

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Dec 11, 2019 • 52min
Season 9 Episode 18: Is Monogamy A Thing Of The Past?
Listen as we talk to Cathy about her journey from saving herself for marriage to having multiple partners – at once. We discuss why it’s so difficult to break out of heteronormative traditions, how monogamy doesn’t have to be so binary, and defining your own rules.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 4, 2019 • 50min
Season 9 Episode 17: Getting (that Libido) Up
Tune in as we talk to Amit about how he increased his testosterone levels and libido to better his sex life. We discuss how ‘not getting it up’ causes insecurities, why it’s better to remedy the situation naturally, and the results that lead to multiple orgasms.
A big thank you to our sponsor, Blackwood for Men. To get 25% off your order visit blackwoodformen.com/dateable and use the code DATEABLE.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 27, 2019 • 1h 2min
Season 9 Episode 16: Attachment Theory
Join us as we chat with Lauren Korshak MFT about attachment styles and how they play into our adult dating patterns. We talk about the different styles, how they factor into the ups and downs of dating, and why even the most secure people feel insecure sometimes.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 20, 2019 • 55min
Season 9 Episode 15: Rated X
Listen as we hear from Lou Cass about being a porn star in the ’80s and how porn has changed over the years. We discuss the highs and lows of being in the industry, filming sex whether you are a pro or amateur, and how porn skews the reality of sex.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 13, 2019 • 1h 24min
Season 9 Episode 14: The Science Of Dating
Tune in as we talk to Logan Ury about how behavioral science –the how and why we make decisions – plays into everything in dating from profile photos to breakups. We discuss changing our defaults, learning to avoid our blindspots, and how to make better decisions in dating.
A big thank you to our sponsor, Blackwood for Men. To get 25% off your order visit blackwoodformen.com/dateable and use the code DATEABLE.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 6, 2019 • 1h 19min
Season 9 Episode 13: Eternal Bachelor
Join us as we talk to Michel about his bachelor lifestyle and his existential debate between clubbing every weekend vs. settling down. We discuss the context of where you meet someone, the perception of age, and how our own belief systems impact our relationships.
A big thank you to our sponsor, Blackwood for Men. To get 25% off your order visit blackwoodformen.com/dateable and use the code DATEABLE.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 30, 2019 • 40min
Season 9 Episode 12: Zipper Dick
Listen as Elizabeth tells us about one of her funny dating stories that luckily avoided a trip to the ER. We discuss how to deal with unfortunate situations when dating, paying it forward even if you don’t know someone well, and what happens when you’re presumptuous.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 23, 2019 • 1h 32min
Season 9 Episode 11: First Date In 12 Years
Tune in as Jeff tells us about his first date in 12 years with our co-host and producer Julie. We discuss being on dating apps at different stages of life, how the past plays into how you approach dating, and why pursuing a friendship first may not be the worst idea.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 16, 2019 • 1h 2min
Season 9 Episode 10: Falling Into Relationships
Join us as we talk to Dave about how he seems to fall in and out of relationships without thinking much about it. We discuss bringing awareness into your dating life, prioritizing love along with your career, and how to bring more passion into your relationships.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 9, 2019 • 40min
Season 9 Episode 9: Singles in America 2019 with Helen Fisher
Listen as we talk to Helen Fisher, a world-renowned researcher, and unpack the results of her Singles in America study. We discuss this concept of fast sex; slow love, men wanting women to make the first move, and what singles are looking for in 2019.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy