

A Gay and A NonGay
James Barr and Dan Hudson
In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends.'Highly Recommended' Guardian'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOutAn independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongayGet bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed
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Dec 5, 2018 • 18min
STI
Back together after the #RedRun, Dan shares his top tips on how to get over someone and is all this 'depression stuff' James talks about just 'podcast content'? Please remember to get regularly tested at your local sexual health clinic - find out more at ASHA or the NHS or your local clinic.Plus we finally have MERCH! Mug someone off for Christmas at our shop!This episode is supported by Chappy, the gay relationships app for men. Download it in the app store now and find your next gay relationship.--A Gay & A NonGay is an independent podcast from James Barr (he/him - @imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (he/him - @danhudson). Email us@gaynongay.com or stay in touch via twitter, facebook or insta @gaynongay. Exec produced by @talia (she/her)Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 1, 2018 • 34min
World Aids Day
A special episode for us to talk about how we feel about AIDS and HIV. December 1 marks the 30th anniversary of World AIDS Day. Launched in 1988, the annual observance highlights worldwide efforts to combat HIV/AIDS and is also an occasion to show support for those living with HIV and to remember those who have died from the infection.Join Dan & James as they meet our listener Christian who got in touch after PrEPisode to tell us what it's like to live in London as a HIV+ man in 2018. They then travel to London's Noël Coward Theatre to meet with actor John Benjamin Hickey who is currently starring in the essential must watch play The Inheritance - that explores the generation after the peak of the AIDS crisis, plus journalist Matt Cain joins us to talk about the stigma of life on PrEP and his trip to Russia to investigate how homophobia fuels Russia's HIV epidemic. Please don't take anything said in this episode as medical advice or absolute fact. For more information about HIV/AIDS please talk to your doctor or we recommend these resources:Terrence Higgins TrustGreater Than AidsI Want Prep NowThe Aids Memorial on instagram tells stories of love, loss and remembrance. ❤️--A Gay & A NonGay is an independent podcast from James Barr (he/him - @imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (he/him - @danhudson). Email us@gaynongay.com or stay in touch via twitter, facebook or insta @gaynongay. Exec produced by @talia (she/her)Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 1, 2018 • 34min
World Aids Day 2018
A special episode for us to talk about how we feel about AIDS and HIV. December 1 marks the 30th anniversary of World AIDS Day. Launched in 1988, the annual observance highlights worldwide efforts to combat HIV/AIDS and is also an occasion to show support for those living with HIV and to remember those who have died from the infection.Join Dan & James as they meet our listener Christian who got in touch after PrEPisode to tell us what it's like to live in London as a HIV+ man in 2018. They then travel to London's Noël Coward Theatre to meet with actor John Benjamin Hickey who is currently starring in the essential must watch play The Inheritance - that explores the generation after the peak of the AIDS crisis, plus journalist Matt Cain joins us to talk about the stigma of life on PrEP and his trip to Russia to investigate how homophobia fuels Russia's HIV epidemic. Please don't take anything said in this episode as medical advice or absolute fact. For more information about HIV/AIDS please talk to your doctor or we recommend these resources:Terrence Higgins TrustGreater Than AidsI Want Prep NowThe Aids Memorial on instagram tells stories of love, loss and remembrance. ❤️--A Gay & A NonGay is an independent podcast from James Barr (he/him - @imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (he/him - @danhudson). Email us@gaynongay.com or stay in touch via twitter, facebook or insta @gaynongay. Exec produced by @talia (she/her)Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 28, 2018 • 29min
Wrestling
It's a tale of two nights out involving semi-clothed men when James & Dan have both have a very triggering experience in each other’s worlds. Is WWE and hitting people for 'entertainment' just another display of toxic masculinity? And is all male BOYLESQUE basically just porn? And if you want to impress Dan, don’t get your dick out. Order pizza. 25 of them.Support the boys in this weekend's 10K #RedRun in aid of Positive East on Worlds Aids Day.If you're in London, get tickets for Briefs Close Encounters at Christmas.--A Gay & A NonGay is an independent podcast from James Barr (he/him - @imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (he/him - @danhudson). Email us@gaynongay.com or stay in touch via twitter, facebook or insta @gaynongay. Exec produced by @talia (she/her)Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 21, 2018 • 20min
Deep Feelings
How easy is it keeping your friends if you talk about them on your podcast, never mind any new love interest? TLDR - James is no longer dating.Podcasters anonymous - tell us your woes: us@gaynongay.com--A Gay & A NonGay is an independent podcast from James Barr (he/him - @imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (he/him - @danhudson). Email us@gaynongay.com or stay in touch via twitter, facebook or insta @gaynongay. Exec produced by @talia (she/her)Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 14, 2018 • 27min
Isolation
James shares some upsetting but unsurprising news from Stonewall on LGBT mental health in the UK but Dan’s friend seems a bit bored of us discussing James’ depression on the pod. There's also some admin and both A Gay and A NonGay clearly know absolutely nothing about vaginas. Read the full LGBT in Health Report online.-A Gay & A NonGay is an independent podcast from James Barr (he/him - @imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (he/him - @danhudson). Email us@gaynongay.com or stay in touch via twitter, facebook or insta @gaynongay. Exec produced by @talia (she/her)Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 7, 2018 • 25min
PC 4 PC
We dive deep on the perils of Instagram and find that Dan doesn't even recognise his own humble brags. #Blessed-A Gay & A NonGay is an independent podcast from James Barr (he/him - @imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (he/him - @danhudson). Email us@gaynongay.com or stay in touch via twitter, facebook or insta @gaynongay. Exec produced by @talia (she/her)Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 31, 2018 • 24min
👻 Ghosting 👻
James wants you to know he is ok and discusses the stigma surrounding anti-depressants. We also talk ghosting, because it's Halloween and we love a tenuous link. How long can you be 'mugged off' before you've been ghosted and is ghosting the right thing to do if someone you don't fancy keeps getting in touch? Top tip : don't have a nap if someone is waiting on a reply.Plus love and solidarity with all our LGBTQ+ Brazilian family.---This episode is supported by Emerald Life, the UK's award-winning inclusive insurance provider - emeraldlife.co.ukA Gay & A NonGay is an independent podcast from James Barr (he/him - @imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (he/him - @danhudson). Email us@gaynongay.com or stay in touch via twitter, facebook or insta @gaynongay. Exec produced by @talia (she/her)Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 24, 2018 • 17min
Exclusive
Trigger warning : this episode contains discussion of depression and suicide.James is having a difficult time and Dan knows a weird amount of Meat Loaf lyrics . Plus how do you know when it’s time to go exclusive in a gay relationship.---This episode is supported by Emerald Life, the UK's award-winning inclusive insurance provider - emeraldlife.co.ukA Gay & A NonGay is an independent podcast from James Barr (he/him - @imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (he/him - @danhudson). Email us@gaynongay.com or stay in touch via twitter, facebook or insta @gaynongay. Exec produced by @talia (she/her)Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 17, 2018 • 26min
First Boyfriend
James tells Dan about his first boyfriend and everything takes a turn for a conversation we thought was confined to Gay & NonGay fanfic.A Gay & A NonGay is an independent podcast from James Barr (he/him - @imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (he/him - @danhudson). Email us@gaynongay.com or stay in touch via twitter, facebook or insta @gaynongay. Exec produced by @talia (she/her)Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices