Conscious Dominance

In this week's episode of CONSCIOUS DOMINANCE, Eric tackles why most men fail at real transformation—they quit right before the breakthrough happens. He reveals a hard truth: adults don't change in isolation, and comfort is the enemy of growth and power. Drawing from his work with men's groups, recovery circles, and intimate partnerships, Eric explains why we need at least one other person who believes in us to create lasting change. He breaks down the four stages of competence and shows why most men get stuck at stage two, where growth feels like failure and triggers the ego. The key insight? Your discomfort is data, not defeat, and being incompetent is a necessary step before becoming competent.About Conscious DominanceThe Conscious Dominance podcast was born from weekly conversations between two friends, Andrew & Eric. Every week, we would connect and talk about the ways that our roles as Dominants in long term, loving Dominant/submissive relationships were calling us to higher integrity, and demanding the absolute best from each of us as men. And in those conversations, we realized how much other men might benefit from being let in on these conversations. So we started recording them for you. About EricEric's work as a coach, astrologer, and modern day mystic supports men in their embodiment and building their deep inner strength. You can find more about Eric's work through the Elemental Arts Initiative at https://elementalartsinitiative.com . And together with his long term partner and submissive Rachael runs Aerosha, teaching men and women to heal, sustain, and integrate themselves in sustainable and lasting ways. Aerosha can be found at https://aerosha.com.

In this revealing episode, Eric and Rachael expose the invisible contracts we unknowingly sign with society—unconscious agreements that dictate how much we're allowed to receive, feel good, and take up space. When guilt becomes your constant companion and you can't accept help without calculating how to pay it back, they reveal the programming that's been extracting from you while keeping you small. They explore how women especially become unconscious subs to systems that don't serve them—people-pleasing their way through life while managing everyone else's emotions and carrying invisible loads. From Rachael's journey of learning to receive without guilt to Eric's recognition of his own unconscious contracts around status and success, they show how these invisible agreements keep us trapped in cycles of depletion and obligation. They reveal why guilt often signals where you've given your power away to programming that doesn't consider your wellbeing, how breaking these contracts isn't selfish but generous, and why conscious dominance means helping your partner recognize where they're unconsciously submissive to systems that diminish them. About Conscious DominanceThe Conscious Dominance podcast was born from weekly conversations between two friends, Andrew & Eric. Every week, we would connect and talk about the ways that our roles as Dominants in long term, loving Dominant/submissive relationships were calling us to higher integrity, and demanding the absolute best from each of us as men. And in those conversations, we realized how much other men might benefit from being let in on these conversations. So we started recording them for you. About RachaelFondly known as a sensory-sommelier and catalytic-conversationalist, Rachael Dunville works globally as an avant-garde intimacy artist and movement muse at her acclaimed company AEROSHA, founded in 2008. Schedule a 1:1 session with Rachael: https://aerosha.as.me/schedule/c588dcc1/appointment/11783628/calendar/2143007?appointmentTypeIds[]=11783628Learn more about Rachael & AEROSHA on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/aerosha/https://www.aerosha.art/About EricEric's work as a coach, astrologer, and modern day mystic supports men in their embodiment and building their deep inner strength. You can find more about Eric's work through the Elemental Arts Initiative at https://elementalartsinitiative.com . And together with his long term partner and submissive Rachael runs Aerosha, teaching men and women to heal, sustain, and integrate themselves in sustainable and lasting ways. Aerosha can be found at https://aerosha.com.

**The audio’s not perfect on this one—we had a tech gremlin in the mix. But the conversation is fire, so we’re releasing it raw—aligned with the DSRX ethos of showing up real over shiny.**In this raw episode, Eric and Rachael tackle what most couples desperately avoid: being triggered at the same time. When your relationship becomes the mirror you didn't ask for and discomfort feels constant, they reveal why this might actually mean your relationship is working perfectly. They explore the sacred friction of conscious partnership—where growth doesn't always feel good, triggers become teachers, and staying connected through the mess becomes an art form.From Rachael learning to be "bratty" and emotionally messy to Eric discovering that masculine presence means being affected by your partner's storms while staying centered anyway, they show how relationships become laboratories for transformation rather than comfort zones. They reveal why trying to soothe each other's triggers prevents growth, how "trusting the trigger to teach" creates unshakeable devotion, and why the friction IS the intimacy. If you're ready to stop performing relationship and start practicing it—messy, alive, and fully human—this episode shows you how conscious dominance transforms triggers into the foundation of deeper love.About Conscious DominanceThe Conscious Dominance podcast was born from weekly conversations between two friends, Andrew & Eric. Every week, we would connect and talk about the ways that our roles as Dominants in long term, loving Dominant/submissive relationships were calling us to higher integrity, and demanding the absolute best from each of us as men. And in those conversations, we realized how much other men might benefit from being let in on these conversations. So we started recording them for you. About RachaelFondly known as a sensory-sommelier and catalytic-conversationalist, Rachael Dunville works globally as an avant-garde intimacy artist and movement muse at her acclaimed company AEROSHA, founded in 2008. Schedule a 1:1 session with Rachael: https://aerosha.as.me/schedule/c588dcc1/appointment/11783628/calendar/2143007?appointmentTypeIds[]=11783628Learn more about Rachael & AEROSHA on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/aerosha/https://www.aerosha.art/About EricEric's work as a coach, astrologer, and modern day mystic supports men in their embodiment and building their deep inner strength. You can find more about Eric's work through the Elemental Arts Initiative at https://elementalartsinitiative.com . And together with his long term partner and submissive Rachael runs Aerosha, teaching men and women to heal, sustain, and integrate themselves in sustainable and lasting ways. Aerosha can be found at https://aerosha.com.

In this episode, Eric explores conscious dominance as an art form that transcends traditional masculine energy and control-based leadership. He reveals why conscious masculinity requires thinking like an artist rather than an engineer, embracing mystery and relational volatility as raw material for authentic leadership and spiritual growth. Eric breaks down the difference between old-paradigm dominance that seeks to control feminine energy, versus conscious dominance that creates space for your partner's full expression while maintaining masculine presence and emotional regulation.He gets practical about masculine development and relationship mastery—how to hold space for emotional complexity without being reactive, why curiosity trumps control in relationship dynamics, and how conscious communication creates atmosphere rather than just managing outcomes. From dealing with feminine storm energy to understanding that relationship transformation happens through reverence for the unknown, Eric explores how masculine spirituality and emotional intelligence work together in conscious relationships. This is about becoming the artist of your relational experience, using vulnerability and emotional awareness to create intimate connection and relationship empowerment through conscious partnership and spiritual masculinity.About Conscious DominanceThe Conscious Dominance podcast was born from weekly conversations between two friends, Andrew & Eric. Every week, we would connect and talk about the ways that our roles as Dominants in long term, loving Dominant/submissive relationships were calling us to higher integrity, and demanding the absolute best from each of us as men. And in those conversations, we realized how much other men might benefit from being let in on these conversations. So we started recording them for you. About EricEric's work as a coach, astrologer, and modern day mystic supports men in their embodiment and building their deep inner strength. You can find more about Eric's work through the Elemental Arts Initiative at https://elementalartsinitiative.com . And together with his long term partner and submissive Rachael runs Aerosha, teaching men and women to heal, sustain, and integrate themselves in sustainable and lasting ways. Aerosha can be found at https://aerosha.com.

In this episode, Eric and Rachael explore what happens after the silence is broken in relationship dynamics. When someone finally speaks their truth about emotional burden and invisible labor, the real question becomes: what will you do with it? They break down the difference between taking someone's relationship pain away versus taking it on, and why one builds intimate connection while the other keeps couples stuck in the same patterns of avoiding discomfort.Eric and Rachael get practical about the craft of conscious discomfort—how to choose your pain and reframe it as fuel instead of burden, why resistance creates suffering while feeling creates connection in partnership dynamics. From domestic responsibility like carrying groceries to emotional caretaking when your partner is overwhelmed, they explore masculine leadership that begins after awareness, the energy behind your effort, and why loving the work matters more than just doing it. They share the connection between relationship stagnation and invisible labor, plus how transforming struggle through conscious dominance creates relationship maturity when you become the one who notices without being asked.About Conscious DominanceThe Conscious Dominance podcast was born from weekly conversations between two friends, Andrew & Eric. Every week, we would connect and talk about the ways that our roles as Dominants in long term, loving Dominant/submissive relationships were calling us to higher integrity, and demanding the absolute best from each of us as men. And in those conversations, we realized how much other men might benefit from being let in on these conversations. So we started recording them for you. About RachaelFondly known as a sensory-sommelier and catalytic-conversationalist, Rachael Dunville works globally as an avant-garde intimacy artist and movement muse at her acclaimed company AEROSHA, founded in 2008. Schedule a 1:1 session with Rachael: https://aerosha.as.me/schedule/c588dcc1/appointment/11783628/calendar/2143007?appointmentTypeIds[]=11783628Learn more about Rachael & AEROSHA on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/aerosha/https://www.aerosha.art/About EricEric's work as a coach, astrologer, and modern day mystic supports men in their embodiment and building their deep inner strength. You can find more about Eric's work through the Elemental Arts Initiative at https://elementalartsinitiative.com . And together with his long term partner and submissive Rachael runs Aerosha, teaching men and women to heal, sustain, and integrate themselves in sustainable and lasting ways. Aerosha can be found at https://aerosha.com.

In this powerful episode of Conscious Dominance, Eric invites Rachael to dive deeper into their insights on pain and how mindful presence can transform it into fuel for growth and creativity. They explore how men and women in masculine and feminine poles handle discomfort differently within intentional relationships.Rachael reveals the invisible emotional and logistical labor women often carry and shares her journey of learning to use her authentic voice instead of performing "fine." The conversation explores David Deida's relationship stages, moving from self-interest to empathy within conscious relationships. Eric discusses how taking on a woman's pain becomes fuel for masculine transformation, while Rachael explains the discomfort of receiving care and voicing truth without apology.Drawing from Brene Brown's work on empathy, this episode offers couples practical insights to transform hidden pain into honest intimacy through conscious effort and presence.About Conscious DominanceThe Conscious Dominance podcast was born from weekly conversations between two friends, Andrew & Eric. Every week, we would connect and talk about the ways that our roles as Dominants in long term, loving Dominant/submissive relationships were calling us to higher integrity, and demanding the absolute best from each of us as men. And in those conversations, we realized how much other men might benefit from being let in on these conversations. So we started recording them for you. About RachaelFondly known as a sensory-sommelier and catalytic-conversationalist, Rachael Dunville works globally as an avant-garde intimacy artist and movement muse at her acclaimed company AEROSHA, founded in 2008. Schedule a 1:1 session with Rachael: https://aerosha.as.me/schedule/c588dcc1/appointment/11783628/calendar/2143007?appointmentTypeIds[]=11783628Learn more about Rachael & AEROSHA on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/aerosha/https://www.aerosha.art/About EricEric's work as a coach, astrologer, and modern day mystic supports men in their embodiment and building their deep inner strength. You can find more about Eric's work through the Elemental Arts Initiative at https://elementalartsinitiative.com . And together with his long term partner and submissive Rachael runs Aerosha, teaching men and women to heal, sustain, and integrate themselves in sustainable and lasting ways. Aerosha can be found at https://aerosha.com.

In this compelling interview from “The Sensual Underground Podcast,” Ildiko Csamay sits down with Eric to ask him to dive deep into the philosophy and practice of conscious dominance, the DSRX relationship model, and the beautiful paradoxes inherent in power dynamics and committed relationships. Originally aired as part of her "Dominant Men" series, this powerful interview showcases Ildiko's skillful exploration of conscious masculinity and leadership with depth and curiosity. Under Ildiko's thoughtful questioning, Eric shares his personal journey from mainstream BDSM into developing a more nuanced approach that honors both dominance and the full spectrum of feminine energy, creating space for growth, vulnerability, and authentic connection. Throughout the episode, Ildiko expertly hosts and guides Eric through explorations of how conscious dominance differs from reactive control, the importance of situational awareness in leadership, and how true polarity creates freedom rather than limitation. Ildiko leads them through discussions about the craft of hosting experiences, the role of devotion and service in relationships, and how embracing paradox—including moments of uncertainty and "retrograde" phases—can lead to deeper intimacy and personal evolution. This episode offers profound insights for anyone interested in conscious relationship dynamics, authentic masculinity, and the transformative power of intentional power exchange. We encourage you to explore more of Ildiko's thoughtful work on The Sensual Underground, with links to her podcast and social media platforms in the description below.About Conscious DominanceThe Conscious Dominance podcast was born from weekly conversations between two friends, Andrew & Eric. Every week, we would connect and talk about the ways that our roles as Dominants in long term, loving Dominant/submissive relationships were calling us to higher integrity, and demanding the absolute best from each of us as men. And in those conversations, we realized how much other men might benefit from being let in on these conversations. So we started recording them for you. About Ildiko CsamayAuthor, copywriter, tarot reader, and podcast host, Ildiko Csamay's mission is to share "essential medicine for a world that has lost its libido." Her podcast, "The Sensual Underground" is not an intellectual construct, but the space where you reconnect with the vibrant pulse of your body.The Sensual Underground - The place where we exist, the MEANING that springs from our sensuality.Contact Ildiko directly on her website: https://www.dersinnlicheuntergrund.com/contactLearn more about Ildiko on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/ildiko_csamay/https://www.youtube.com/@DerSinnlicheUntergrundAbout EricEric's work as a coach, astrologer, and modern day mystic supports men in their embodiment and building their deep inner strength. You can find more about Eric's work through the Elemental Arts Initiative at https://elementalartsinitiative.com . And together with his long term partner and submissive Rachael runs Aerosha, teaching men and women to heal, sustain, and integrate themselves in sustainable and lasting ways. Aerosha can be found at https://aerosha.com.

In this episode of Conscious Dominance, Eric explains how most men unconsciously seek women as refuge from suffering, while women are conditioned to hide their pain to meet these expectations. Exploring the fundamental principle that masculine leadership and intimate connection are built on our capacity to navigate pain rather than avoid it, Eric reframes pain as a teacher and gateway to deeper relationship dynamics, Eric emphasizes understanding feminine energy cycles and menstrual cycle awareness as essential relationship communication skills, encouraging men to embrace masculine responsibility by holding space for their partner's natural rhythms rather than expecting constant availability. Through mindful relationships, couples can transform pain from something that creates suffering into a portal for relationship healing, deeper polarity, and authentic intimacy.About Conscious DominanceThe Conscious Dominance podcast was born from weekly conversations between two friends, Andrew & Eric. Every week, we would connect and talk about the ways that our roles as Dominants in long term, loving Dominant/submissive relationships were calling us to higher integrity, and demanding the absolute best from each of us as men. And in those conversations, we realized how much other men might benefit from being let in on these conversations. So we started recording them for you. About EricEric's work as a coach, astrologer, and modern day mystic supports men in their embodiment and building their deep inner strength. You can find more about Eric's work through the Elemental Arts Initiative at https://elementalartsinitiative.com . And together with his long term partner and submissive Rachael runs Aerosha, teaching men and women to heal, sustain, and integrate themselves in sustainable and lasting ways. Aerosha can be found at https://aerosha.com.

In this transformative episode, Eric dismantles the misunderstood concept of certainty - revealing it's not arrogance or control, but your unshakeable capacity to choose your response in any moment. Drawing from Viktor Frankl's profound wisdom about the space between stimulus and response, Eric explores how true certainty becomes your anchor when external circumstances crumble.Eric reveals why hesitation equals failure, how to lead with embodied presence even when you lack all the answers, and the crucial difference between public certainty and private processing. Through raw stories of leadership under pressure - from construction sites to intimate relationship challenges - he demonstrates how to alchemize any difficult moment into growth. Looking for more updates? Join our new DSRX Newsletter here: https://www.aerosha.art/dsrx-mailinglistAbout Conscious DominanceThe Conscious Dominance podcast was born from weekly conversations between two friends, Andrew & Eric. Every week, we would connect and talk about the ways that our roles as Dominants in long term, loving Dominant/submissive relationships were calling us to higher integrity, and demanding the absolute best from each of us as men. And in those conversations, we realized how much other men might benefit from being let in on these conversations. So we started recording them for you. About EricEric's work as a coach, astrologer, and modern day mystic supports men in their embodiment and building their deep inner strength. You can find more about Eric's work through the Elemental Arts Initiative at https://elementalartsinitiative.com . And together with his long term partner and submissive Rachael runs Aerosha, teaching men and women to heal, sustain, and integrate themselves in sustainable and lasting ways. Aerosha can be found at https://aerosha.com.

In this deeply personal conversation, Eric and Rachael unveil the revolutionary DSRX framework that emerged from their own relationship journey. Moving beyond traditional dominance and submission dynamics, they explore how genuine intimacy flourishes not through rigid roles, but through cycles of devotion, service, rest, and conscious repair. Drawing from ancient wisdom traditions, astrology, and their lived experience, Eric and Rachael reveal how apparent setbacks and "retrograde" moments aren't obstacles to overcome, but essential medicine for deepening connection. Whether you're curious about conscious relationships, struggling with rigid expectations, or ready to reframe what partnership can become, this conversation offers a refreshing perspective on love as both sanctuary and sacred practice.About Conscious DominanceThe Conscious Dominance podcast was born from weekly conversations between two friends, Andrew & Eric. Every week, we would connect and talk about the ways that our roles as Dominants in long term, loving Dominant/submissive relationships were calling us to higher integrity, and demanding the absolute best from each of us as men. And in those conversations, we realized how much other men might benefit from being let in on these conversations. So we started recording them for you. About Rachael DunvilleFondly known as a sensory-sommelier and catalytic-conversationalist, Rachael Dunville works globally as an avant-garde intimacy artist and movement muse at her acclaimed company AEROSHA, founded in 2008. Schedule a 1:1 session with Rachael here or through the links on Aerosha's social media accounts.Learn more about Rachael & AEROSHA on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/aerosha/https://www.aerosha.art/About EricEric's work as a coach, astrologer, and modern day mystic supports men in their embodiment and building their deep inner strength. You can find more about Eric's work through the Elemental Arts Initiative at https://elementalartsinitiative.com . And together with his long term partner and submissive Rachael runs Aerosha, teaching men and women to heal, sustain, and integrate themselves in sustainable and lasting ways. Aerosha can be found at https://aerosha.com.