Restored: Helping Children of Divorce

A doctor of functional neurology joins us to explain a new, cutting edge healing science that’s used to heal dysfunction in our bodies and minds, and help us live and perform at our best. It’s already being used by professional athletes and even Navy SEALs. We dive into what it is and how it can help you, plus:Why people from divorced families struggle more in relationships from a scientific standpointWhy one-size-fits-all doesn’t work with healing - it must be personal and custom3 amazing stories of people who’ve benefited from functional neurology, including a boy who was confined to a wheelchair that was able to walkEmail Dr. Paul Link View Restored’s ResourcesVisit BlackstoneFilms.coShownotes

Bree Solstad went from being a top-selling porn actress to quitting her job and completely turning her life around. That transformation started because of a trip to Italy. In this episode, she tells us about that and answers questions like:What led you to pornography in the first place?How did your broken family and abandonment from your father play into that?What percentage of performers in porn come from divorced or broken families? It’ll shock youWhat has helped you begin to heal your wounds? What would you say to people who believe that porn is harmful and not wrong?Visit Bree’s Etsy shop, Ave Maria Every DayFollow Bree on Twitter and Instagram Listen to the Healing Sexual Brokenness seriesFor Men: Buy the Book: Forged: 33 Days Toward Freedom by Jason Evert and Matt FraddFor Women: Join a Magdala Ministries groupWatch Sound of FreedomVisit FightTheNewDrug.orgVisit BlackstoneFilms.coFor help with suicidal thoughts or behaviors, call or text 988, or go here.Shownotes

For people like us from divorced and broken families, love and marriage can be extra scary. After my parents separated, I swore, “If this is where marriage leads, I want nothing to do with it.”But thankfully, love and marriage aren’t doomed to fail. Marriage isn’t easy, but it can be beautiful and joyful. More importantly, it can help you grow into a better, stronger, and more virtuous person. Today, we’re joined by a married couple to discuss all of that, plus:The struggles they’ve faced within their marriage, especially around unmet expectations and brokennessThe joy and beauty that they’ve experienced in their marriage and familyWhat topics you need to discuss before you get marriedListen to All Things Nueva: Apple, SpotifyFollow Michael & Rachel: Instagram, Facebook, InstagramGet the Free Guide: 7 Tips to Build Healthy Relationships and a Divorce-Proof MarriageVisit BlackstoneFilms.coShownotes

For many of us from divorced families, we unconsciously want our parents to resolve their problems and get back together. Even if that isn’t possible due to abuse or other extreme scenarios, we can’t help but want our family to be whole. Today’s guest felt that desire for his parents and family. In this episode, we discuss that and more:How anger, overeating, and lots of activities became his coping mechanismsHow his parents’ divorce has affected him differently in different chapters of his lifeHow much should parents tell their kids about the divorce?What he’s done to heal and grow, and how his life is better nowShare Your StoryVisit BlackStoneFilms.coView Restored’s ResourcesShownotes

At a young age, Jack learned he had an incurable disease. That naturally brought lots of physical and emotional pain into his life. But through that suffering, the lessons he learned and the transformation he experienced led him to say, “The thing I wish most never happened, I am most grateful for.” In this episode, we discuss what led to that transformation and more:The bitterness and loneliness he felt and how his life looks nowOur tendency to “replay” the trauma we’ve endured and what to do if you feel stuckWhy we need mentors in our lives to guide and challenge us, but also to help us see our blindspotsJackBeers.comTheCatholicMentor.comSchedule a FREE call with JackView Restored’s ResourcesDakotaLaneFitness.comShownotes

With so many marriages and families falling apart, the natural question is: What has caused all these broken marriages and families?In this episode, Dr. John Bishop unveils the surprising root cause, plus:The crisis of masculinity facing our world right nowThe proper place of happiness within marriageAn awesome digital hack to protect yourself and your relationshipsMyForge.orgDakotaLaneFitness.comFight the new drugView Restored’s ResourcesBuy Jason Evert’s booklet, Pure IntimacyBuy Jason Evert’s talk, Green SexShownotes

So many people from broken families struggle with feeling helpless or needy. Our efforts to heal or grow might even feel fruitless like tires spinning in mud that never gain traction. We put in effort in learning, but transformation isn’t happening. Whether that describes you or someone you know (like a friend, parent, or anyone else), this episode will help you!  In it, you’ll learn: The simple solution to beat neediness and helplessnessWhy struggles are actually good for youThe most important question you can ask to move beyond griefMargaret’s WebsiteDakota Lane FitnessBuy Margaret’s Book: FearlessBuy Margaret’s Book: More Than WordsGet Margaret’s Course: Broken to WholeShownotes

Two years into marriage, Jake found himself enslaved to a sexual addiction. He longed for freedom but felt very stuck. As a result, he lived a double life, hiding his unwanted behavior from his wife.  But one random day, it all came to light. At that moment, he thought his marriage was over. In this episode, he shares what happened next, plus:What kept his marriage from falling apart?How a wound of abandonment from his family drove his addiction6 tips to break free from sexual compulsion or addictionGo to Jake’s Website & ResourcesListen to our series, Healing Sexual BrokennessGo to Dakota Lane FitnessShownotes

After her parents divorced, my guest felt abandoned and badly hoped it was all a dream that she could just wake up from. Dealing with all the brokenness that followed led her down a path of feeling stuck and thinking her brokenness defined her. Thankfully, she realized that “‘broken’ is what happened to me, not who I am.” In this episode, we touch on that and more:How just having the pain of your parents’ divorce validated is incredibly helpful and often the first step of healingThe many emotional problems she’s had to battle, including anxiety, depression, anger, self-hate, control, and lonelinessThe tendency in people like us to allow fear to hold us back and cause us to play it safe, but how healing can free us from fearShare Your StoryView Restored’s ResourcesShownotes

If you’re like me, you never saw conflict resolved peacefully in your family. As a result, you might feel a bit lost about how to resolve conflict in your life, especially in your relationships. If that’s you, this episode will help. In it, a married couple joins to share tips they’ve learned on resolving conflict, plus:Why it’s important to let small things go, but how letting too much go can lead to resentmentThe four levels of learning any skillAdvice to someone from an intact family who’s dating, engaged, or even married to someone from a broken familyGet FREE Guide: 7 Tips to Build Healthy Relationships & a Divorce-Proof MarriageVisit Dakota Lane FitnessShownotes