Restored: Helping Children of Divorce

What is trauma? How does it affect a person? Today, licensed trauma therapist Margaret Vasquez answers those questions and more:Why your parents' divorce, separation, or broken marriage can be so traumaticThe antidote to trauma, which will surprise youHow trauma therapy works, why it is so effective, and the incredible result she's seenBuy the book: More Than Words: The Freedom to Thrive after Trauma [affiliate link]Shownotes 

Most people from broken homes struggle with boundaries. Usually, we were never taught how to set and enforce proper boundaries within our families. We’ve seen this again and again. Why is that damaging? Because you can’t have healthy relationships without proper boundaries. Period.In this episode, we cover:What are boundaries?The four types of boundary problemsSix of the ten laws of boundariesBuy the Book: Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life [affiliate link]Shownotes

Emily knew her parents might divorce, but nothing could’ve prepared her for it. It made her feel alone. It made her feel like nobody understood. Feeling insecure, she sought security by trying to control things, especially her relationships.In this episode, Emily shares her story and more:How she kicked healing down the road since she knew it would be painfulThe #1 thing that has helped her heal her broken idea of love and marriageHow to handle anger toward your parents in a healthy way while honoring themJoin Restored's CommunityShare Your StoryShownotes

We know. “Best” and “2020” don’t belong in the same sentence… what a year. To celebrate the good, here are 10 of the best highlights from the Restored Podcast in 2020.Donate to Restored: https://restoredministry.com/donateShownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/34

Is divorce damaging for the children? There’s a lot of misinformation around that question. In this episode, we dispel the myths by breaking down a study. That study summarizes the results of 67 studies about children of divorce. Don’t worry, we make it simple. By listening, you’ll hear:The insane number of children of divorce in the world (hint: It is mindblowing)Statistics and talking points to use in conversations about divorceUnderstand the negative effects that most children of divorce sufferDonate to RestoredShownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/33

The holidays are especially challenging for anyone with separated or divorced parents. So many of us dread this time of the year. We often feel alone and uncertain of how to deal with it all.To offer practical guidance, some of our audience submitted voice memos to answer this question: What’s one tip you’d give to teens or young adults from divorced or separated families on navigating the holidays?This episode contains that advice. By listening and implementing the tips, our hope is that you’ll reduce the drama and enjoy the holidays again.Join Restored’s online communityGo hereFill out the formWe’ll add you to the groupShownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/32

Seeing her parents divorce, Carlie wrestled with this question: If it didn’t work out for my parents, how can I make someone stay with me? That led her to crave the approval of others and became whoever she needed to be to make them stay. But deep down, she desired more. She wanted to belong in an authentic way.By listening, you’ll hear:How Carlie fills that desire for belongingHow children of divorce typically ignore their own needsWhat happened when Carlie hit rock bottom in college - and how she’s so thankful she didAdvice to any woman in an unhealthy relationshipShownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/31

How do you heal a broken marriage? We tackle that topic with two experts, Greg and Julie Alexander.They’ve helped over 5,000 seriously struggling couples in the past 20 years. Their success rate? 98%. By listening, you’ll hear:How Greg & Julie healed their marriage after both cheated on each otherWhat they offer struggling couplesSpecific advice, such as: What’s the first step to rescue a broken marriage? How can a couple heal from infidelity? What should you say to help a friend who is struggling in their marriage?Buy the book: Marriage 911: How God Saved Our Marriage (and Can Save Yours, Too!) [affiliate link]Shownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/30

Struggling spouses often feel like they have two options: Stay married and be miserable or get divorced and be happy. Thankfully, there’s a third option: Healing your marriage. Leila Miller shares stories of hope from her new book, “Impossible” Marriages Redeemed: They Didn’t End the Story in the Middle. It features 50 stories of broken marriages that have been healed and more.By listening, here’s what you’ll walk away with:Common things that breakdown a marriage and common things that heal a marriageWhat to do with suffering in your marriageExtreme cases where separation may be necessaryWhat’s at stake in a culture where divorce becomes rampantResources and practical advice to heal a broken marriage for struggling spouses or anyone who loves or leads themAsk Joey: Get your question answered on the Restored Podcast!Buy the book: "Impossible" Marriages Redeemed: They Didn't End the Story in the Middle [affiliate link]Shownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/29

If you want to build a great marriage, follow the advice of couples who’ve done it. Learn from them. Like last episode, that's exactly what we do in this episode with the most beautiful married couple Joey knows, Joe and Maria Keller. They offer a roadmap for marriage and hope for those of us from broken families who often feel lost in building love that lasts. By listening, you’ll also hear:What destroys a marriage and how to avoid those thingsHabits and advice on money, faith, and communicationHow Joe and Maria handled the pain of losing a childWatch the video of Baby James Keller's storyLife-Giving Wounds virtual retreat: Sign up by Oct 6!Shownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/28