
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
Latest episodes

May 18, 2022 • 60min
S14E13: When You Know, You Know
As cliche as it sounds, the right person can be right around the corner....or maybe even someone you already know. We're chatting with Trace about how he started over after ending a 12-year relationship only to propose after 3 weeks of dating one of his newfound best friends. We discuss knowing when to think things through vs. take a leap of faith, what marriage, love, and commitment mean in today's day in age, and why friendship is the foundation of any relationship. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 15, 2022 • 22min
#brunchtalk: How Can I Stop Being Jealous of My Friend's Relationships?
When it feels like you're always the third wheel or the only single one in the group, it's tough to not be jealous that your friends found their special someones. For this week's brunch talk we're diving into it all from validating your feelings in a way that still allows you to want the best for your friends, embracing and enjoying the various stages of your life (including being single), and reframing how you view being the odd one out. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@datablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 11, 2022 • 1h 1min
S14E12: Taming Your Inner Critic w/ Katie Sturino
Even the best of us can start to believe that inner voice that wonders if we’re too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, too light, too dark – whatever it is that gets in the way of thinking we’re worthy of love. But have no fear, we’re silencing the self doubt as we chat with Katie Sturino about how she regained her confidence and rocked the dating game even at her lowest point. We discuss how our earliest trauma still plays into the way we think about ourselves when dating, the importance of “doing the work” even though it feels unfair you have to do it at all, and why it's so damn important to get to a place where we’re truly comfortable in our own skin.Trigger Warning: We discuss abortion rights and the recall of Chesa Boudin in the intro if you need to skip aheadFollow Katie @katiesturnio and check out her podcast 'Boob Sweat', book body talk and beauty line MegababeFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 8, 2022 • 23min
#brunchtalk: Help! I've been dickmatized
Ever been in a situation where you know it's not your person....yet you keep staying because the sex is so.damn.good? We feel you as we chat on this week's brunch talk about how to break free from the dickmatization, if being p*ssytized is even a thing, and how to have faith that you'll find someone eventually that meets all your needs – in and out of the bedroom.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 4, 2022 • 1h 1min
S14E11: Performance Anxiety (In the Bedroom)
Sex can be so enjoyable yet so stressful at the same time....especially when you're dating someone new. We're chatting with Dean about recovering from erectile dysfunction and what that meant for his sex life. We discuss our societies views on sex and the expectations of men, why not being able to get it up rarely has to do with the partner, and how to get through sexual dysfunctions with your partners. Want to learn more about how Dean navigated ED through therapy and other mental/psychological approaches? Feel free to reach out to him at deantalksaboutED@gmail.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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May 1, 2022 • 27min
#brunchtalk: What's the difference between being too picky and settling?
Dive into the intriguing world of dating as the hosts tackle the fine line between being too picky and settling. Discover the core differences between selectivity and standards while assessing personal non-negotiables. Learn how brunch conversations can lead to emotional clarity and strengthen romantic intentions. Reflect on key qualities for successful relationships and redefine what truly matters beyond superficial traits. It’s all about balancing standards and keeping an open mind in modern dating!

Apr 27, 2022 • 1h 10min
S14E10: From No Relationship Experience to Engaged w/ Sydney Lotuaco
Instead of stressing about our relationship history, we're here to chat with Sydney Lotuaco about how she ended up engaged to her first real partner at 30 despite her past relationship inexperience. We discuss trying everything from being on the apps to being on the Bachelor (spoiler alert: this isn't where she met her fiancé), the struggles that come with being a late bloomer and losing your virginity "later in life", and how you can recognize a good thing when you see it even without having other relationships to compare it to.Follow Sydney @sydneylotuaco and check out her podcast 'Something to Share'Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 24, 2022 • 23min
#brunchtalk: How can I stay emotionally open when I've been burned?
Whether you've been ghosted one too many times or have had a string of dates that just didn't work out, it can be incredibly challenging to stay open to the next romantic prospect while also protecting your heart. How do you balance being hopeful while staying guarded? How do you avoid burnout and feeling like you wasted time? Join us on this installment of Dateable brunch talk as we chat about how you can balance all the things and keep your heart open for that amazing person who is just around the corner.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 20, 2022 • 1h 25min
S14E9: True Stories of Dating App Scams
From being swindled for money to catching a catfisher, we're chatting with real people in our community to see the prevalence of romance scams like we witnessed with the Tinder Swindler. Spoiler Alert: they are pretty damn common, even years before they've got mainstream press. We're talking to 6 daters: Leesa, Scott, Katie, Chris, Priyanka and Randy along with scam expert Adam Levin. We discuss why even the best of us can fall victim, signs to look out for to avoid a scammer, and how to protect yourself online while still embarking on your quest for love (safely) using dating apps.Learn more about Adam Levin's work at https://adamlevin.com/ and check out his podcast 'What the Hack' and his book Swiped: How to protect yourself in a world full of scammersFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 17, 2022 • 22min
#brunchtalk: What should I do when my ex comes back?
You are finally getting over your ex that broke your heart when BAM they text, call, DM, or get in touch whatever way they can. Does it mean anything when they say they miss you? Will it be different this time around? Why do they keep watching your Instagram stories instead of being with you IRL? Join us on this installment of Dateable brunch talk as we chat about the different scenarios and flip the question to the #1 thing you need to be asking yourself.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy