Beyond Success

Society conditions us to believe that sacrificing happiness is necessary for success, but this podcast challenges that notion. It explores the illusion of constant growth, the toxicity of perfectionism, and the conditional nature of love. Instead, it encourages finding joy in the process of growth and embracing life's imperfections. It also emphasizes the importance of balancing personal growth with enjoying the present moment and cherishing experiences.

In today's complex dating world, numerous men find themselves grappling not only with the intricacies of modern romance but also with deep-seated anxieties and fears that surround it. They fear starting conversations with women. They worry about what others think of them. And when they do end up in a relationship, it eventually devolves into dramatic fights, falling apart, and heartbreak.  Why?  Well, the short answer is these men haven’t addressed and healed the burdens of their inner child parts. Suppressing these deep-rooted emotions only makes them lash out at the worst possible times.  Instead, they turn to YouTube and the internet for the type of dating advice that attracts women who only care about your looks or status.  That’s the bad news.  The good news?  The therapeutic process is the single most effective way to address and heal these disowned parts of ourselves, which directly makes you more attractive, confident, and happy.  In this new episode, I reveal 6 distinct ways therapy can transform your dating life, how to address neglected emotions before they self-destruct on you, and how to use therapy to attract higher quality women and people.   Listen now! Show Highlights: The Notorious Big 3: Three ways the modern dating landscape misleads men into misery and heartbreak (1:05)  The weird way using your looks and status to attract women makes them eager to ditch you as soon as they can (2:13)  How “ego validation,” a wicked and sneaky form of neediness, sabotages a relationship before it even begins (3:34)  10 non-material things that women desperately crave from men (7:39)  How your unresolved emotional issues manifest in and undermine your relationship—in 6 distinct ways (9:47)  Why your “Attachment Style” can predict recurring patterns in your relationship (and how figuring this out can prevent your relationship from falling apart) (14:02)  How neglecting your exiled parts instead of addressing them can ruin even the best relationships (19:40)  Can therapy really help with your dating life? Here are two proven reasons it can… (21:08)  Still doubting the impact therapy can have on your dating life? Here’s a real life example of how one former client went from an anxious wreck to a ladies magnet (21:54)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

In this new episode, we are diving deep into the world of emotions and success.  Have you ever wondered why working hard for years may not lead to the rewarding experience you've always dreamed of?  Or why so many people treat emotions as obstacles to success?  This episode reveals profound insights on how repressing emotions can actually hinder our ability to fully enjoy the rewards of our hard work.  We'll explore the fascinating concept of alexithymia and how the pursuit of success can become a monotonous grind devoid of true fulfillment.  Join us for an eye-opening journey as we learn why and how true joy and fulfillment lie in living fully and experiencing everything, rather than just reaching for a distant goal. This is an episode you won't want to miss. Listen now! Show Highlights: The Truth About Success: Why Hard Work is Meaningless Without Emotion  [00:02:08] Success ≠ Happiness: The Myth You've Been Believing  [00:03:21] The Secret to Emotional Strength  [00:08:11] How To Rebuild Your Emotional Intelligence  [00:11:41] Discover the Effects of Poor Proprioception  [00:15:13] The Surprising Solution To Mastering Your Emotions  [00:19:08] Discover How Releasing Trauma Can Boost Resilience [00:22:21]  How to Rise From The Ashes of Deep Shame and Exhaustion  [00:25:42] Are You Unsatisfied at The Peak? Here’s Why [00:28:14] How to unlock hidden emotions for ultimate fulfillment [00:35:03] The secret dangers of emotional suppression [00:37:16] Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Explore the transformative power of emotions and challenge the conventional notion of success. Delve into the vital role emotions play in our existence and discover the secret to both pleasure and fulfillment. Break free from the trap of a success-driven mentality and embrace the beautiful art of living. Learn about the significance of emotions in decision-making and life, and the consequences of emotional repression on mental health and relationships.

Have you ever been told to "stop being so sensitive" or that being emotional is bad or useless? It's a common experience for many men, and it's time to challenge this notion. In today's episode, we'll explore the hidden costs of suppressing our emotions and why it's important to embrace our authentic selves.  Join us as we uncover the truth behind the myth that repressing our emotions leads to success. We'll explore how repressed emotions can impact our intimate relationships, our professional lives, and even our overall sense of fulfillment.  Get ready for some eye-opening insights as we delve into the psychology behind repressed emotions and learn how to master our emotions to create deep, meaningful connections and achieve lasting happiness.  Listen now! Show Highlights: Why do people believe in using masks to attain success?  [00:02:11] Find joy in the climb and reach new heights  [00:06:06] Repression disrupts balance. How to embrace emotions for greater success.  [00:07:41] How does repressed trauma impact our bodies and overall well-being?  [00:11:15] How do intimate relationships reveal hidden truths about ourselves?  [00:15:30] Discover the secret dance of personal growth [00:18:40] Revealing the shadow parts that lead to profound intimacy [00:21:41]  Clearing mental fog through awareness and integration  [00:26:18]  Peak health, happiness, and harmony await you here [00:29:48] Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Learn how to assert yourself effectively without losing your cool. Discover the misconceptions about assertiveness and its importance in relationships. Explore personal stories and techniques for effective communication and setting boundaries.

Learn how to handle disrespect in relationships, the root cause of disrespect, and how to turn disrespect into respect. Discover the importance of self-respect, the impact of lacking it, and strategies for dealing with disrespect. Explore the concept of respect and self-respect, earning and maintaining self-respect, and the consequences of relying on others' respect. Uncover actionable steps for earning respect and handling disrespect in various aspects of life.

The podcast discusses the anger towards the portrayal of Ken in the Barbie movie and how it relates to the speaker's personal transformation from suicidal to finding fulfillment. They explore power dynamics in relationships, white knight syndrome, emasculation after a breakup, frustration with the nightclub system, and the evolution of art and male achievements.

The “Fixer Mindset” plagues every nice guy who can’t seem to even talk to an attractive lady, let alone start a relationship with her. If you continue letting this broken mindset subconsciously guide you, it can end in complete catastrophe:  Like bending over backwards for an ex who still lives with you, and starts bringing new guys into your apartment. This happens more often than you’d think.  Why?  Well, if you haven’t overcome your early childhood traumas, then you’ll subconsciously recreate this dynamic of being taken advantage of in order to earn love in every relationship you have.  Not only will this cause intense heartbreaks, but it also fills you with a deep depression that lingers on you no matter what.  That’s the bad news.  The good news?  There is hope! In fact, I used to suffer from this exact same mindset years ago.  In this episode, I break down the “Fixer Mindset” in nitty-gritty detail, including why it happens, how it happens, and how you can finally overcome it. I also reveal what happens when you don’t address it—hint: it only gets worse. And the three most important steps you can take today to finally free yourself from its destructive grasp.  Listen now! Show Highlights: The insidious “Fixer Mindset” most men silently struggle with that makes you bend over backwards for a girl who wouldn’t do the same for you (2:10)  4 deadly coping behaviors you picked up as a toddler that you’re subconsciously using today that scares women away (12:08)  Why making more money or getting a six pack won’t help you attract the ladies (even if you think it will) (15:32)  The single biggest fundamental flaw in the human condition that sabotages your chances with girls, fills you with existential dread, and causes untold amounts of stress (15:46)  How becoming a pickup artist can help you get girls (and why this only sets you up for humiliating heartbreak) (18:13)  Why evolution has failed us when it comes to being emotionally stable, healthy, and happy (and how you can fix this in your life) (22:13)  The cold, hard truth about why most people don’t end up in happy relationships (25:12)  How neglecting your “little boy” hidden deep inside you gives you a wicked case of the addicting “Martyrdom Fantasy” which causes you to sacrifice your relationship for nothing (26:00)  3 simple steps to finally overcome your “Fixer Mindset” and effortlessly magnetize attractive women to you (33:43)  Why traveling alone is the single best “antidote” to deep-seated childhood traumas (36:13)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Jonah Hill is featured in this episode discussing healthy boundaries, relationship standards, and the controversy with his ex-girlfriend. The importance of picking a high-quality partner, effective communication, and the biggest mistake men make in relationships are explored. The significance of understanding grace and not imposing values on a partner is highlighted, along with the concept of unconditional love and mate selection. Taking responsibility for boundaries and the role of therapy techniques in maintaining a healthy relationship are also discussed.