Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Questions: I am a 58 single man and I am considering fostering. My first question is how much of a bias is there against men? What are the unique challenges that single foster dads face that discourage so many? What can we do to get more single foster dads to help families reunify, foster, and possibly adopt?Resources:Creating a Support Network as a Single Adoptive, Foster, or Kinship Parent (Article)Adopting as a Single Parent (Online Parent Training course)Resources for Adopting or Fostering as a Single ParentSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Are you educated and informed on the issues around weed and vaping, including THC, nicotine, and the signs of addiction? Listen to this interview with Dr. Krishna White. She is an attending physician at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia, with board certifications in Pediatrics, Adolescent Medicine, and Addiction Medicine. In this episode, we discuss:Can you explain why kids who’ve experienced trauma, prenatal substance exposure, or who are neurodivergent may be at greater risk for turning to substances like marijuana or vaping?How are kids typically using marijuana today? (edibles, vaping THC, traditional smoking, oils)Are kids generally aware of what they’re consuming, especially when it comes to the potency of today’s marijuana?What are some of the short-term effects of marijuana use in adolescents?What long-term impacts are you seeing in your clinical practice, especially for kids whose brains are still developing?Now let’s move to vaping – what it is, why it’s so popular, and what we need to know about how kids are using it. Can you break down what vaping is and what substances kids may be inhaling?Why is vaping so appealing to tweens and teens, even those who’ve never used another substance?What are some of the immediate health concerns tied to vaping in young people?And long-term—what are you most worried about when it comes to kids who are vaping regularly?What strategies can adoptive, foster, or kinship caregivers use to help buffer or “substance-proof” their kids?How early should conversations about marijuana and vaping begin?For kids who already have a higher vulnerability, what are some protective factors or environments that help reduce their risk?What are some signs that a child might be using marijuana or vaping—even if they’re trying to hide it?If a child has already started using, how can caregivers respond in a way that’s both firm and supportive?When does occasional experimentation cross the line into something that needs professional help?What are nicotine pouches – why are they appealing and what are the short or long term impacts we should know about?What would you say to a caregiver who’s feeling overwhelmed or ashamed that this is part of their child’s story?If you could offer just one piece of advice to a caregiver trying to navigate this with their teen, what would it be?Resources:Prenatal Exposure, Part 2: Parenting Tweens and TeensAre Kids Exposed Prenatally More Likely to Abuse Alcohol & Drugs?Preventing Teen Substance Abuse - Center for Parent and Teen CommunicSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Question: I have listened to hundreds of adoption-related podcast episodes, but very few of them have talked about talking directly with a potential birth mother. We were matched with an expectant mother who wanted to be able to communicate with us directly. We agreed, believing that it would help us form a better relationship. However, we were mentally unprepared for the wavering she expressed to us. Despite being so certain when we first met with her, as the pregnancy went on, she then had thoughts of parenting. The match ended with disruption, but I would love to hear a podcast about how to handle oneself in that situation. An episode of another podcast talked about how to handle that situation at the hospital during birth, but I felt something dedicated to communication throughout the pregnancy would be helpful.  Thanks for such a helpful podcast!Resources:Our #1 Secret Tip for Navigating Open AdoptionSigns that an Expectant Woman May Change Her Mind About Placing Her Child for AdoptionUnderstanding Expectant Moms Who are Considering AdoptionSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Are you considering adopting internationally? You need to listen to this interview about the laws and processes that you will be required to follow. We'll be talking with Kelly Dempsey, a partner with Fox Rothschild, who specializes in adoption and assisted reproduction. She is a fellow in the Academy of Adoption & Assisted Reproduction Attorneys and an adoptive parent through both international and domestic adoptions.In this episode, we discuss:Hague Convention on the Protection of Children and Co-operation in Respect of Intercountry Adoption Purpose Key Elements of the Hague Treaty:Central Authority Determining the child’s eligibility for intercountry adoptionAccredited or Approved Adoption AgenciesTransparencyThe Immigration and Nationality Act (INA) INA 101(b)(1)(F) I-600 “Orphan Route” Child must qualify as an orphan under US definitionOnly one parent – incapable of providing supportDeadlines: I600A before child’s 16th birthday -- only have 180 days to file the I-600, after USCIS approves the I-600 INA 101(b)(1)(G) I-800 “Convention Route”Work with CA Art 12, Art 16Eligibility decided by CA COO, but if consulate does an I-604 investigation that disqualifies child, then case will be deniedDeadlines: Must file I-800A before age 16 and within 180 days of the approval of the I-800A, must file the I-800 (even w/o Art 16)Children adopted from other countries must first obtain a U.S. visa before they can travel or move to the United States. Visas are issued at the U.S. Embassy or Consulate in the foreign country where a child resides. Since a child being adopted abroad by a U.S. citizen parent(s) will usually be brought to live in the United States, that child will need an immigrant visa.International Accreditation ActProcess When Adopting from a Hague Country. Process When Adopting from a Non-Hague countries. Must qualify as orphans as defined by the Immigration and Nationality Act (INA) before they can be considered for U.S. permanent residence or citizenship.Get more information at the State Department - Adoption Process/Non-Hague Visa Process. More information on the Hague Convention and other applicable Federal regulations US State Department - International AdoptionUS Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS)  US Department of State has a section on their website on “Understanding the Hague Convention” US Department of State has a section on their website on “Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Question: Hi, my husband, biological daughter and I are in the process of infant adoption. We have passed our home study and have made our profile book. We are at the point where we are viewing expectant moms' profiles. My husband‘s family is very excited and ready for this new chapter in our lives, but my family, however, seems unsure. It’s been hard to communicate with my parents about adoption, and it seems like when they are ready to talk about adoption it’s when I am not in the room and they are alone with my husband. I have sent them a book called “In On It: What Adoptive Parents Want You to Know About Adoption,” but they don’t seem to want to read the book or communicate with me about it. So my question is, should I continue to foster conversations around adoption while we wait to be matched, or since it seems kind of triggering or taboo for them, should I back away and just focus on my immediate family and our journey together? My intent was to offer them support with all of the learning and education that I have gone through during this pre-adoption process, but I’m wondering if I should let them move at their own speed regarding this adoption. ResourcesWinning Over Reluctant Extended Family in AdoptionMy Parents Disapprove of Open Adoption – Weekend WisdomHow to Get Grandparents on Board with Your Adoption PlansSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Most children will experience bullying at some point. What can parents do to help protect their children and to help their children cope if they are bullied? Host Dawn Davenport, Executive Director of Creating a Family, the national infertility & adoption education and support nonprofit, interviews Brooke Randolph, LMHC, a child and family therapist and author of The Bully Book: A Workbook for Kids Coping with Bullies; and Debora Gish, LCSW, with Adoption Connection with 20 experience working with kids and families.In this episode, we discuss:What is bullying?Distinction between bullying and typical childhood cliquish behavior or “mean girl” behavior or kidding around behavior of middle school boys.How to help kids not be over-sensitive to teasing or taunting. For example, a first grader having a hard time distinguishing between name-calling meant to bully and the kind of taunts that are part and parcel with schoolyard games like tag (e.g., he went to the teacher over “na na na na na na, you can’t get me”).What children are at greater risk for bullying?Why do children bully?CyberbullyingBullying on the school bus.How effective are the classic things we tell kids about how to handle bullies?Effective tips for helping kids handle bullying.Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.We frequently hear from waiting parents that they are unsure when to prepare the nursery, what formula is best, or how often they should expect to feed their new baby. It's a huge life transition, and we thought today we could talk about some basic baby care tips to help you think about what's next for you and your family when you get the baby home.Resources:I'm Adopting a Baby. When Do I Set Up the Nursery?Essential Baby Care for Infant AdoptionStocking Your Medicine Cabinet for BabyUnderstanding Post-Adoption Depression and How to Manage ItFirst 6 Months with a Baby Exposed to OpiatesSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Does your child struggle to get or stay organized? Is homework a battle you dread every day? Prepare yourself to support your children for the Back to School season with this interview with Dr. Richard Guare. He's a neuropsychologist and board-certified behavior analyst focused on autism, learning, attention, and behavior disorders, and acquired brain injuries. He is the co-author of Smart But Scattered: The Revolutionary Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential.In this episode, we discuss:Define executive skills in a way that makes sense to a parent or caregiver who is unfamiliar with the term.Why are these executive skills essential for school success and independence?How does early childhood trauma, neglect, or prenatal substance exposure delay or disrupt a child’s executive skill development?What kinds of executive skill delays are common in children who’ve experienced foster care, adoption, or early adversity?How might a parent or caregiver begin to see a child’s delays in executive skill deficits in school?Define the strengths-based approach to teaching executive skills. How can we structure our homes and daily routines to best support what our kids will face during the school day?And practical strategies for supporting your student after school?What language can parents and caregivers use with our kids, and with teachers and support staff, to frame a child’s behavior in terms of execution skills vs. defiance or distraction?Why is it important for parents and caregivers to understand their own executive skills strengths and struggles?Top “takeaways” you want to encourage and support parents and caregivers to consider.Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.How do you know your child with prenatal substance exposure is ready to potty train? How do you start potty training a child with impacts from prenatal substance exposure, like developmental delays? This Weekend Wisdom offers practical strategies and encouragement to help you stay motivated and keep up the good work.Resources:Raising a Child with Prenatal Substance ExposureHow Do I Potty Train a Child with Prenatal Substance Exposure?Prenatal Exposure, Part 1: Parenting Babies through Elementary AgesSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Join us for a look at where CreatingaFamily.org - and this podcast - began and where we are heading from here. We talk today with Dawn Davenport, the founding Executive Director of the organization, as she prepares to retire from Creating a Family.In this episode, we discuss:Tell us how and why you started Creating a Family. Why start a non-profit?The Complete Guide to International Adoption: The Step by Step Guide to Finding Your ChildDo any significant moments stand out from those early days of setting a path forward?Who were the hands-on folks behind the scenes in those early days?What were some of your hopes and dreams for this new venture when you started podcasting?What were some of your most memorable challenges?How has the world of podcasting changed in the 18 years since you launched this one?Were there one or two “big fish” you were excited to get?How have you seen the Creating a Family podcast impact the families we serve? The professionals?What are the most significant challenges you see facing our community of listeners / adoptive, foster, and kinship families in 2025? Do you have any lessons you’ll take from this season of your life – as a professional and/or as a parent?What are you most excited about for the future of CreatingaFamily.org?Do you have any retirement plans? Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building