Dating Intentionally

You've done so much healing work, so why do you still feel so emotionally triggered? In this episode, I get into why you still feel so emotionally triggered in some situations, despite all the work you've done on yourself and how to manage it in a relationship. I talk a lot about what has triggered me in my current relationship and how I deal with it. At the end, I share wedding updates! Three months to go.Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode features the amazing hosts of Dateable Podcast, Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick. They have been sharing their dating advice for 8 years with thousands of daters everywhere. We get into super practical tips for having better conversations on dates, the importance of screening your matches, and the mindset shifts you need to be more curious and less attached to the outcome. We also talk about the common thing that successful daters have: wanting a relationship, not needing one, and knowing what your "north star" is in dating. At the end, we do a rapid-fire round of "Is it a red flag if?".Follow Dateable on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dateablepodcast/Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Yue Xu and Julie KrafchickJulie Krafchick & Yue Xu are the co-hosts and creators of Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. As active daters turned dating insiders, they’ve interviewed thousands of daters and world-renowned experts over the last decade to understand why we date the way we do. But more importantly, with this information, share how you can rise above modern dating culture, get out of this dating apocalypse, and DIY the love life you’ve always wanted. Subscribe to Dateable on all podcast platforms and visit dateablepodcast.com and @dateablepodcast as your go-to source for modern dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been on that nightmare date where they don't ask you a single question or make an effort to get to know you? Unfortunately, it's a pretty common situation. In this episode, I explain why your date (usually it's men) doesn't ask questions and share various ways to handle that situation. I also provide ten of my favorite date questions for your next date!At the end of this episode, I answer two listener questions. The first one is from a woman who could never convince her ex-BF to go to trivia night with her friends and then saw him at that exact trivia event after they broke up. The second one is from a woman who adores her partner, but they don't have the same needs and expectations in the bedroom.Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did rom-coms ruin how we view relationships? This new series, Rom Com vs. Real Life, featuring my fiance and fellow film nerd Johnny, examines that question.In this episode, we're looking at the film He's Just Not That Into You and what it's teaching viewers about dating, relationships and how it all works. This move is packed with rules, exceptions and marriage-obsessed women.What is this movie teaching us about dating and relationships? Is it helping or hurting the way we perceive long term partnership? What's realistic, and what's not? We get into it all in this first episode.Let us know what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode you'll hear from confidence and assertiveness expert Talia Bombola, who's also a professor and LMFT. We get deep into where confidence truly comes from, why we look for it in a partner and an unexpected way to start building it up on your own. We also talk about the importance of assertiveness and why it's tough for women specifically to practice, as well as ways to use assertiveness on dates (you know, when your date just won't stop talking about themselves). Finally, we discuss what it means to have an abundance mentality in all areas of life, not just dating.Connect with Talia Bombola on IG: https://www.instagram.com/taliabombola/Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Talia Bombola:Talia Bombola, The Confidence & Assertiveness Specialist™, is a Certified Psychodynamic, Licensed Psychotherapist, and Relationship Mentor for Women. She has won Newport Beach’s Best Therapist 3 years in a row, 2022-2024 and is in the Business Hall of Fame. Her work centers around helping anxious women feel secure by increasing self-worth, confidence, and assertiveness & rewiring beliefs about themselves, men, and relationships. She helps you heal the "not enoughness" that prevents you from living a life overflowing with satisfaction and self-worth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maybe you've heard the advice "date multiple people," but you have no idea how it works, if it's even possible for you, or why you should try it in the first place. This is the episode for you! I'm breaking down exactly how to approach talking to multiple people and entertaining a handful of potential matches before committing to one person. This approach doesn't work for everyone, but it worked for me. It's worth trying if you tend to get attached quickly, can easily get dates and want to speed up the vetting process a bit, or want to try a different approach.Listen to my first episode about my experience dating multiple people:https://open.spotify.com/episode/6VHcj4a97XUtKh3J8w4vPi?si=0c277cf7f4f1463bSlide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP THE AND QUESTION CARD DECKSDATINGhttps://collabs.shop/co9ejf COUPLEShttps://collabs.shop/vbha7dFRIENDShttps://collabs.shop/ybexcbSTRANGERShttps://collabs.shop/gcrlqs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're using dating apps or thinking about creating a dating app profile, this is the episode to listen to. Erika Ettin, the founder of A Little Nudge joined me on the podcast to talk all things dating apps. We get into what makes a good profile, how to swipe more effectively, what mistakes to avoid when using dating apps and so much more. At the end we play a game I made up called "Erika Explains" where she answers a bunch of your dating questions.Follow Erika: @alittlenudge https://www.instagram.com/alittlenudge/Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYjRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally About Erika Ettin:Erika Ettin holds a BA in economics from Cornell University and an MBA from Georgetown University. Since launching her online dating consulting business, A Little Nudge, Erika has helped hundreds of clients in the United States and abroad find happiness. She currently lives in Washington, D.C. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you're being harsh when you set boundaries with people you date? Are you scared of saying no? You're not alone. If you tend to be a people-pleaser, starting to set boundaries feels strange. Maybe you even feel a little guilt for having and setting boundaries. This episode breaks down what boundaries are, what they're not and why they're important. I talk about what boundaries are good to have in early dating and how to enforce them in a direct way (not a mean way).Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're sober or sober-curious, this episode is packed with sage advice from Tawny Lara, the Sober Sexpert. Tawny shares insights from her sober dating journey that will open your eyes to how much alcohol permeates dating culture and what you can do to decide if how much you drink in your dating process is working for you or not. We get into how to date (and who to date) when you're sober, how to support someone who is sober if you're not and the best dry date ideas. We also discussed alcohol's role in sex and how to evaluate whether or not you're safely consuming alcohol in the context of physical intimacy.Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Tawny Lara:Tawny Lara, AKA The Sober Sexpert, is the author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze, co-host of the Recovery Rocks podcast, and co-founder of the vinegar-based botanical beverage, (parentheses)https://www.instagram.com/tawnymlara/https://www.drinkparentheses.com/https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/730665/dry-humping-by-tawny-lara/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're switching it up this week with some Q&A! I answered 10 questions you submitted on Instagram. Some are dating questions I've never really touched on before; some are personal questions about things I rarely get to talk about publicly.Questions I answer in this episode: How do you genuinely keep hope of finding your person when dating seems hard? How to do long distance in the early days? We are 1.5 hours apart. Do you or your partner have any spicy preferences? How did you bring it up? Do you feel like you experienced enough as a bi woman before this relationship? Advice for mid 40’s Female, first time dating post-divorce and interested in women for the first time? Did you feel like men approached you differently dating at 30? What if you can travel a lot more than your partner but that’s an important thing for you? You’ve said Johnny was smitten right away. How much do you think that contributed to your relationship success? How do you go from needing to wanting a partner? Did you think you’d be where you’re at in life at 32? Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices