Selective Ignorance with Mandii B

In this episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B sits down with sex educator and podcast host Ashley Cobb for an unfiltered deep dive into the layers of women’s autonomy, sexual liberation, and the societal pressures that keep trying to police both. They open the episode [00:00], framing the conversation around sexual autonomy and the power that comes with owning your narrative. By [01:23], they’re unpacking the pendulum swing of women’s rights and how quickly public opinion shifts. At [03:19], the spotlight turns to the role of men in these conversations—whether they’re allies, obstacles, or just awkward bystanders. Ashley shares her Essence Fest experience at [04:39], revealing the branding challenges that still exist in spaces meant to celebrate Black women. The conversation at [10:15] dives into the tug-of-war among women themselves, followed by a candid breakdown at [12:36] of how societal expectations complicate sexual liberation. By [16:19], it’s time to decide—do you double down on your truth or take it back to appease others? From [19:57] to [28:11], Mandii and Ashley explore sexual exploration, relationship dynamics, and the sometimes messy intersections of past connections. The complexity deepens at [35:05] with a discussion on accountability within the Me Too movement, leading into [38:28] on power dynamics in relationships and [41:21] on the nuanced lines between consent and victimhood. At [46:04], they assess the lasting impact of the Me Too movement before shifting to [52:18], where workplace dynamics and gendered expectations get scrutinized. By [55:44], historical context steps in to remind listeners that these struggles didn’t start yesterday, and at [01:01:27], the conversation looks ahead to the future of sexual liberation. They close at [01:07:52] with generational perspectives on sexuality and what younger voices are bringing to the table.  “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!Sale Link Follow the host on Social MediaMandii B Instagram/X @fullcourtpumps Follow the guests on Social Media@sexwithashle Follow the show on Social MediaInstagram @selectiveignorancepodTiktok @selective.ignoranceX/Twitter @selectiveig_pod  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this special bonus episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B leads a heartfelt conversation on the many ways people discover, protect, and reclaim their personal power. 00:00 The episode opens with reflections on what power means and how it shapes growth. 02:54 The discussion moves into the journey of finding personal power, before exploring 05:45 the role financial independence plays in building confidence and autonomy. 08:41 Mandii and her guests unpack self-love and body confidence, while 12:04 dives into navigating relationship expectations in a modern dating landscape. 14:53 They discuss the importance of honesty in dating, followed by 17:43 powerful personal stories of overcoming abuse. 20:33 The group reflects on how past relationships can leave lasting marks, leading into 23:57 an examination of emotional and psychological abuse. 26:39 The conversation shifts to empowerment through self-discovery, and 29:40emphasizes the importance of creating your own narrative. From there, 32:22 they address the nonlinear nature of healing, 35:33 the role of community and support in that process, and 38:26 how embracing change can be a catalyst for growth. 41:23 The group highlights the power of self-reflection, before 44:41 redefining success and happiness on one’s own terms. Finally, 47:17 the episode closes with future aspirations and reminders that the journey to empowerment is deeply personal, yet universally resonant.  “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!Sale Link Follow the host on Social MediaMandii B Instagram/X @fullcourtpumpsFollow the show on Social MediaInstagram @selectiveignorancepodTiktok @selective.ignoranceX/Twitter @selectiveig_podSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this week's episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B is joined by actress Giovonnie Samuels and rapper Sy Ari to unpack the layered relationship between self-worth and market value across entertainment, sports, and media. The conversation kicks off with a distinction between personal value and perceived value in professional spaces (02:37), touching on the importance of negotiating with clarity and intention—whether you’re in a boardroom or on a basketball court. From there, the trio dives deep into the realities of contracts (16:55), the cultural and economic factors behind the WNBA's ongoing pay disparities (36:01), and the larger systems that define how labor is valued in male-dominated industries like sports and music (52:20). They also explore how cultural impact often doesn't align with compensation (54:37), especially as new dynamics like NIL deals reshape college sports (56:55). The discussion expands to Joe Budden’s controversial business approach (59:42), the evolving economics of podcasting and creator-led media (01:03:23), and what fair pay looks like for creatives (01:09:21). In the latter half, Mandii and guests shed light on residuals for TV actors (01:17:40), the historic exploitation of child actors (01:23:51), and why knowing your worth—and demanding it—is an act of survival in an industry that rarely plays fair (01:29:50). “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!Sale Link Follow the host on Social MediaMandii B Instagram/X @fullcourtpumps Follow the guests on Social Media@only1giovonnie @syaridakidFollow the show on Social MediaInstagram @selectiveignorancepodTiktok @selective.ignoranceX/Twitter @selectiveig_pod  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this week's bonus episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B takes you on a deeply personal journey through sexual liberation, self-reflection, and the evolving dynamics of love. She begins by discussing what personal progression looks like beyond appearances [00:00], before unpacking the emotional layers of shame, regret, and how they fuel growth [02:57]. The conversation dives into the interplay of money, sex, and self-worth, exploring how transactional relationships shaped her self-perception [05:49], and the emotional complexity behind romantic entanglements and blurred boundaries [08:44]. Mandii reflects on past choices that once carried guilt but now serve as milestones of learning[11:59]. She candidly shares her experience as a side chick [14:51] and how it informed her understanding of love, betrayal, and resilience [17:47]. Vulnerability becomes a source of strength as she explores how openness can lead to empowerment[20:43], especially when revisiting the imprint of past relationships [23:41]. Through stories of heartbreak [26:34] and hard-earned lessons about the role money plays in intimacy [29:10], Mandii moves toward a place of self-acceptance and grace [32:13]. She emphasizes the power of setting boundaries in romantic and personal growth [35:08], and navigates the nuanced realities of non-monogamous dynamics [37:42]. The episode closes with a reflective chapter on loss, letting go, and the love that remains after the end [40:53]—reminding listeners that healing, though messy, is also transformational.  “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!Sale Link Follow the host on Social MediaMandii B Instagram/X @fullcourtpumpsFollow the show on Social MediaInstagram @selectiveignorancepodTiktok @selective.ignoranceX/Twitter @selectiveig_podSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B alongside Jayson Rodriguez and A-King explore the sweeping impact of artificial intelligence on our daily lives. The conversation begins with an overview of AI's rapid evolution and influence across industries[00:00], followed by reflections on recent current events and the collective processing of death [02:50]. The hosts then navigate the nuances of workplace relationships and the importance of setting boundaries [06:10]. They shift into a debate around the controversial “T App” and its implications on dating and digital consent [09:02], before unpacking how AI is reshaping everything from communication to creative work [11:52]. The discussion widens to examine the future of autonomous vehicles and what it means for transportation as we know it [41:25], including a closer look at how automation is changing customer service experiences [46:49]. The collective also dives into AI’s role in consumer pricing, surveillance capitalism, and corporate accountability[53:16], and questions how political lobbying is influencing AI regulation and public policy [57:36]. In the final stretch, they explore AI’s presence in the music industry and whether it can ever replicate true human connection[01:02:44], closing out with a reflection on capitalism, automation, and the existential anxiety that often comes with technological advancement [01:20:05]. “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!Sale Link Follow the host on Social MediaMandii B Instagram/X @fullcourtpumpsFollow the show on Social MediaInstagram @selectiveignorancepodTiktok @selective.ignoranceX/Twitter @selectiveig_podSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this emotionally layered bonus episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B leads a courageous conversation around the realities of sexual exploration, trauma, and the path to healing. With vulnerability at the forefront, the discussion leans into the complicated truths of consent, abortion, and sexual assault, centering personal stories as both testimony and release. [00:00] The episode opens with a raw unpacking of the emotional and physical consequences that can come with early sexual exploration, including how societal pressures and lack of proper education shape formative experiences. [19:52] The conversation shifts toward the topic of abortion, with the hosts reflecting on how personal choice is often weighed down by shame, judgment, and unspoken grief. [32:28] Childhood memories and family dynamics are revisited, illuminating how early emotional environments influence later relationships, self-worth, and personal boundaries. [35:48] The topic of abortion returns through the lens of cultural and societal expectations, calling out the stigmas that persist and the silence they impose. [37:52] The discussion deepens with an unflinching look at the impact of sexual assault and the long shadow it can cast, exploring how trauma affects intimacy, trust, and identity. [48:45] As the episode closes, the conversation comes full circle—examining how childhood wounds, both seen and unseen, often reemerge in adult relationships, and how acknowledging those wounds is the first step toward healing. At its core, this episode is a powerful reminder that healing is nonlinear, often messy, but always possible. Through open dialogue, self-reflection, and empathy, Selective Ignorance offers a safe space for reclaiming power, rewriting narratives, and finding strength in the process.  “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!Sale Link Follow the host on Social MediaMandii B Instagram/X @fullcourtpumpsFollow the show on Social MediaInstagram @selectiveignorancepodTiktok @selective.ignoranceX/Twitter @selectiveig_podSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B is joined by returning guest Jason "Jah" Lee to examine the shifting media landscape in an age where entertainment and information constantly blur. Together, they unpack the complexities of new media’s rise and its disruptive effect on traditional journalism, while spotlighting the evolving roles of media personalities. [00:00] The conversation opens with a look at how new media has reshaped the delivery and consumption of news, especially in communities of color. [02:23] As the hosts navigate the current chaos of information, they question how audiences filter through noise and discern truth. [08:45] Jah reflects on his own journey in media, offering perspective on how careers in the field have evolved—from newsroom standards to platform-driven influence. [14:43] They explore the tensions between accountability and audience demand, particularly in the overlap between media and celebrity culture. [21:34] The duo dives into the power of headlines, clickbait, and how virality often outweighs accuracy in shaping public opinion. [36:45] They touch on the battle for attention across social media, and how algorithmic trends impact not only what we see, but how we feel. [38:42] The Diddy trial becomes a case study, sparking conversation about media coverage, editorial choices, and public perception. [42:14] From there, the dialogue expands to the changing standards of journalism, asking whether objectivity still matters—or ever did. [45:46] Mandii and Jah reflect on how people consume content today, and how much responsibility lies with the audience versus the creators. [49:45] The concept of attention as a new form of currency is explored, with virality being the measure of influence rather than credibility. [54:15] They also consider how identity plays into the creation and reception of media, especially when physical appearance or charisma skews the audience's trust. [01:00:39] As they round out the discussion, they assess how creators navigate the ever-changing media terrain, balancing truth, impact, and engagement. **[01:04:36] The episode closes with a critical question: In a time of memes, reels, and TikToks—**what actually defines media today? And are we consuming to be informed or simply entertained? “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!Sale Link Follow the host on Social MediaMandii B Instagram/X @fullcourtpumps Follow the guests on Social Media@mrhiphopobama Follow the show on Social MediaInstagram @selectiveignorancepodTiktok @selective.ignoranceX/Twitter @selectiveig_podSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this special bonus episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B turns the spotlight on the pleasure chapter of her book, No Holes Bared, opening up a candid and empowering conversation about the importance of pleasure education—especially for women navigating a world full of mixed messages around sex and self-worth. [00:00] The episode kicks off with a deep dive into what pleasure education really means, why it's often overlooked, and how reclaiming that knowledge can be transformative. Mandii reflects on her own journey, offering personal stories about her upbringing and how early relationships shaped her views on intimacy and self-acceptance. [13:01] As she unpacks the challenges of early adulthood, Mandii speaks openly about learning to prioritize her own needs, emotionally and physically, in relationships. [27:11] The conversation turns to self-pleasure and sexual exploration, emphasizing the role these experiences play in developing confidence, body autonomy, and emotional clarity. [27:41] A moment of unexpected connection leads into a broader discussion on safety and trust, especially when trying new things. [28:10] Mandii shares how learning to set boundaries helped her feel empowered, not only in intimate moments but in life at large. [29:57] The episode explores how past relationships can influence future choices, highlighting the ways personal growth often stems from heartbreak and healing. [31:34] Mandii breaks down what it really means to “shoot your shot”, revealing how confidence, fear of rejection, and vulnerability all play a part in pursuing what (or who) you want. [35:40] The conversation expands into sexual liberation, exploring the delicate balance between exploration and setting personal boundaries. [41:19] Mandii contextualizes these experiences within cultural norms, especially the stigmas that often shape women’s understanding of pleasure and sexuality. [47:20] The episode closes with reflections on how relationships—romantic, platonic, and with oneself—continue to evolve, and how embracing pleasure, in all its forms, is a key part of that growth. This episode is a personal and powerful reminder that pleasure is not just about sex—it’s about agency, curiosity, healing, and joy. “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!Sale Link Follow the host on Social MediaMandii B Instagram/X @fullcourtpumpsFollow the show on Social MediaInstagram @selectiveignorancepodTiktok @selective.ignoranceX/Twitter @selectiveig_podSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandi B dives into the often polarizing and deeply personal topic of politics within the Black community. [00:00] The episode begins by framing the conversation around the growing alignment with Republican ideologies, setting the stage for an honest exploration of what’s behind these shifting political identities. [02:51] The hosts unpack the tension many Black voters feel—caught between traditional party loyalties and dissatisfaction with how their needs have been addressed. [06:11] Guests Carla Will Maris and Ray Daniels join the conversation, bringing their own experiences and perspectives on what it means to claim a political identity in today’s climate. [08:48] A spirited debate unfolds around personal responsibility and the impact of supporting certain policies, with each speaker challenging assumptions and raising hard questions about where values and interests intersect. [11:47] The discussion moves into the terrain of trans rights and gender identity, exploring how these issues have become lightning rods in political discourse and what real allyship requires. [14:56] The hosts consider the role of media in shaping public perception, examining how narratives are constructed—and manipulated—to sway opinions and reinforce division. [17:45] Abortion and women’s rights take center stage next, with an honest look at the stakes for marginalized communities when reproductive freedom is politicized. [20:56] The conversation broadens to the intersection of race, gender, and politics, unpacking how layered identities shape not only individual beliefs but also the collective priorities of the Black community. Finally, [23:47] reflections on the importance of civic engagement and understanding diverse perspectives, even—and especially—when they challenge our own. This episode is a reminder that political alignment is never just about party lines. It’s about history, identity, and the courage to wrestle with uncomfortable truths in search of progress. “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!Sale Link Follow the host on Social MediaMandii B Instagram/X @fullcourtpumps Follow the guests on Social Media@carlawilmaris @raydaniels Follow the show on Social MediaInstagram @selectiveignorancepodTiktok @selective.ignoranceX/Twitter @selectiveig_podSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this bonus episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B is joined by music journalist Jayson Rodriguez and cultural curator A-King for a deep, soulful dive into the world of R&B. [00:00] The conversation kicks off with a look at R&B’s cultural impact, tracing how the genre has served as both a mirror and a balm for generations of listeners. [03:08] The trio explores the evolution of R&B within the music industry, from its gospel and soul roots to its intersections with pop and hip-hop. They reflect on [06:01] what truly defines R&B, arguing that the emotional depth, lived experience, and vulnerability in the music are what make it timeless. [08:48] The discussion shifts to the role of media in shaping R&B’s visibility, and how the genre’s presence has changed on major platforms. From there, they break down [12:07] today’s R&B landscape, spotlighting emerging artists, and asking whether the genre is truly experiencing a renaissance—or if it’s still fighting for space. [15:00] Hip-hop’s influence on R&B comes into focus, both as a source of collaboration and creative tension. [17:48] Nostalgia enters the chat as the group reminisces about classic sounds, beloved groups, and the feeling that something essential has been lost in the transition to modern trends. [20:40] They dig into the evolution of vocal standards, noting how raw vocal ability has often taken a back seat to aesthetics and production polish. That leads into [23:53] a conversation about the challenges and opportunities shaping R&B’s future—from streaming culture to label support and artist independence. The episode doesn’t shy away from nuance. [38:47] They unpack the shift from "thug love" to hyper-masculinity in male R&B, questioning what this means for intimacy and expression. [42:29] The aesthetic evolution of artists—from fashion to persona—gets its own spotlight, while [44:24] nostalgia and critiques of the genre’s supposed "decline" add further layers to the dialogue. [50:20] The conversation turns to women in R&B, debating whether they're thriving or still being boxed in by industry expectations. As the energy rises, the group shares their dream lineups for [54:36] future R&B tours and collaborations, imagining what a curated revival could look like. To wrap things up, they discuss [01:00:29] the legacy of R&B through the lens of underrated and overrated albums, and [01:09:26] share their predictions and hopes for the future of the genre—highlighting artists to watch, sonic shifts on the horizon, and the timeless power of R&B when done right. This episode is a love letter, a critique, and a call to action for anyone who’s ever had their heart healed by a hook or a harmony.  “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!Sale Link Follow the host on Social MediaMandii B Instagram/X @fullcourtpumpsFollow the show on Social MediaInstagram @selectiveignorancepodTiktok @selective.ignoranceX/Twitter @selectiveig_podSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.