Gender Reveal

Tuck speaks with writer, organizer, and #8toAbolition cofounder K Adetoyin Agbebiyi (they/them). Topics include: An abolitionist take on “cancel culture” The difference between nonprofits and mutual aid The connections between disability justice, reproductive justice, and prison abolition Supporting incarcerated trans people without giving more power to the prison industrial complex Plus: treating work like a video game, navigating the perils of leftist twitter, and relearning being gay. This Week in Gender: Your gender doesn’t need to be convenient to other people!  Find K’s work at kagbebiyi.com and freeashleydiamond.com. K also recommends Survived & Punished and Pocket Change Pools. Do you have gender questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Latecomer” by Blue Dot Sessions and “It’s Okay to Cry” by SOPHIE Sponsors: Bistitchual and Rev Nat’s (promo code: SNACKS)

Tuck catches up with BFF of the show Mckenzee Griffler (she/her) before tackling another stack of advice questions. Topics include: How do I know if my loved ones are really seeing me? Should I risk parental support to explore my gender? Can my cis girlfriend use all pronouns? How can demisexuals explore their queerness? Plus: When becoming a girl is like cutting out egg (lol) in bread products. This Week in Gender: Here’s the New York Magazine phallo essay. Don’t read the comments :) Do you have gender questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderSponsors: Enby (promo code: GenderReveal) and Rev Nat’s (promo code: SNACKS)

Tuck speaks with musician Ezra Furman (she/they). Topics include: Gender as a religion; transness as a mystical cult The power of taking control (and overcoming HRT hang-ups) Trans voice feelings as professional voice-users  A collection of genders based off Billy Joel lyrics Plus: sympathetic pregnancy, Lou Reed, rabbinical school, and coming out as a mom.  This Week in Gender: New Zealand unanimously passes its self-ID law; a trans student in Missouri wins a sex-discrimination lawsuit; Chile legalizes same-sex marriage; a study says HRT access improves trans youth’s mental health (obvi); and Canada successfully bans conversion therapy. Find Ezra’s music, merch, tour dates and more at ezrafurman.com. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderSponsors: Enby (promo code: GenderReveal) and Rev Nat’s (promo code: SNACKS)

Tuck speaks with theorist, author, and abolitionist Da’Shaun Harrison (they/them). Topics include: The way fatness functions as its own gender Working towards a better world without hope that we’ll achieve it Why the concept of health is unsalvageable  Why we’re tired of talking about pronouns with cis people  Plus: destroying gender! This Week in Gender: WPATH’s Standards of Care 8 is open for public comment through Dec 16. Find Da’Shaun and Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness as Anti-Blackness at linktr.ee/DaShaunLH. References: “Mama’s Baby, Papa’s Maybe” by Hortense J. Spillers. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Littl John ” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Enby (promo code: GenderReveal) and Rev Nat’s (promo code: SNACKS)

Tuck speaks with Calvin Kasulke (he/him), author of Several People Are Typing. Topics include: The secret(?!?) baby-trans subtext of Calvin’s debut novel Writing fiction (about Slack dot com) vs journalism (about bodega dick pills) Parallels between sobriety and transitioning Calvin asks Tuck a question (a.k.a. “there’s cops here and I’m gay”) Plus: GLAAD Awards Travis Bickle // nu-metal Big Bird // cyberpunk Rodney Dangerfield This Week in Gender: A town in Bangladesh elects a hijra mayor(ish); Switzerland made it easier to change your name and gender marker; Canada is in process of banning conversion therapy; the Dutch government is finally apologizing for forced sterilizations; and an important French dictionary adds the gender-neutral pronoun iel, causing insufferable backlash. Find Calvin at calvinkasulke.com, and pick up a copy of Several People Are Typing wherever books are sold. Here are links to the stories we mentioned about choosing your name and buying dick pills and packing. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Cake Society Co. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas GoodmanLogo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderSponsors: Enby (promo code: GenderReveal) 

Tuck speaks with game designer and cultural consultant Yeonsoo Julian Kim (they/she). Topics include:   Creating games where every playable character is nonbinary (or, in other cases, Korean) The joys of BDSM tea party games and horror erotic fiction  Why “romanticizing colonialism” is a surprisingly common game plot Playing to win vs. playing to process your feelings and maybe have a nice cry Plus: divorcing fear from gender; and the DnD to HRT pipeline This Week in Gender: Iowa Medicaid must start covering trans surgeries; R*wling once again claims to be victimized by trans people; Stu Rasmussen was the country’s first openly trans mayor; Trans Day of Remembrance happened; Amy Schneider is crushing it on Jeopardy. Find Yeonsoo @yjuliankim and at yeonsoojuliankim.com. (Want more? Their interactive novel The Fog Knows Your Name is available here, and the Strange Lusts/Strange Loves anthology is being released in installments here [NSFW].) Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Enby (promo code: GenderReveal) & Harsh Reality: The Story of Miriam Rivera

Tuck speaks with lawyer and trans advocate Chase Strangio (he/they). Topics include:   Why everything is going to keep getting worse (sorry!) How “biological” sex only exists in the law to exclude trans people Trans joy as a political counterpoint to right-wing legislation Cis women’s crucial role in combatting transphobia Plus: Throwing yourself on the ground screaming at the gender binary This Week in Gender: The IOC releases new guidelines for trans & intersex athlete eligibility; and California will require gender-neutral toy sections. Find Chase @chasestrangio on Twitter/IG and at aclu.org. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Additional Music: “Gentle Son” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Enby (promo code: GenderReveal) & Bistitchual

Tuck speaks with Jackie Ess (she/her), author of Darryl. Topics include:   The future of trans literature (whatever that means) Writing from the outside and avoiding tokenization How to avoid being the worst kind of reader Hints to the subjects of Jackie’s next two books Plus: Jonathan Franzen, Jack Harlow, Casey Plett, Torrey Peters, Hugo Grotius, and the Situation? This Week in Gender: Para sports and the Paralympics. (You can read WBC’s trans inclusion policy here.) Find Jackie on Twitter @jackie_ess. Buy Darryl on Bookshop or wherever books are. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Additional Music: “Friction Model” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Enby (promo code: GenderReveal) 

Tuck speaks with sports writer Frankie de la Cretaz (they/them). Topics include:   Can sports be reformed? How do trans sports bans affect transmasc athletes? Sobriety, gender, and the cisheteronormativity of AA Making your relationship hotter by coming out as trans Plus: Unearthing trans elders & dyke drama while writing about football This Week in Gender: Dana Zzyym finally gets a passport; Cancel Me, Daddy interviews two prominent trans Netflix employees; and the Supreme Court indirectly allows a trans man to sue a Catholic hospital for discrimination. Find Frankie at britnidlc.com and on twitter/IG @thefrankiedlc. Their book, Hail Mary, is on sale now.  We also recommend Frankie’s Sports Illustrated feature “Living Nonbinary in a Binary Sports World” and their InsideHook article, “What About the Trans Athletes Who Compete — And Win — in Men’s Sports?” ~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Additional Music: “Talltell” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Enby (promo code: GenderReveal) 

Tuck speaks with writer Denne Michele Norris (she/her), cartoonist Mattie Lubchansky (they/them) and organizer Mateo Guerrero (he/they) at Starr Bar in Bushwick. Topics include:   Setting boundaries with friends and family Working to decriminalize sex work in New York Coming out as a trans woman after coming out as nonbinary Plus: “TGNCIQ”; “transhet”; figure skating; the trans rock climbing obsession; trans lit representation; surviving public restrooms; f•cking around and finding out. The article Denne mentions is “Trans Characters Are In Vogue, But Where Are the Thinkpieces?” by Eli Cugini. We also mention Refuge Restrooms. Find Denne at dennemichele.com and on twitter/IG at @thedennemichele. For more of her work, subscribe to the Food 4 Thot podcast and the Electric Lit newsletter. Find Mateo on IG @mateoguerrero_. Make the Road NY is at maketheroadny.org and on IG/Facebook @maketheroadny.  Find Mattie on twitter @Lubchansky and IG @mattielubchansky. For more of their work, join their Patreon, subscribe to the Nib, and buy their book via Silver Sprocket. (They were also on Episode 20 of this show.) ~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and starter packs for new listeners at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Do you have gender-related questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Associate Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Enby (promo code: GenderReveal)