The Madelyn Moon Show (Previously Mind Body Musings)

Episode 283: Dominick Quartuccio is an international speaker, executive coach to high-performing men and women in burnout-rich environments. Dominick is an outspoken leader of men doing inner work and co-hosts The Great Man Within Podcast, a high-performing man’s guide to personal development…which ironically has an audience 50% comprised of women. His live event series, The Discerning Dick: Sexual Wisdom for the Modern Man https://www.doinnerwork.com/discerning-dick also attracts an audience of 50% women…who want to support men doing inner work in their sexual lives. He is the author of Design Your Future, 3 Steps to Stop Drifting and Take Command of Your Life http://geni.us/designyourfuture. Dominick Quartuccio runs both men’s retreats https://www.doinnerwork.com/retreats and women’s retreats https://vimeo.com/368040703/23c528b2aa for those looking to intentionally design the next decade of their lives. Dominick’s work has been featured in the NY Times, NPR’s All Things Considered and on the TEDx stage https://www.ted.com/talks/dominick_quartuccio_the_bold_journey_women_want_men_to_take. Show notes: We don’t want to close our hearts. We don’t want to nag. We don’t want to complain. We don’t thrive in states of chronic closure. Madelyn's Instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/B5qH9UbnRhA/   “If a man cannot stand up to her, he cannot stand up for her—and she will feel that.” - Dominick Quartuccio “I believe that women are so entirely equal in all value that nothing is taken from us if we choose to surrender to man—not by someone who is unconscious, or in an unsafe container, but by the chosen man.” Why Dominick's romantic partners have been calling for his “dark side.” "Women want to feel your open heart, but they don’t want a soft man. When you just open your heart and not become the conscious warrior, then she loses respect for you— maybe she still loves you, she just doesn’t want to fuck you." The trend with women stepping into more of their feelings. Who Dominick works with: men who are “publicly decorated and privately confused” and women who are successful in male-dominated businesses. The Feminine spirit school is open now - early bird is still available: https://maddymoon.teachable.com/p/feminine-spirit-school Ways that women create their mental toughness and how to surrender. 5 practices to make you a mentally tougher man podcast episode HERE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/5-practices-to-make-you-mentally-tougher-man-dominick/id986223478?i=1000456418279 When to know when you’re at one end of the extreme with your masculine/feminine energy. To bring the balance back, really feel into what is and just listen. How to know the difference between intuition and resistance of doing the work. Any time we set a goal, it’s the feeling that we’re after. If you’re not clear on your feeling with what you’re going after, the very thing that you’re going after may leave you feeling empty. “Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.” (Masculine without the Feminine is the failure.) Domicki’s 1-week experiment. Men’s survey - the things that drive men crazy. The importance of revealing pleasure without any words. Connect with Dominick: Website: https://www.doinnerwork.com/ Podcast: https://www.doinnerwork.com/podcast https://www.instagram.com/dominickq/Instagram:     Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 282: Madelyn Moon discusses how to gently reveal the feminine so you can create and embody all the juicy relationships that you desire. Madelyn discloses how to do this using humor, tenderness, and her favorite, sexuality. The feminine must learn how to reveal her energy and emotions in a way that’s connected to her heart. Revealing your feminine and embodying more heartfelt energy allows the masculine to go deeper, leading to the polarized relationship that so many yearn for.    This episode also discusses the power of setting ground rules and boundaries. It’s important during this busy time of year to have your practices to help you move through the chaotic energy and just chill the f*ck out. Madelyn reminds you to sit with your thoughts, energy and emotions, and become comfortable with the ebb and flow of this time of year.   Show notes: “Revealing your feminine is having an outward and inward demonstration of your emotional current moment to moment.” Feel it in your body first if you want to feel more of your feminine. Touch your yoni; touch your breasts to create more femininity.  The most powerful movements that will help to reveal the feminine.  Why do we want to reveal our feminine? “If you turn off your grief, you also turn off our joy.” Stop robbing people from their own joy of doing something for you.  Your ability to feel things is of service to the masculine in the world. The deeper you go into your feminine, the more he’ll go into his masculine. “Husband” your feminine.  “The feminine must learn how to reveal her energy/emotions in a way that’s connected to her heart.” Rather than complaining and using words, use embodiment—use sounds. 3 stages of communication with David Deida episode HERE.  Revealing your feminine involves humor, tenderness, sexuality. "If you want to be in a polarized relationship, be willing to do something out of the box, out of the name of love." Be the one to open first when you really want to close. Use less words. We can get more of what we want without using words. Giving what we so desperately want is the best way for him to give you what you want. Why Madelyn no longer uses sarcasm.  Remain unattached completely.  Reveal your feminine joy. There’s no glory in being a martyr.  Notice if you set him up to fail before you give him a chance Notice how he shows up as a reflection of you - “out feminine him” Hold the pose - do it more and more and more.   Connect with Maddy: Facebook Instagram Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Download my Four Favorite Feminine Embodiment Practices Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 281: Jillian Richardson is committed to creating connection and community by organizing places where people feel seen, heard, and valued. As a professional community builder, public speaker, and writer, Jillian is most known for being the founder of The Joy List, a weekly newsletter with the mission of reducing loneliness in New York City and eventually the world. She's been sending it out every Monday morning for three years, helping thousands of people build connection to both place and each other. In addition to her successful career in community consulting and event design, Jillian Richardson has just released her first book and #1 Amazon new release, Unlonely Planet.   Show notes: Feminine Spirit School - Create Your Own Feminine Flow, Fire and Freedom HERE How did the Joy List get started? The impact that Donald Trump getting elected had on the Joy List. The average American has 1 close friend. 75% of Americans are not satisfied with their friends that they do have. “I think we don’t have the skills anymore to have deep relationships. We lack the skills it takes to form deep relationships.” Most people are hungry for a deep connection. Why we normally give more emphasis to our romantic relationships than friendships. Soul friend - “Anam Cara” We treat friendships as our secondary values when really they need to be first.  Friendships can be just as triggering as our romantic relationships. The signs of a really special relationship. “Hair and nail” friends “When you’re not doing the inner work, the friendship (container) isn’t clear.”  Way #1: Let people publically know what you’re looking for. Way #2: Let people know if you want to be in a deep relationship with them.  “Consistency is key when it comes to deepening friendships and that requires vulnerability for asking for consistency in the first place.” How do you approach someone who you’re interested in being friends with? Way #3: Volunteer Way #4: find spaces where you can share with strangers. The balance between authenticity and protecting your energy. Way #5: enter generational spaces Jillian’s ideal 4-hour event. What Jillian wants more of in life. Must-read book: Death Over Dinner by Michael Hebb and Anam Cara by John Donahue   Connect with Jillian: Website Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change the World Facebook Instagram - Joy List Instagram - Jillian Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 280: Do you often resist masculine structure and leadership? Is your body screaming that it isn’t a good fit for you, or is it your fear/ego coming up to keep you safe from going outside your comfort zone? Do you often question whether it’s fear that’s holding you back or your intuition?    It can be tricky to navigate structure and leadership with our flow and creativity. It can be difficult to distinguish between a hard “no” and what fear is telling us we should do to keep us safe. It can be challenging to know if it’s our intuition or our laziness that’s keeping us from going on the date, attending the networking event, starting our own business, etc.   If you’ve been trying to navigate these waters, listen to this podcast episode as Madelyn explains how she checks in with herself to know whether it’s intuition or fear. She gives you several examples, as well as offers her best tools, so you can easily move forward with processing your decisions with ease.    Show notes: We see our own resistance to structure reflected in others. The main reason why we refuse to have someone lead.  Why we often reject the masculine container.   How to go inward to see how to create your own boundaries. Why your ego is simply trying to keep you safe.  The difference between intuition and laziness. We’re often trying to validate not wanting to go to the event we signed up, so we call it "intuition". “Intuition is more instantaneous—it’s not a slow roll.” Madelyn's example of intuition leading. Guidelines on how to go deeper to questioning your fear and getting curious on the why. "We're moving from discipline fatigue to decision fatigue and the balance is to find a middle ground." The necessary barrier around social media. When we don't go to the event you signed up for, you're really saying: “I don’t want to feel uncomfortable so I’m just going to stay home." How to summon in your masculine energy. Purpose-driven (masculine) vs feeling-driven (feminine). Why commitment is hard for feminine beings.  "3 circles of commitment” tool. The importance of having a structured detox. “You can have structure around your lack of structure.” Creating structure with a daily practice of giving yourself 30 days off or 30 days on.  Feminine Spirit School (your one-stop-shop for all things feminine and masculine energy) begins in January. Learn more HERE.    Connect with Maddy: Facebook Instagram Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes Download my Four Favourite Feminine Embodiment Practices Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 279: Courtney Davis is an entrepreneur and a guide for women on the path of sexual & spiritual awakening. She is the founder of The Empowered Woman, an online platform providing education & high-quality products to support women to heal from sexual shame, trauma, & conditioning while awakening their pleasure & power. Courtney Davis believes in radical self-permission and her highest joy is guiding others to live their full potential by first guiding them home to themselves. She is known for guiding women into reconnection with their emotional body rather than bypassing it, and believes this to be a major key to women’s sexual empowerment.   Show notes: Feminine spirit school starting soon Wands that have properties toward sexual healing. Her experience with S-Factor and why she moved to New York City. The foundation of her work and why she got started. The creation of her crystal pleasure wands and how they promote sexual healing. Madelyn’s favorite: the cervix serpent. Madelyn’s deep surrender practice with the serpent wand. Courtney’s experience with receiving a yoni massage from a mentor. How to know who you can trust your body with. Her six-month tantric experience. What is the “trauma vortex?” Courtney's core qualities and why she resonates now with femininity than masculinity.  “Anything that is truly uncomfortable, is masculine.” “The whole tantric world is not all bliss.”  The self-beliefs that she’s been on a mission to heal and shatter. Why she may move out of the sexual healing space eventually. Her preference for monogamy. “Commitment can create a lot of safety.” “Getting in touch with the deep feminine longing while we wait for our masculine is really beautiful. You meet more of yourself by being present to that.” “It’s a beautiful practice to not have what you really want.” Sensitize yourself to the fact that you don’t have it—allow yourself to be sad and angry. Do not desensitize yourself to that. “The irony is we meet all the uncomfortable parts of us without needing to solve them, the more deeply we can meet another because that capacity is there.”  Wands HERE Enter: MADDYMOON for 10% Off Viva La Vagina Course HERE Enter: MADDYMOON for 10% Off   Connect with Courtney: Website Instagram Facebook Women-Only Facebook Group: Yoni Pleasure & Awakening Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 278: Do you want help in going after your dreams—the ones that you feel are totally unobtainable, but keep burning within you? Do you want to get better at the work you do? Do you want to finally take that plunge and move across the world? Whatever your big desire is, hiring a coach can help you obtain in.   In this episode, Madelyn Moon discusses why everyone needs a coach to obtain the life you truly desire. Coaches are the reason why people are taking their dreams seriously. When we put down our money to hire a coach and declare to the Universe that we're ready, a beautiful, transformative journey begins. The Universe meets you halfway with your desire and helps you bring your dream to fruition. If you've got a dream—a vision, a burning desire, this podcast episode is for you.   Show notes: "Finding expanders in life" - a coined term by Lacy Phillips  Madelyn’s journey with her first coach. How Madelyn was able to afford a coach that was out of her price range at the time. Why she coached 20 people for free. “I trust that when things are not perfect—that's the way they're supposed to be.” “Every time I have made an eternal leap, the universe has rewarded me.” Currency is the root word of 'current' - currency is supposed to be flowing.  Energetically, when you clamp on your money, you’re clamping on the flow. Money is like germs—you just wash it off and it comes right back. The missing part in manifestation is the action. Sometimes spending money is meeting the universe halfway.  The online courses that Madelyn created. Why she finally felt confident to do retreats. Coaches are the reason why people are taking their dreams seriously. “When we’re about to make a change, we’re hyper-aware of the loss.” It’s not about the time that we’re spending with a coach—it's about the impact, which can take place in less than a minute. Must-read: You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero Must-read: Time Warrior by Steven Chandler Must-read: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert  The art of calendar blocking and how it's changing her workflow. “Because you pay the money, you take the coaching more seriously.” Why Madelyn will forever have a coach and an investment in her life. Email me - hello@maddymoon.com When you spend an amount that’s larger than what you might normally do, look at all of the reasons why that investment is deeper than the physical amount.   Connect with Maddy: Facebook Instagram Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes Download my Four Favourite Feminine Embodiment Practices Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 277: In this podcast episode, Madelyn Moon helps you to understand the three stages of communication introduced by David Deida. According to David Deida, an international teacher and author, there are 3 stages of relating. These stages govern how we share our desires and feelings in this world with the most important people in our life.   Madelyn has been living her life by these stages of communication for the past two years. She's becoming more empowered and embodied by this work, leading to deeper, fulfilling relationships, as well as more fun and a playful nature. She's never taught this information before as she wanted to fully become immersed it in well enough to articulate it, but it's time she passes this juicy information on to you to transform and heal your current relationships.   Through this brief introduction and the several examples that she gives, you'll understand how to love deeper, express yourself fully and give your greatest gifts in your relationships.   Show notes:  Stage 1: Archetype - The 1960's submissive housewife and the macho breadwinner. This stage is what we experience most of the time in this world. It's our old wounds/trauma being reenacted over and over.  "Repressed, shut-down archetype" — we're given a role and we have to stick with it. “Withholding is not how we create loving, deep partnership.”  How to share your truth so that the person is magnetized by you.  Stage 2: Archetype - The working girl and the sensitive boy. “I” statements—speaking from your perspective. "When this happened, I felt..." Very communicative… you feel a trigger and you’re upfront about it. Stage 3: Archetype - the radiant goddess and the warrior of love. You bring your gift of creativity and embodiment to your partner— you take the focus off of you.  This is where polarity comes from.  Masculine’s nervous system is really thick because they’ve had years of being desensitized.  Example: wanting your partner to help you clean.  Feminine: there’s never enough love. Masculine: there’s always so many burdens. “Give the thing that you would like to receive.” How to make people-pleasing light and fun: “I’m a very bad girl.”  Masculine Haka dance HERE   Connect with Maddy: Facebook Instagram Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes Download my Four Favourite Feminine Embodiment Practices Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 276: Dr. Jordana Jacobs is a clinical psychologist in private practice in New York City. Her approach is integrative, combining psychodynamic and existential therapy into her treatment of patients. Dr. Jacobs’ training at Memorial Sloan Kettering working with terminally ill cancer patients, her studies in Northern India, and her Vipassana meditation practice inspired her research on the complex relationship between death awareness and love. Her dissertation, entitled “Till Death do us Part: The Effect of Mortality Salience on Satisfaction in Long-term Romantic Relationships” specifically explored the ways in which priming for death has the potential to increase intimacy in partnerships. In addition to seeing patients, Dr. Jordana Jacobs now gives talks and leads meditations aimed towards helping people accept inevitable mortality so that they are able to live and love more fully. Show notes:Must-read book: On life After Death by Elizabeth Kubler-RossEmbodied Archetype Retreat: Unlock parts of yourself that you've been shaming, blaming or hiding for too long. Apply here.Feminine Spirit School - the one-stop-shop for all things feminine energy! HEREDr. Jordana Jacob’s background that led her to this impactful work.The destructive narratives that we tell ourselves about death.Why thinking we might go to hell is still preferable to many people rather than the unknown.The incredible story of her great aunt who survived the holocaust with false papers who was in love with a German officer. Why death was incredibly helpful to think about when she was going through heartbreak.“Death is an anchor.”Death is really about surrender and lack of control.Esther Perel - “Fire meets air.”Buddhist parable: real flowers vs plastic flowers.“The more you try to stop it, the more it will come.”“Anything we cling to is a form of attachment.”What Dr. Jordana Jacob says to people who have a tremendous fear of death.“Fear and love can’t live in the same house.” Bobby Klein Two questions to ask at the end of your life: Am I love and did I love?The pure, unconditional love we have for animals and how to process their deaths.What Dr. Jordana Jacob thinks happens when we die.The importance of “death reminders.”“You have to think about death 5 times a day in order to live fully.”Death reminder app HEREHer written exercise to put death into perspective.“We live 2 lives, and the second one begins when we realize we only have one.” - Confucius If you act out of fear, you speed up your life.“Presence is where we access love.”“Dating: We’re doing it wrong” article HEREMust read: Let's Talk About Death Over Dinner by Michael Hebb and The 5 Invitations by Frank Ostaseski  Connect with Dr. Jordana Jacobs:InstagramWebsiteAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 275: Self-love memes can have quite an impact on us—both positively and negatively. This podcast episode is all about debunking popular "inspirational" self-love memes that float around the interwebs. We normally think of memes as relatively harmless, but they're often used to propagate ideas and influence thoughts in our culture, which can be dangerous when you don't take the time to truly pay attention to what's behind the words.    Madelyn Moon is stepping on her soapbox to talk about one self-love meme in particular that got her attention recently. The meme states, "If I disappear on you, it's out of self-love." She discusses why this meme is incredibly toxic to our psyche. She explains why popular memes such as this can cause dissonance, wounds, and even trauma for people.   Show notes: 8-week Feminine Spirit School Course gets started January 6th: Learn about the feminine/masculine, shadow sides, ancestral healing, boundary setting, empowerment, sensuality and sexuality, sovereignty and so much more. Sign up HERE.  Embodied Archetype Retreat with Jamie Wollrab HERE How to identify when a commitment is something you should let go of. "The 3 questions to ask yourself for fierce self-honesty" episode HERE Why we shouldn't give so much power to our feelings.  Why Madelyn doesn’t agree with a lot of self-love memes and why they’re harmful. An explanation of the 3 different attachment styles. Saying that you’re going to disappear is actually saying: “I have no idea how I feel and I'm completely uncomfortable with my desires in this relationship." Anyone who is disappearing on someone is coming from a place of not knowing how to articulate their feelings—not wanting to feel uncomfortable with that conversation and show their true vulnerability.  Why we’re confusing what boundaries are in our society.  Madelyn’s anxious attachment style.  “Many people are saying no to things that have the deepest possibility for growth, in the name of self-love—they're canceling friendships, relationships, plans.” Sefl-love and self-care is a way we hide.  “If you emotionally withdrawal, you are not serving anyone.” The actual vulnerability is not disappearing; it’s speaking your needs.  The right person for you is going to feel like the wrong person at some point.  The crucial importance of speaking what you need in your relationships.  Disappearing is not an act of self-love, outside of the realm of abuse. What real, vulnerable communication is. If the world had more closure, there would be a lot less trauma. The process and Madelyn's example of creating closure.   Connect with Maddy: Facebook Instagram Subscribe on Apple Podcast Download my Four Favourite Feminine Embodiment Practices Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 274: Amir Khalighi has been working with men for past 25 years. He is the founder of EmbodiedMasculine.com, a movement dedicated to training and empowering men to live purpose-driven lives. He is a men’s coach, speaker, teacher and artist. He is also the founder of BelovedPoetry.com, an online space dedicated to sharing the works of such masters of love as Rumi, Hafez, Kabir, Neruda and others. Show notes:Feminine Spirit School - Early bird pricing is open now! Click HEREA few spots remain for the Embodied Archetype Retreat with Jamie Wollrab Apply HEREAmir’s latest musing.Why it’s incredibly healing for the masculine to go into nature.Masculine is on this quest constantly to get things done and all he wants is his burdens to go away.If you're in the business of teaching or spiritual evolution, you have to be in touch with Her (nature.)When men are faced with women, you are both in awe and fear.“Fear of the Feminine and the Amazon Fires” Elephant Journal article HEREThe disconnect and destruction that the masculine consumes.Psychologist Robert Moore took the concept of Jung’s archetypes and used it to create a framework that explained the development of mature and integral masculinity in men. Amir discusses the 4 masculine archetypes (King, Warrior, Magician and Lover) and their shadow counterparts.Armir explains what an archetype is and how every man has these fibers within him. He either fully expresses them or they become shadows.The King is the seat of the power The King is the masculine equivalent of the Great Mother. The Warrior is decisive and acts with authority in serving his king or higher self.The Magician is associated with mystery, alchemy and transformation. The Magician is a thinker; an intuitive. The Lover embodiment is artist and brings humanity to the other archetypes.Your air is something you take in every single day, every moment, so why not have it be the purest possible? For 10% off your first air purifier order, go to molekule.com and enter code MADDYMOON at check out!Embodying Archetypes with Jamie Wollrab HERE“I’m a queen looking for a king.” - Madelyn MoonFor someone who wants a king, what does a person need to expect and know?How Amir and his wife create a beautiful, harmonious relationship and the ways she holds space for him.What happens when the warrior goes into his shadow“If it’s not connected to the heart, it’s abuse.”His experience with being an actor and the similarities with embodiment work.“Everything serves our journey forward.”  Connect with Amir:WebsiteInstagramFacebook Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands