This week we talk to Toni Bernhard about not getting what we wantToni Bernhard was a law professor at the University of California—Davis when she became very ill. Since then she had dealt with, and helped teach the world about how to deal with chronic conditions.She is the author of How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and their Caregivers. Her second book is titled How to Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy and Sorrow. Her latest book is How to Live Well with Chronic Pain and Illness.  Our Sponsor this Week is FractureVisit Fracture and use the promo code “wolf” to get 10% off!!In This Interview, Toni and I DiscussThe One You Feed parableHow we are forming our personality as we goThe malleability of the mindOur inability to be nice ourselvesHow it feels good to be nice, kind and compassionateHer journey through illnessLearning to handle not getting our wayHow hard dealing with chronic illness isHow most of our suffering comes from our reaction to events, not the events themselves.Building a life within our limitationsDealing with things that are out of our controlHow pain and sorrow are inevitable but suffering is optionalFor more show notes please visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we talk to John Lee DumasJohn Lee Dumas is the Founder and Host of EntrepreneurOnFire, awarded 'Best of iTunes 2013'. John interviews today's most inspiring and successful Entrepreneurs 7-days a week and has been featured in Forbes, Fast Company, Success, INC, & TIME Magazine.John also founded the #1 Podcasting community in the world; Podcasters' Paradise; a community where over 1500 Podcasters learn how to create, grow, and monetize their podcast in a supportive environment. He just completed the book The Freedom Journal. It is designed to help you create and complete a major goal in 100 days. Our Sponsor this Week is Casper MatressesVisit casper.com/feed and use the promo code “feed” to get $50 off!! In This Interview, John and I Discuss Accomplishing Your GoalsThe One You Feed parableControlling our outlook  on lifeBeing grateful for todayThe three things he does when he feels downThe value of exercise and fresh airSurrounding ourselves with positive peopleThe legacy of Scott DinsmoreJohn's time in the armyFor more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we talk to Megan Feldman Bettencourt about forgivenessMegan Feldman Bettencourt is an award-winning writer and journalist. She has reported from many countries, and her journalism has appeared in publications including The San Francisco Chronicle, Psychology Today, Salon, The Daily Beast, Glamour, Newsday and many others. Megan is the author of the internationally-acclaimed book, TRIUMPH OF THE HEART: FORGIVENESS IN AN UNFORGIVING WORLD, which explores forgiveness through science, stories and memoir. She holds a master's degree from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism. Our Sponsor this Week is Thrive Market! Wholesome Products. Wholesale Prices.In This Interview, Megan and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableDrinking poison and expecting your enemy to dieThe story that got her interested in researching forgivenessHer definition of forgiveness- giving up resentmentHow forgiveness is not about enabling someone to avoid accountabilityHow Forgiveness and justice are not mutually exclusiveForgiving because it benefits usThe toxic effects of resentment on our bodyThe process of learning to forgiveGrieving and feeling the emotions are part of the forgiveness practiceEngaging the part of the brain that is more able to become forgiving For more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Interested in behavior change? Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change Mistakes  This week we talk to Kristin Neff about self compassionKristin Neff is a self-compassion researcher, author, and Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin. She got her Ph.D. at the University of California at Berkeley in 1997 in the field of moral development.While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically.In addition to her pioneering research into self-compassion, she has developed an 8-week program to teach self-compassion skills. The program, co-created with her colleague Chris Germer, affiliated with Harvard Medical School, is called Mindful Self-Compassion. Her book, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself was recently released in paperback.She and her family were recently featured in the documentary and book called The Horse Boy. Our Sponsor this Week is Thrive Market! Wholesome Products. Wholesale Prices.In This Interview, Kristin and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableThe difference between self-esteem and self-compassionWhat self compassion isThe research on self-compassion and its benefitsHow self-compassion increases motivationThe more self-compassionate you are, the less afraid of failure you areHow self-compassion reduces performance anxietyThe three pillars of self-compassionLearning to soothe and comfort ourselvesRemembering that all people struggle and sufferThe damaging psychological effects of isolationLearning to turn towards our own pain in order to work with itHow to practice self-compassionLearning to talk to ourselves like we would a friendFor more show notes visit our websiteInterested in behavior change? Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change MistakesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change Mistakes  This week we talk to Monk Yunrou about modern TaoismTaoist Monk Yunrou in as author, activist, and tai chi master, Yunrou (formerly known as Arthur Rosenfeld) has a lifelong relationship with Taoism. A 35-year master of Taoist arts, he was born in America and ordained a monk, by official leave, at the Pure Yang Temple in Guangzhou, China. Combining his overarching spiritual focus with a Yale literary education, the pursuit of natural history at the University of California and Cornell, he is an authority on the cultural, social, and spiritual dimensions of Eastern thinking for the Western world.Yunrou contributes to such publications as Vogue, Vanity Fair, and Parade, and has been profiled and cited in Newsweek, and other national magazines. His blog on The Huffington Post is frequently cited by other websites, including The Wall Street Journal, Fox Business News, and Reuters. He has appeared on national TV networks including Fox News, and interviewed on various podcasts and radio shows. From 2010 – 2013, Yunrou hosted the hit (56MM households tuned in) national public television show Longevity Tai Chi with Arthur Rosenfeld.His latest book is called Yin: A Love Story Our Sponsor this Week is Thrive Market! Wholesome Products. Wholesale Prices.In This Interview, Yunrou and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableThe Tao Te Ching- Eric's favorite translationHow the Tao that can be spoken is not the real TaoSeeing things in terms of binary opposites working harmoniously together.What Taoism isThe differences between Taoist meditation and Buddhist meditationTai Chi and the deep integration to TaoismThe culture which the Tao Te Ching was writtenSome of Eric's favorite sections from the Tao Te ChingHow there is no connection between money and happinessThe lack of connection we have to the modern worldHistory of Lao TzuThe concept of stewardshipFor more show notes visit our website Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change MistakesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change Mistakes  This week we talk to Guy Winch about emotional first aidGuy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, keynote and TED speaker, and author whose books have been translated into twenty languages. His most recent book is Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts .The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem  was published in January 2011. His TED Talk, Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid, has been viewed over 2.5 million times and is rated among the top 5 most inspiring talks on TED.com.Dr. Winch received his doctorate in clinical psychology from New York University in 1991 and completed a postdoctoral fellowship in family and couples therapy at NYU Medical Center. He has been working with individuals, couples and families in his private practice in Manhattan, since 1992. He is a member of the American Psychological Association.Dr. Winch also writes the popular Squeaky Wheel Blog on Psychology Today.com, and blogs for Huffington Post. Our Sponsor this Week is Thrive Market! Wholesome Products. Wholesale Prices.In This Interview, Guy Winch and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableEmotional First Aid: What it is & how to apply it in your lifeHow to triage small emotional woundsBuilding emotional resiliencyThat treating emotional wounds when they are small can prevent them from escalating into larger ones laterHow to treat the emotional wound of rejectionHow to improve low self esteemThe dangers of rumination: stewing vs. doingWhat to do when caught in a place of ruminationThe difference between rumination and trying to figure something outBuilding self compassionThe detective mindset vs. a harmful, self critical mindsetThe research Guy Winch is currently working on that's got him really excited Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change MistakesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change Mistakes This week we talk to Loch Kelly about awake awarenessLoch Kelly, MDiv, LCSW, is a teacher, consultant, and leader in the field of meditation and psychotherapy who was asked to teach by Mingyur Rinpoche and Adyashanti. The founder of the Open-Hearted Awareness Institute, he is an emerging voice in modernizing meditation, social engagement, and collaborating with neuroscientists to study how awareness training can enhance compassion and well-being.Our Sponsor this Week is Wisdom Publications. Click here to explore their offerings In This Interview Loch Kelly and I Discuss...The 4 types of parable interpretationsHis new bookThe idea of awarenessHow to feel, know, be & live from our awarenessThe "pointing out instructions" can enable us to access our true nature at any timeGlimpse practices that we can use to discover & experience our true natureThe difference between a glimpse practice & a meditative stateThat the Tibetan word for meditation is literally translated as "familiarize"What "awake awareness" meansHow to experience the bliss & joy of thought-free awarenessHow to function as "continuous intuition"That our thoughts & feelings are not the center of who we areHow to keep difficult emotions from overwhelming youWhat "local awareness" is Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change MistakesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change Mistakes  This week we talk to Deborah Schoeberlein David about integrating mindfulness into daily lifeDeborah Schoeberlein David is a teacher, education consultant and curriculum developer. Deborah's most recent book is Living Mindfully: At Home, At Work and in the World . An earlier book, Mindful Teaching and Teaching Mindfulness: A Guide for Anyone Who Teaches Anything, is now in its fourth reprint and has been translated into Spanish and Korean. Deborah's other publications include multiple articles in professional journals and trade magazines; and online postings, including more than 60 blogs for the Huffington Post.Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Deborah and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableHer new bookHow the mind naturally wandersHow mindfulness is not a panaceaBringing mindfulness into all aspects of our livesExploring different styles of meditationThe practice of adding in instead of adding onIntegrating mindfulness into activites that we are already doingFocus, Observe, RefocusLearning to break our habitual reaction patternsIncreasing the space between stimulus and response    Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change MistakesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we talk to Mark Manson about making sacrificesMark Manson is an author and personal development consultant.  His writing is a different take on the self help genre. He calls it self help from a first-person perspective.He’s been published and quoted on CNN, Huffington Post, Business Insider, Yahoo! News, The Sydney Morning Herald and a variety of other publications. He is also the CEO and Founder of Infinity Squared Media LLC. His blog is read over 2 million times a month.  Our Sponsor this Week is Athletic GreensClick here to get 50% off your first order!!  In This Interview Mark and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableBeing aware of what we think is importantOpportunity CostThe fallacy of being able to do everythingThe sacrifice inherent in doing anything greatThe subtle art of not giving a F*!%The best friend test for relationships, its not what you thinkMark's issue with The SecretThe dangers of positive thinkingHow action can be the cause of motivationFor more show notes visit our web pageSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Eric and Chris get interviewedIt has been 100 episodes of The One You Feed and as a way to makr the occasion we asked our friend Greg from the Life on Purpose podcast to interview Chris and I together. We talk about why we started the show, what it's like making it and what we've learned from it. We also feature a song that each of us has written.Thanks to each and every one of you for listening to the show.You can hear the full version of Chris' song My Body Betrays Me hereYou can hear the full version of Eric's song Grass is Greener hereOur Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.