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What is vulva mapping and Sexological Bodywork? How can a vulva mapping session help a vulva-owner to awaken sensation and expand orgasmic potential? How does this apply to lovers/partners? Our special guest, Dolly Josette, answers this and much much more (believe us...you are probably going to want to learn all about how to get your own genital mapping session after listening to this episode). And guess what? Dolly is offering a FREE SESSION to one of the winners of our upcoming Instagram campaign for Masturbation May. Be sure to follow us on Insta to learn more. Dolly is also the lead organizer for the upcoming Sexological Bodyworker training in LA. To learn more visit SexbodLA.com Oh, and if you are in the Santa Cruz, CA, are Dolly is teaching a workshop at Pure Pleasure Shop on May 15th, 2019!More about Dolly: Dolly Josette is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Sex Educator, & Relationship and Intimacy Coach, committed to seeing her clients relish in love, intimacy and perpetual fireworks. Her specialties are connection, acceptance, and relaxing her clients' nervous systems so they can begin to unwind layers of shame, routine, pain, or numbness.  Dolly teaches embodiment and attunement in a nurturing and playful approach that helps her clients prioritize pleasure and expression through self-acceptance, positive body image, movement, breath, and touch. Checkout Dolly in May 2019’s issue of cosmo. Learn more at pleasuremuse.comSome other links mentioned in the podcast:Start meditating now with this easy-to-use app + get 25% off of a Calm premium subscription by visiting calm.com/shamelesssexGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 20% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESS20 at blue boutique.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com

This episode features Amy’s beloved therapist, teacher, guide and mentor, Dr. Nicola Amadora. We talk all about relationship – with the self and with others – and tools for deeper, more profound connection. Nicola teaches us how to break through our protective walls as a means of tapping into more LOVE and ALIVENESS, including “getting naked without taking our cloths off”. And we talk about how it all translates to juicy sex ;)We also answer the sex question: My partner put on weight and I’m not very attracted to him these days. How can I improve my feelings for him?Dr. Nicola Amadora is an accomplished leader, therapist, speaker, writer and spiritual teacher. Her passion and gift is to support people to live, lead and relate with presence, connection and wholeheartedness in the world. For 30 years she has worked both in Europe and the USA with organizations, communities, groups, families, couples and individuals. In all her work, Dr. Amadora offers a rich banquet of life experience, high-level professional expertise, a deep well of wisdom and great heart to contribute to positive change in people and our world. Nicola is known for her integrity with a fierce, tender love for all beings.Nicola Amadora, Ph.D. holds University degrees in Transpersonal Psychology (JFK and IPS) and Clinical Social Work (FHS). She is a certified Hakomi Therapist (Hakomi Institute) , certified Dharma Leader (Vipassana Center, Spirit Rock), Mindfulness Teacher (Mindfulness Program Jon Kabat Zinn), Certified Meditation Teacher (Yogananda Center), , Universal Peacedance Leader (Sufi Order), Diplom Horseriding Therapist (Swize Equine Therapy Center), Rev. Interfaith Minister (New York Seminary), Mediator (JFK University), Parent Leader (Parentleadership Institute), Non Violent Communication& Conflict Resolution (NVC Center), Women Wisdom& Empowerment, Leadership and Relationship Trainer (International Education). To learn more visit nicolaamadora.comGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 20% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESS20 at blue boutique.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.comTo learn more about the American Sex Podcast visit sunnymegatron.com  

What is kink and how do I know if I'm kinky? How do I start to explore my kink, and how do I talk about it with my partner?   We also answer a sex question: I'm a healthy 42 year old man, married to my beautiful queen, and I have a hard time getting/keeping an erection. Please help. About our guest: Mike Rozycki has been active in his local kink communities since 2005. In 2018, he and his business partner started JoyMill, a company dedicated to customized kink gear. You can sign up for their mailing list and try their beta experience at www.joymill.com. Be sure to sign up for the mailing list to get first access to discounts, new products, etc. Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com    

In this episode we dive deep into female sexual arousal with award-winning author, Wholistic Sexuality teacher and medical professional, Sheri Winston. Why have women’s body parts gone missing in history? How does female ejaculation happen on a cellular level? What are some tips for female-bodied folks who want to experience more orgasmic abundance? What about partners who want to up their pleasure skills?We also answer part 2 to last week's sex question about a cis-man with no/very low libido. About Sheri: Sheri Winston is a celebrated sexuality teacher, award-winning author and medical professional. Sheri’s 2010 book, Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure (also available on audible) won the 2010 Book of the Year award from AASECT. Sheri’s 2014 book, the visionary yet practical Succulent SexCraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play and Practice, offers a detailed road map to supercharging your erotic life and becoming sexually whole and empowered. With its wealth of ideas, practices and games, readers are able to access extraordinary pleasure, overcome challenges and learn to play masterfully with their inner ‘sexcraft’ toolkit. Sheri’s Wholistic Sexuality™ curriculum has over 50 classes covering subjects such as orgasmic abundance for men and women, integral genital anatomy, expanded arousal, sex and relationship skills, and holistic sexual and women’s reproductive health. Learn more at intimateartscenter.com Start meditating now with this easy-to-use app + get 25% off of a Calm premium subscription by visiting calm.com/shamelesssexGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comDrink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com

What are the most common fantasies people have? Where do they come from? Why do we have them? And how do I talk to my partner about my fantasies? How can we bring fantasy into real life? Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011 and he has published articles in numerous media outlets, including Playboy, USA Today, VICE, Politico, and New York Magazine. To learn more visit sexandpsychology.comWe also answer a sex question: I’m a straight man engaged to a beautiful woman, but I never crave sex.For some of our favorite sexy products:Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comDrink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com We are a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts network  

World-renowned sex educator Midori discusses role-play, dominance, confidence, and making negotiation sexy. Topics include initiating sex, embracing awkwardness, setting boundaries, iconic character role-play scenarios, and enhancing confidence through posture and speech in negotiations.

In this episode we chat with Dr. Lee Phillips about chronic illness and chronic pain and how they affect sex and relationships. Dr. Phillips shares tools such as sensate focus, as well as ways partners can support their loved ones with chronic illness. We also answer a sex question: Great sex during an affair...should I leave my husband? About our guest: Dr. Melvin L. Phillips, Jr., is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a private practice in Washington, DC where he treats chronic illness and sexual dysfunction, as well as the author of the upcoming book Sex and Love When You Are Sick, due to release in late 2019. He is a speaker and has lectured on topics including preventative services, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, ethical decision making, and the assessment of mental disorders. To learn more visit www.drleephillips.com

We are SO excited about this episode. Emily Nagoski AKA one of our idols and author of the groundbreaking book Come As You Are joins us to talk all about female sexuality. We talk vulvas, clits, g-spots, orgasm, and all about how WE ARE ALL "normal”!  We also answer a sex question from a female-identified listener: Are the homosexual thoughts just in my head or should I leave my heterosexual relationship? About Emily: Emily Nagoski, Ph.D is the award-winning  author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle. She began her work as a sex educator at the University of Delaware, where volunteered as a peer sex educator while studying psychology with minors in cognitive science and philosophy. She went on to earn a M.S. in Counseling and a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies.

We have received a number of emails about asexuality, so we wanted to take a moment to speak on what is often considered “the invisible orientation”. In this episode we talk about the asexual spectrum, including aromatic and demisexuality. We answer a few questions including whether or not asexuality is real (it MOST CERTAINLY is), the difference between asexuality and low sexual desire, and more. Please note that we are not experts in this department, and we would LOVE to host someone who is, so please send them our way!

Amy's partner joins us on this week's episode as we discuss everything from how to have great sex after 5+ years, our opinion on quality vs. quantity (sex), working with worthiness issues, and communication how-to's. Enjoy!