A Jaded Gay

In today's challenging real estate market, aspiring home buyers grapple with rising prices, limited inventory, and intense competition, making the pursuit of homeownership more difficult than ever. To add a layer of complexity, gay home buyers may encounter challenges such as discrimination, limited representation, and concerns about acceptance in certain neighborhoods, highlighting the ongoing need for a more inclusive and affirming real estate environment.In this episode, Ryan Windt, a Philadelphia-based real estate agent, joins us to share key factors that LGBTQ+ people should be mindful of when house hunting, along with homebuying tips and myths.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor? Listen to Episode 106. Long Live Queer Nightlife (with Amin Ghaziani) Additional Resources:Send Ryan Your Real Estate InquiriesFollow Ryan on InstagramWhy You Should Let a Gay Realtor Help You Find Your Next Home!Why Gayborhoods Matter: The Street Empirics of Urban SexualitiesOnce a Crucial Refuge, ‘Gayborhoods’ Lose L.G.B.T.Q. Residents in Major CitiesSupport the showGet Your Merch

During Pride month, many corporations and "allies" enthusiastically showcase their support, donning rainbows and sponsoring LGBTQ+ events. But once July 1st rolls around, the vibrant displays of pro-LGBTQ+ sentiments often fade from their workplaces, leaving questions about the depth of their commitment to inclusivity.In this episode, we’re addressing “performative allyship,” a form of superficial activism that focuses on the appearance of allyship rather than meaningful action, and discussing how “allies” can and should do better.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 09. Corporate Greed & Rainbow CapitalismListen to Episode 16. Being an Ally (with Cheyenne Filipczyk)Additional Resources:Corporate Performative Allyship: It’s Hurting Your Bottom LinePerformative Allyship: How to Spot It and Avoid Engaging with ItPerformative Allies Are Out Here Being Fake As HellThere's More to Allyship Than Pride and RainbowsPride Month Marketing: Avoid Performative AllyshipTrue Allyship: A Toolkit for Allies of the LGBTQIA+ CommunitySupport the showGet Your Merch

Throughout LGBTQ+ history, drag has held an essential role as a form of expression, resistance, and solidarity, offering a platform for self-discovery and challenging societal norms. From fighting back in the Stonewall Riots to raising funds for research during the AIDS crisis, it has been instrumental in fostering community, amplifying voices, and advocating for equality and acceptance.In this episode, Bev (@itsbevbitch), Philadelphia’s very own Queen of Comedy, joins us to share her experiences as a fabulous drag performer and how drag continues to intersect activism while pushing back against anti-drag legislation.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 73. Brunch: The Most Important Gay Meal of the DayAdditional Resources:Learn More About BevWatch Bev’s PerformancesFollow Bev on InstagramFollow Bev on TikTokFollow Bev on FacebookFollow Bev on XBook Bev on CameoSupport BevThe Extraordinary Rise of Drag Brunch: A Dining Delight or a Betrayal of Queer History?Support the showGet Your Merch

Despite the rainbows and parades, Pride tends to remind the LGBTQ+ people of the systemic oppression queer communities have faced, highlighting the ongoing journey toward true equality. Amidst this struggle, it's crucial to embrace and celebrate queer joy as a testament to resilience and a beacon of hope for a more inclusive future.In this episode, we’re delving into the importance of queer joy and how we can embrace it year-round to challenge the narrative that being queer is rooted in trauma while continuing to raise our voices for further progress and equality.Additional Resources:Queer Joy: What It is and Why We Need More of ItSustaining Queer Joy and Potentiality: Through Independent Production with Homoground Music PodcastThe Art of Queer JoyQueer Joy As EmpowermentCelebrating Queer Joy During PrideThis is What LGBTQ+ Joy Looks LikeThe Queer Joy ProjectThe Queer Joy Project: Tell Your StoryThe Queer Joy Project: Get InvolvedSupport the showGet Your Merch

Poetry serves as a rich medium where the intersecting identities of gay men, encompassing aspects of sexuality, gender, race, class, and more, intertwine to craft narratives that reflect the multifaceted experiences and perspectives within the LGBTQ+ community.In this episode, Anthony DiPietro, author of kiss & release, joins us to discuss the importance of inclusive literature, the queerness of poetry, and incorporating pride in his writing.Additional Resources:Learn More About Anthony DiPietroFollow Anthony DiPietro on InstagramRead kiss & releaseSupport the showGet Your Merch

In previous episodes, we discussed how the shifting dynamics of gayborhoods and dating app culture have impacted queer nightlife. While the closure of traditional gay bars might be viewed by some as a cause for concern, it fosters a broader conversation about the organic evolution of queer social spaces.In this episode, Amin Ghaziani, Professor of Sociology and Canada Research Chair in Sexuality and Urban Studies at the University of British Columbia and author of six books and countless academic articles, joins us to discuss his research and findings on today’s queer nightlife and how we can all work together to create a future where every individual finds belonging and celebration in our shared spaces.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 17. Mobsters & Mos: How the Mafia Owned Gay NightlifeListen to Episode 24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor?Listen to Episode 96. Should You Swipe Left on Gay Dating Apps?Additional Resources:Learn More About Amin GhazianiFollow Amin Ghaziani on InstagramFollow Amin Ghaziani on XRead Long Live Queer NightlifeRead Why Gayborhoods Matter: The Street Empirics of Urban SexualitiesSupport the showGet Your Merch

In previous episodes, we discussed the origins of Pride and the importance of continuing to stand up for equality. However, members of the LGBTQ+ community debate the meaning, purpose, and execution of modern-day Pride celebrations, which highlights the lack of diversity within mainstream events.In this episode, Tyrell Brown, Executive Director of the radical social justice organization Galaei, joins us to discuss the importance of intersectionality and the ongoing work needed to ensure that Pride truly reflects the diversity of our community.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 08. Finding Your CommunityListen to Episode 09. Corporate Greed & Rainbow CapitalismAdditional Resources:Learn More About Tyrell BrownFollow Tyrell Brown on InstagramLearn More About GalaeiLearn More About Philly Pride 365Follow Galaei on InstagramFollow Galaei on FacebookFollow Galaei on XSupport the showGet Your Merch

Following the Stonewall Riots, San Francisco’s Castro District gained a reputation for its relative openness and soon emerged as a gay haven. During the 1970s and 1980s, a group of predominantly white, masculine-presenting gay men gained prominence for their uniform aesthetic, characterized by closely cropped hair, well-groomed mustaches, denim attire, and a rugged, hyper-masculine appearance.In this episode, we’re exploring the origins and characteristics of this archetype, referred to as the Castro Clone, along with some famous Clones, and how this subculture both challenged and perpetuated narrow ideals of masculinity.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 19. The Queer History of DiscoListen to Episode 24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor‪?‬ Listen to Episode 81. Are Mustaches Gay?Listen to Episode 82. Gay Gym CultureListen to Episode 86. Turn Off Your Code-SwitchingListen to Episode 92. Metrosexual MadnessAdditional Resources:Castro CloneCastro District, San FranciscoThe History of the CastroCruisin’ with the Mustache CrewArthur EvansHow the '70s “Clone” Look Paved the Way for the Queer Clothing of TodayThe Incredibly Gay History of Manly ClothesAfraid You're Not Butch Enough?The Fabulous Sylvester: The Legend, the Music, the Seventies in San FranciscoSupport the showGet Your Merch

Healthcare promotes the wellbeing of individuals and fosters societal resilience by addressing health challenges, preventing diseases, and providing essential medical support. However, marginalized communities, such as the LGBTQ+ community, have historically encountered challenges in accessing inclusive healthcare, facing discrimination, stigmatization, and inadequate understanding of their unique health needs.In this episode, Max Austin, author of How Can We Be Wrong?, joins us to discuss his experiences as a nurse coming out during the early 1990s HIV/AIDS crisis and ways to advocate for more inclusive healthcare.Additional Resources:Learn More About Max AustinBuy How Can We Be Wrong?Follow Max Austin on InstagramFollow Max Austin on TikTokFollow Max Austin on XSupport the showGet Your Merch

Societal pressures surrounding marriage often fuel negative perceptions of being single, creating undue stress and stigma for those who haven't followed traditional relationship paths. Meanwhile, gay men may encounter challenges in forming healthy long-term relationships due to societal prejudices, lack of legal recognition, and historical marginalization, contributing to a higher prevalence of singlehood within the community.In this episode, we’re exploring the joys of embracing singlehood, finding happiness in solitude, and navigating the journey towards self-love while overcoming the societal stigma and pressures of single-shaming.Additional Resources:Single PersonHow Many People are Single in the World? Answered 2024What Single Shaming is and How to Respond If Someone Does It to You'Single Shaming': Why People Jump to Judge the Un-PartneredGay Promiscuity StatisticsThe Effect of Sexual Orientation on Singlehood: Evidence from the Greek Cultural Context57% of Single Adults in U.S. Not Looking to Date, Survey SaysNormalize Being Single in Your 30s as a Healthy Relationship StatusReasons Why You Need to Embrace SinglehoodHow to Embrace Being SingleSupport the showGet Your Merch