Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Today, I am joined by the wonderful Cybele Botran for a truly enlightening conversation that delves into reparenting and inner child work. Cybele is a SHE RECOVERS® and Holistic Recovery Coach, dedicated to empowering sober or sober-curious women. Cybele’s mission is to guide women in shedding the heavy burdens of people-pleasing and perfectionism, and instead, foster the growth of resilient boundaries while rediscovering the pure essence of their inner child.This episode is a captivating exploration of inner healing, reparenting, and the rekindling of your inner child. Don't miss this opportunity to learn, grow, and rediscover.You’ll hear: Inner Child Energy vs. Inner Teen Energy and the distinctions between the energy of your inner child and the more adolescent inner teen (8:50) Cybele introduces us to the concept of reparenting. This journey is about becoming your very own nurturing parent, guiding yourself with compassion and understanding. (11:43) R.E.P.A.R.E.N.T - an acronym for healing: Cybele walks us through each letter of her powerful acronym, R.E.P.A.R.E.N.T. This acronym is a roadmap, designed to help women establish a profound connection with their most tender selves. (14:31) We discuss the intricate process of grief-work. This is a vital aspect of healing and reuniting with your inner child (30:54) Resources from this episode:Private coaching with AndreaCybele’s websitehttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/557/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of my favorite people, Britt Frank, returns to the podcast this week! We are exploring a topic suggested by a listener - obsessive love and love addiction. When I received this suggestion, I knew Britt was the perfect person to help me address things like what is obsessive love versus healthy love. Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." She works to empower people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change.In this episode you’ll hear: Britt starts out by defining “love addiction” and then explains the difference between love addiction and someone who has an anxious attachment style (5:03) What is actually happening when someone feels like they have obsessive love (14:47) We explore a list by SLAA about twelve characteristics of love and sex addiction (17:01) “Awareness without shame creates change.” (23:02) How to heal from love addiction: the first step is detox and withdrawal (26:46) “The solution to love addiction is self-parenting.” (37:22) Resources from this episode:Private coaching with AndreaBritt’s websiteBritt’s bookEpisode 356: What is love addiction? with Dr. Alexandra KatehakisEpisode 358: Healing from Narcissistic and Traumatic Relationships with Britt FrankEpisode 397: Narcissistic Abuse, Trauma, and Healing with Britt FrankEpisode 436: How We Heal Ourselves: A New Perspective on Mental Health with Britt FrankEpisode 456: Relationship series: Healing from Traumatic Romantic Relationships with Britt FrankCharacteristics of Sex and Love Addiction by S.L.A.A.Self Parenting: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversationshttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/556/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Recently a colleague I was catching up with asked me if I still love 1:1 coaching as much as I used to and I immediately said YES, and launched into an excited monologue of why I love it so much. There was such enthusiasm in my “speech”, that I turned on the mic and camera, and made both a podcast episode and video for you. This is especially for anyone who’s been interested in working with me. You have the option to check this on video, so if you’ve ever wondered what I look like when I record a podcast episode, check it out (hint: it’s not glamorous!)You’ll hear me talk about in this minisode/video:  The thing that happens when I know I’m not a good fit for someone. And I used to be this person!  What’s absolutely REQUIRED in order to see changes when you hire me as your coach.  What one of my most recent clients said about the ending of our coaching together.  What “the work” actually entails in terms of you, the client.  Some of the many things you get from working with me so we don’t need to work together forever.  When you think about hiring a coach like me, what needs to happen first within you.  Resources:Read more about coaching with me Quick application page  https://andreaowen.com/podcast/555/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rose Hackman is on the show this week! Rose is a journalist whose work on gender, race, labor, policing, housing, and the environment―published in The Guardian―has brought international attention to overlooked American policy issues, historically entrenched injustices, and complicated social mores. Rose’s book, Emotional Labor, is a journalistic deep dive in which she shares the stories of hundreds of women, tracing the history of emotional labor, exposing common manifestations of the phenomenon, and empowering us to forge pathways for evolution, justice, and change.Throughout our conversation, we often discussed emotional labor from the female perspective and explored its effect on race, class, relationships, and the workplace. If, after listening to our conversation, you’re intrigued and want to learn more, I encourage you to check out Rose’s book! In this episode, you’ll hear: Emotional labor: Rose describes what it is and looks like in different scenarios (4:18) How race, gender, and class unequally shape the load we carry (6:28) Rose answers, “Do you think women going through “the great divorce” is indirectly related to emotional labor?” (15:27) Our conversation moves to solutions, and we discuss some strategies for leveling the imbalances that contaminate our relationships, social circles, and households (30:47) Rose shares tools or rebuttals for when someone makes you feel as though the work you are doing is not real work (38:08) Resources:Private coaching with AndreaRose's book is hereRose on Instagram Rose on TikTokLaura Danger’s episode on the division of laborhttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/554/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is the second of two archived episodes that I’ve pulled from last year, because, well, this one was one of my favorites! I hand picked Carole Cullen to come on and talk about what it means to be a Certified Gottman Method therapist and she delivered! Next week we’ll be back with all new interviews!We’re wrapping up the relationship theme this week with guest Carole Cullen. I specifically wanted to include a guest in this series who was trained from The Gottman Institute and Carole fit the bill and y’all— she is amazing! In this episode, we talk about the seven principles for making relationships work. I took lots of notes while I was interviewing her and I’m sure you’ll get a lot out of this too  Carole Cullen is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, AAMFT Clinical Supervisor and public speaker. She is a Certified Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapist specializing in working with couples in crisis. She has a group practice in Wake Forest, NC where she helps couples learn practical tools to reconnect with their partner and create a lasting love. We talked about: Carole shares, in detail, the seven principles that make relationships work (4:24) Emotionally focused therapy for couples in crisis (32:42) Creating a secure attachment with your partner (and realizing your partner is not responsible for healing your childhood wounds) (35:23) Resources:Coaching with AndreaCarole’s websiteThe Gottman InstituteThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage WorkGetting the Love You Wanthttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/553/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week I interviewed a journalist named Rose Hackman, who wrote a book called Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work Shaping Our Lives and How to Claim Our Power, and it got me thinking about a few things. So much so that I turned on the mic right after I got off Zoom with her, and recorded this minisode for you. First, I muse on what emotional labor looks like at work, but more specifically, as I personally reflect on my past relationships, what it looks like in romantic partnerships. I know my experience isn’t uncommon, so you may see yourself in my story. We all have patterns in our lives, and most of us have had them for decades. It’s a HUGE ask to expect yourself to see the patterns you don’t like, and just change them. There’s a lot of “messy middle”. This minisode is about identifying those patterns and hopefully coming to a decision about what you’ll accept… and for the things that have become unacceptable, or what I call in the episode “too expensive”, deciding what you plan to do about it. Resources:Buy a personalized, signed copy of Andrea’s book (or books!)Rose Hackman’s book, Emotional LaborMake Some Noise on Amazonhttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/552/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I’m bringing you an archived episode…Dr. Ellen Vora was one of my favorite guests and since I know so many of y’all struggle with anxiety, I knew exactly the episode I wanted to re-air! Enjoy her again and the very important message she shares. Dr. Ellen Vora is on the show this week to share several holistic approaches to the treatment of anxiety. Ellen is a holistic psychiatrist, acupuncturist, and yoga teacher. She takes a functional medicine approach to mental health—considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root.In this episode, we talk about whether or not we are experiencing an anxiety epidemic, strategies for addressing anxiety, the difference between “false” and “true” anxiety, and so much more. I am beyond excited to introduce you to her. She is so smart, has a wealth of information, and I had so many questions for her. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did! Some other topics we explore: The cause of the anxiety epidemic (5:54) Ellen talks about her approach to defining anxiety, “false anxiety” and some strategies for addressing it (8:50)  The connection between hormones, birth control, and mood regulation (13:20) The role of psychedelics in treating anxiety and the mystical experience hypothesis (18:34) Ellen shares her controversial views on sunshine, why our bodies benefit from the sun, and some healthy ways to get sun exposure (24:24) Ellen’s nuanced view on body positivity and binge eating (27:03)  How we can realistically improve our sleep and why is scrolling on our phones at night relevant to anxiety (36:34) Ellen’s hot-take on the effects of nutrient dense diets on post-partum depression and anxiety (45:50) Resources:Private coaching with AndreaEllen’s websiteEllen’s book, The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming The Body’s Fear ResponseThe Mood Cure, Julia RossDeconstruction episodehttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/551/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Adrienne Youdim is on the show today and has a very interesting story in her journey as a medical weight loss doctor. I’ll let you listen in as she talks about this journey in the first few minutes of the show, but in a nutshell, she wrote a book based on what she’s seen over and over again with her patients and in her own life. Which led her to write a book teaching women to reach a place of self-acceptance, purpose, and meaning.Dr. Adrienne’s mission is to transform our relationship with food, our weight and our bodies to one that is informed and empowered, inspiring people to live more physically and emotionally fulfilling lives. Her book talks about the many, many ways women are hungry and although we only have time to talk about a handful of them, I’m sure you’ll resonate with the ones we do touch on, and if you want to know the rest, you’ll have to grab her book! In this episode you’ll hear: What brought Dr. Adrienne to write a book that isn’t really about weight loss, even though she was a doctor who helped people lose weight. (4:42)Andrea reads an excerpt from Dr. Adrienne’s book that talks about the universal hungers that we all have and feel. (7:05)We talk about how detrimental fat-shaming is, what is Body dysmorphic disorder, as well as what happens when we use food to cope (7:37)I ask since Dr. Adrienne’s book Hungry for More focuses on the many things women are actually hungry for, what have been the chapters that resonate the most with readers?  (12:16)What, in terms of mental and emotional health, does she see in her practice? (24:14)We discuss dopamine…is that one of the hungers? (35:06)I ask about ritual, why is having ritual in our life one of our hungers and why is it important? (40:18)Resources:Dr Adrienne’s TEDx Talk Dr. Adrienne’s book, Hungry For MoreDr. Adrienne on InstagramDr. Adrienne’s websitehttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/550/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The topic of today’s minisode comes from one of our Make Some Noise listeners! Earlier this year, we sent out a survey, and y’all showed up (THANK YOU!). One listener asked if I could riff on the following topic:Grieving changes, like kids aging, and experiences you thought you'd have by a certain age.I have a feeling you all have struggled with at least one of those she mentioned, so I put together a list of steps to think about if you are. Listen into  the minisode to get an in-depth look at these, especially number three!  Acknowledging the grief— don’t dismiss it.  Feel whatever you feel, don’t make yourself wrong for it. And know those emotions may circle back around over and over again.  Work on letting go, in other words, work on detachment. Many times we feel like if we have this or that, it would make us happier, more fulfilled, or more successful.  Journal and talk to people who make you feel seen and heard on this topic.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we are talking about how to cultivate grit and resilience with Danielle Cobo. Fittingly, Danielle is a career coach who works with organizations to develop the grit, resilience, and courage to thrive in a rapidly changing market.In this episode we also talk about proactively preventing burnout, how to accelerate your career, and how to turn life challenges into purpose and growth. Danielle is just delightful and I hope you love this conversation as much as I did. Featured topics: How to identify stress triggers and take proactive steps to prevent burnout (5:39) Danielle answers, “Are you born with grit? If not, how can you cultivate it?” (9:03) Fixed mindset vs growth mindset: what it is and how it plays out in our lives(13:03) What is your X Factor? What excites you? How can you redefine success on your own terms? (23:03) Advice for women who want to accelerate their careers (23:54) An exercise to help cultivate resilience (32:33) “The person you are today is because of what you’ve overcome.” (35:38) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices