A Gay and A NonGay
James Barr and Dan Hudson
In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends.'Highly Recommended' Guardian'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOutAn independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongayGet bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed
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Jun 12, 2024 • 11min
When Did "Just Sex" Stop Being Enough?
James and Dan are back with a bonus Dear Queerdrie episode, answering a listener's question: when did 'just sex' stop being enough?Let us know what you think on our socials @gaynongay or email us with your opinions and dilemmas - us@gaynongay.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 5, 2024 • 26min
Some Men In London: A Conversation with Peter Parker About Gay History
Happy Pride Month! In this episode, James and Dan are in conversation with writer and historian Peter Parker to discuss his new anthology series Some Men In London. The books explore discovered memoirs, letters and documents which depict what life was truly like for gay men in London between the 40s and late 50s.Both volumes are available to purchase now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 29, 2024 • 21min
How To Find Gay Friends In Your 30s
How do you go about making male gay friends as a man in your 30s? Are heterosexual people allowed to use terms like 'top/bottom' and 'pillow princess'? And how does a closeted Hip-Hop MC go about embracing who he really is without risking his career? James and Dan explore it all in this episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 22, 2024 • 25min
A Conversation with Eurovision's 2024 Winner Nemo
James and Dan caught up with the winner of 2024 Eurovision, Nemo. They chat about how the winning single was created, what's the tea on the dropped trophy and advice for anyone who is non-binary and struggling with their coming out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 15, 2024 • 24min
Can identity exist without labels?
James and Dan use a previous listener dilemma as a starting point for a wider discussion around labels and identity. They also answer the question of why gays and lesbians don't get along. Listen back to the chat with Helen Scott here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 9, 2024 • 18min
Is it toxic for gays to be anti-pride?
Why are so many gays anti-pride? Is it internalised homophobia? Plus - are bisexuals just greedy?Dan ran the London Marathon in 3h 27! You can help him help Marie Curie here.Get tickets to see James’ new show at www.jamesbarrcomedy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 1, 2024 • 22min
Is monogamy a hoax?
James and Dan react to RuPaul saying that monogamy is a hoax. Is there such thing as monogamy with men, and is it a different script for gays and nongays? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 24, 2024 • 23min
Who Is Joel Creasey's Front Runner For Eurovision?
Ahead of Eurovision, and James co-hosting Denmark's official pre party Malmohagen, Australian comedian and actor Joel Creasey joins James and Dan on this week's episode.Who will Joel be flirting with back stage at Eurovision? What was it like opening for Joan Rivers? And which Minogue sister would be amazing as a UK or Australian Eurovision entry? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 17, 2024 • 21min
Richard Gadd on Baby Reindeer (2019 Re-Release)
Richard Gadd, creator of Netflix's 'Baby Reindeer', discusses themes of abuse, trauma, and self-value in his show. The LGBTQ themes and masculinity in 'Baby Reindeer' are explored, along with navigating turbulent paths of self-acceptance and trauma in one's 20s. Gadd's emotional journey from personal struggles to performance art on a treadmill is also highlighted.
Apr 10, 2024 • 19min
Are 'TradWives' Progressive Or A Step Backwards?
Have you seen the TradWives movement? What do you think?In this episode James and Dan explore whether coming out will always be 'a thing', the boom of the TradWives movement and answer your pressing life dilemmas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
