncturist, theta healer, and sex relationship coach Alexis Ware, for a deep dive into voicing our desires. We explore the fascinating connection between the throat and the clitoris, and how speaking our truth is vital for intimacy and connection in relationships. Along the way, Alexis shares powerful insights on the importance of feeling safe to express our needs and the role open communication plays in fulfilling sexual and emotional connections. As we chat, Alexis reveals her transformative journey through orgasmic meditation, and emphasizes the significance of reclaiming our inherent power and creative potential as women. Together, we dig into the layers of societal conditioning that hold us back, and discuss practical techniques to reclaim our voice, power, and pleasure including a special heart meditation teaching. This episode is packed with wisdom and laughter, as well as actionable steps you can take to unveil your voice and elevate your sex life. Connect with Alexis https://www.instagram.com/alexislaurenware https://www.facebook.com/alexislaurenware for Free Heart meditation sign up for newsletter https://sovereign-university.com/ Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborahhttps://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

Is there such a thing as 'ethical porn'? In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sex Therapist Dr. Tom Murray to explore this question as well as pornography trends, erotophobia and different control dynamics as they play out within relationships . Along the way, hear more of Dr. Tom's story of becoming a sex therapist including time spent with pornography distribution giving him an insider's view to the industry. Besides exploring the relationship between societal norms, expectations, fantasies and desires, we take a deep dive into control dynamics, namely over-controlling, in relationships, a topic he writes about in his book, "Making Nice with Naughty: An Intimacy Guide." Dr. Murray gives some ways to bring more playfulness into the bedroom to deepen intimacy and of course, have better sex. Connect with Dr Tom The Book Making Nice with Naughty https://drtommurray.com/books/ apathtowellness.com Making Nice with Naughty Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC78viRgDA05daSGFVD4QoPg Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Licensed Social Worker and Sexual Freedom Advocate, Mandy Salley of the Woodhall Freedom Foundation. In this conversation, we chat about some of the limitations of sexual freedom in the United States, touching on laws against activities like cunnilingus or interracial sex and how outdated these laws have become. We delve into the Comstock Act and its lingering effects on mailing erotic materials and contraception information. Along the way, Mandy shares insights into effective laws that protect sex workers, such as the "Stop Violence in the Sex Trades Act" in New York. Her passion for social justice and sexual freedom is evident as she encourages listeners to engage in open conversations and remain hopeful for change. And of course, Mandy invites us to connect with the Woodhull Freedom Foundation for resources and support in advocating for sexual rights in your area and community Connect with Mandy https://www.woodhullfoundation.org https://www.instagram.com/woodhullfreedom/ https://www.instagram.com/_mandy.salley/ Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist, author, and sexual strategist Marla Renee Stewart who shares her extensive experience studying human sexuality and running workshops worldwide through her sexuality education company, Velvet Lips and as co-founder of the groundbreaking Sex Down South Conference. Marla shares her own journey, including her move from California to the South, and how it shaped her mission to create spaces for marginalized communities to explore sexual liberation and within the kink world. She also talks about what she's seen in the evolving landscape of sex and relationship from desire discrepancy to the increasing interest in non-monogamy and kink. Along the way, we get into the importance of seduction for a more satisfying sex life and Marla shares her hot tips on how to seductively spice things up while also challenging the common fantasy around spontaneous sex. Connect with Marla Sex Education https://www.instagram.com/1marlastewart https://www.velvetlipssexed.com/ Sex Down South https://www.instagram.com/sdscon/ https://www.sexdownsouth.com/ Sexcessful Business Coaching Free Gift https://velvetlips.ck.page/5solutions Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a Bedroom Breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/023cee22/appointment/1540942/calendar/302593?appointmentTypeIds[]=1540942 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab