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Zoe Kors is a sex & intimacy expert. Sex doesn’t always look like what we see in the movies, and sometimes it doesn’t feel the way we wish it did. But what if I told you, you deserve to have the kind of sex you dream about? Today, we’re talking about improving your sex life, safety and its role in arousal, and how to ask for what you want in the bedroom.    What you’ll learn:  What to do if you’re in a sexless marriage When to let go vs. when to keep working  Opening up your marriage to a new level  Arousal and “safety” in the bedroom Changing the way you masturbate The benefits of “edging”   Topics of discussion: 06:00 - Ten years without sex 11:05 - Bringing sex back into the relationship 17:10 - Intimacy with yourself  19:30 - Defining sexual chemistry 34:10 - Talking about sex with your partner 44:20 - Change the way you masturbate 48:45 - The benefits of “edging” 55:20 - Creating an orgasmic environment    Resources from our discussion: Good Sex - Jessica Graham  Vagina - Naomi Wolfe Slow Sex - Dianna Richardson   Where to find Zoe Kors: Zoekors.com Instagram Facebook YouTube   Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub   Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

Camille Barton is an artist, writer, and somatic educator working on the intersections of wellness, drug policy, and transformative justice. Today, we're exploring the effects of ancestral trauma that people of the global majority (another way to say Black, Indigenous, People of Color) walk around with and how to begin healing that trauma What you'll learn (or why you should care): How social justice overlaps with somatics (the embodied experience) What it means to be a person of the global majority The importance of ongoing grief ritual in social justice work How to get out of your head and into your body How white people can do their own ancestral healing work Where to find Camille: Website: https://www.camillebarton.co.uk Instagram: @Afrooankali Resources: Lumos Transforms | Anchoring Resilience training The Roots of White Supremacy are in Our Bodies By Madelanne Rust-D’Eye Madelanne Rust-D’Eye website Re-evaluating Counseling White Awake - Study, Support, & Action TRE and Shaking Radical Dharma: Talking Race, Love, and Liberation by Angel Kyodo Williams, Lama Rod Owens, Jasmine Syedullah Somatic Market Hypothesis - Wiki page Why White People Can't Dance Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub   Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter Current workshop on Emotional Availability: https://thelovedrive.com/emotionalavailability

Zoe Bender is a long-time friend, American History high-school teacher, and has been doing social justice activism for over 15 years. Today, we're talking about it what it means to be an ally to the Black community.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): The collective awakening of liberal white folks  Skills necessary for being on the lifelong journey of white allyship What are white socialism and white fragility How you can avoid being a performative ally How to examine your relationship to racism and white supremacy  Resources: White Fragility: Why It's So Hard To Talk To White People About Racism by Robin DiAngelo Article on White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo What is Socio Emotional Learning? TatianaTMac's Tweet to White People about Burn Out Showing Up For Racial Justice the UNtraining Donate to The Loveland Foundation The 5 Methods of Divestment & Weaponization of White Power & Privilege from Community Ready Corps The Conscious Competence Ladder as described by Elena Aguilar Tamisha Williams is a dynamic facilitator who uses movement and storytelling to nurture the growth and development of those she serves. She is skilled in using frameworks of equity, justice, and inclusion to assess and develop institutional initiatives. Tamisha is a transformational leader inspiring educators, parents, and school administrators in deepening their equity-literacy skills Minorities Who 'Whiten' Job Resumes Get More Interviews Workshops and Training that Zoe has attended: "People of Color Conference" organized by the National Association of Independent Schools - December 2018 (https://pocc.nais.org/)  "Undoing Racism Workshop" led by People's Institute for Survival and Beyond https://www.pisab.org/ "PeopleSkool" led by POOR magazine https://www.poormagazine.org/ "Being mindful and white in a Multicultural World" led by the East Bay Meditation Center https://eastbaymeditation.org/ Member of "Uruhu Solidarity Movement" under the leadership of the African People's Socialist Party https://uhurusolidarity.org/ "Resisting Racism Workshop" led by Ewuare Osayande and People Organized Working to Eradicate Racism https://osayande.org/  Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub   Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter Current workshop on Emotional Availability: https://thelovedrive.com/emotionalavailability

Elena Rossi is a pleasure and slow sex educator, co-founder of a sex toy company, and creator behind the popular Instagram account The Yoni Empire. Elena and I unpack what it means to be authentically you in all relationships, and what is so scary about that.  This is part two of our two-part conversation.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): The importance of compatibility in a relationship How our coping mechanisms can dampen our growth Hot to look inside for the answers you already have   Links and Resources: Author John Welwood: http://www.johnwelwood.com Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy by Ken Page https://amzn.to/2B2BXN2 Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin Ph.D. https://amzn.to/3d8mrgJ The Complete Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue: Books I, II & III by Neale Donald Walsch https://amzn.to/2ZJNQC4 @noopface on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/noopface The Yoni Empire booklist for women's sexual development: https://theyoniempire.com/15-must-read-books-for-womens-sexual-development/ The Yoni Empire booklist for couples: https://theyoniempire.com/11-must-read-sexuality-books-for-couples/ The Healthy Communication Workshop: https://thelovedrive.com/healthy-communication-workshop/ The Love Drive booklist: https://thelovedrive.com/about-shaun/booklist/   Where to find Elena: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_yoni_empire/ Website https://theyoniempire.com    Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub   Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

Elena Rossi is a pleasure and slow sex educator, co-founder of a sex toy company, and creator behind the popular Instagram account The Yoni Empire. Elena and I unpack what it means to be authentically you in all relationships, and what is so scary about that.  This is part one of our two-part conversation.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): How not to dilute yourself when trying to attract a partner The three options available to you when others won't meet your needs How to distinguish between self-work and bringing it up to your partner   Where to find Elena: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_yoni_empire/ Website https://theyoniempire.com   Links and Resources: Author John Welwood: http://www.johnwelwood.com Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy by Ken Page https://amzn.to/2B2BXN2 Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin Ph.D. https://amzn.to/3d8mrgJ The Complete Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue: Books I, II & III by Neale Donald Walsch https://amzn.to/2ZJNQC4 @noopface on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/noopface The Yoni Empire booklist for women's sexual development: https://theyoniempire.com/15-must-read-books-for-womens-sexual-development/ The Yoni Empire booklist for couples: https://theyoniempire.com/11-must-read-sexuality-books-for-couples/ The Healthy Communication Workshop: https://thelovedrive.com/healthy-communication-workshop/ The Love Drive booklist: https://thelovedrive.com/about-shaun/booklist/      Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub   Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

Julia Feldman is a teacher, sex educator, and creator behind the popular Instagram account Giving The Talk. Julia believes that communication and relation tools are fundamental skills that we should be teaching alongside sex education from a very early age, and I whole-heartedly agree.  This is part two of our two-part conversation.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): How your sexuality is continually evolving The ice cream analogy of finding new pleasure in your body    How to explore self-pleasure from a place of curiosity rather than release Where to find Julia: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/givingthetalk Website https://www.givingthetalk.com  Resources/Links: Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women, and Couples by Jack Morin Ph.D: https://amzn.to/3e4LIIV  Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy.  For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub  Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

Julia Feldman is a teacher, sex educator, and creator behind the popular Instagram account Giving The Talk. Julia believes that communication and relation tools are fundamental skills that we should be teaching alongside sex education from a very early age, and I whole-heartedly agree.  This is part one of our two-part conversation.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): How to talk about over-apologizing Why giving unsolicited advice can shut some people down (including myself) How to develop well-paced sex education curriculums   Where to find Julia: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/givingthetalk Website https://www.givingthetalk.com     Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub   Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

Fie Sommer is a taboo-breaking Danish disruptor who talks about what she wishes people talked more about when she was growing up. Today, we're exploring the beauty of surrendering to sex, the healing power of sex, and how to bring ritual and ceremony to your love-making.  This is the second part of our two-part conversation.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): • How to bring intimacy and trust to your sex life • How to bring ceremony and ritual to your love-making • What surrendering to sex can look like   Where to find Fie: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fie.sommer Website https://www.fiesommer.dk   Resources: Slow Sex: The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality by Diana Richardson: https://amzn.to/2AmNOFD Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out by Jessica Graham: https://amzn.to/3dC99ca The Glass Wand by Euphemia Russell: https://www.iwishyouknew.net/wand   Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub   Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

Fie Sommer is a taboo-breaking Danish disruptor who talks about what she wishes people talked more about when she was growing up. Today, we're starting with pornography, it's effects on her sex life, and how she transitioned away from using it.  This is part one of our two-part conversation.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): • How to use sex as a tool for connection • Why we have sex when we don't want to • How to say no or to ask for something different   Where to find Fie: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fie.sommer Website https://www.fiesommer.dk   Resources: Slow Sex: The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality by Diana Richardson: https://amzn.to/2AmNOFD Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out by Jessica Graham: https://amzn.to/3dC99ca   Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub   Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter    

Cam Fraser is a sex coach and works to help dispel the myths of male sexuality. Together, we explore the vastness of men's sexuality beyond the myths. We both deepen and widen our definition of what it means to be a sexual man nowadays.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): • Approaching lovemaking as a ceremony • The importance of taking orgasm off the table • Focusing on pleasure over performance   Where to find Cam: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thecamfraser/ Website https://www.cam-fraser.com Resources: The Yes/No/Maybe list: https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdf Mantak Chia's book The Multi-Orgasmic Man: https://amzn.to/2z0XJQ8 Diana Richardson's book Slow Sex: https://amzn.to/2Yk0dnn Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent: https://bettymartin.org/videos/ The 3-minute Game by Harry Faddis: https://bettymartin.org/how-to-play-the-3-minute-game/   Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub   Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter