

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Jan 25, 2023 • 1h 12min
BONUS: Breaking up with Bad Dating Habits - Julie interviews Yue
From being the "cool girl" to avoiding difficult conversations to blowing up when trying to DTR, we're unpacking more bad dating habits that we both had – that you probably do too. But this week, Julie is interviewing Yue about her dating history and how these behaviors got in her way – even today. We're discussing how dating games ended up being counterproductive, why bad dating behavior is often a self-protection mechanism, and how to continue to grow at any stage of a relationship.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThis episode is sponsored by:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEApostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostraphe.com/dateable using the code DATEABLE.Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout.Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jan 18, 2023 • 1h 3min
BONUS: Breaking up with Bad Dating Habits - Yue interviews Julie
From staying in situationships to being rigid with timelines, we all have some bad dating behaviors that have gotten in our way. On this week's bonus episode, Yue is interviewing Julie about her past patterns and how they still sneak in even while in a relationship. We dive into it all: from how these behaviors were learned, how they manifest in dating, and how she's still trying to unlearn them today. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostraphe.com/dateable using the code DATEABLE.Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout.Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jan 11, 2023 • 25min
BONUS: 2023 Dating Trends
Is this the year we'll finally stop ghosting each other? With Dating Sunday behind us, it's time to take on 2023 with all we got. On this bonus episode, we're chatting about how to recession-proof your dating life, what's happening with dating and our mental health, and why 2023 is the year to finally take control of your love life.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostraphe.com/dateable using the code DATEABLE.Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout.Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jan 4, 2023 • 22min
BONUS: What are your 2023 Dating Intentions?
With the new year upon us, it's time to get intentional about what we want for our love lives. We'll be back for Season 16 shortly but in the meantime we've got a bonus episode just for you where we get real about some of our own challenges in our love lives while discussing how we can all ourselves up for success in the new year.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThis episode is sponsored by:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 28, 2022 • 1h 4min
S15E20: Are You Ready for Love? w/ Amy Jin
We're turning the tables as we hear the full story of mismatched timelines, becoming "ready", and letting her love story unfold as we chat with Amy about the trials, tribulations, and triumphs of her relationship with Will (who you may remember from last season!). We discuss the challenges no one talks about with relationships, how to handle difficult conversations and situations when you two just aren't aligned, and how YOU stay the main character despite whatever is happening in your love life.Follow Amy @itsamyjin and learn more about Amy at https://www.amyjin.com/Check out S14E3: Who will you meet in the wild? if you want to hear from Amy's husband about how they met on his solo travels.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Kensington Books: Check out Kensington's newest title You Can Hide by Rebecca Zanetti. You can find it wherever books are sold or visit kensingtonbooks.comOMGYES: Have better sex and relationships with a membership to OMGYES. Visit omgyes.com/dateable for special discounts.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 25, 2022 • 25min
#brunchtalk: How do I go from likeable to loveable?
Perhaps you go on a lot of dates that don't get past the 2nd date. When you ask for feedback, they say "there's no romantic connection." What do you do with that feedback? And how do you go from likeable to lovable? In this week's brunch talk, we discuss how to build better connections with romantic prospects.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:OMGYES: Have better sex and relationships with a membership to OMGYES. Visit omgyes.com/dateable for special discounts.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 21, 2022 • 1h 2min
S15E19: Relational Intelligence w/ Dr. Adam Bandelli
Move over EQ, we're shifting from emotional intelligence to relational intelligence as we chat with Dr. Adam Bandelli about why mastering relational intelligence is the #1 thing you need to focus on while dating. We discuss the 5 essential skills for building long-lasting, life-changing romantic connections, why developing rapport is more important than establishing chemistry, and how relational intelligence plays into all aspects of a relationship from when we meet to 30 years down the line. Learn more about Adam: https://bandelliandassociates.com/ and check out his book 'Relational Intelligence' today.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Kensington Books: Check out Kensington's newest title Colorado Country by New York Times bestselling author Diana Palmer. You can find it wherever books are sold or visit kensingtonbooks.comOMGYES: Have better sex and relationships with a membership to OMGYES. Visit omgyes.com/dateable for special discounts.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 18, 2022 • 21min
#brunchtalk: How do you end a dating convo gracefully?
You're chatting away on a dating app and there's something that's giving you pause. Maybe the convo stalled out, got awkward, or just isn't flowing. Whatever the case, how do you get out without being rude to the other person? In this week's brunch talk, we discuss how to make dating app convos more engaging, ways to cut bait that are still respectful, and how to not get stuck in an endless texting blackhole in the first place.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:OMGYES: Have better sex and relationships with a membership to OMGYES. Visit omgyes.com/dateable for special discounts. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 14, 2022 • 1h 10min
S15E18: Committed, Not Attached w/ Kim Nicol
It's time to throw out the shoulds and any rules of how to have a relationship – we're headed into 2023, right? Prepared to leave inspired as we chat with Kim Nicol about how she and her partner went against unconventional timelines and designed a relationship that works for them. We discuss how to stay open to the possibilities of where a relationship could go without the anchor how it should go, how to be independent yet loving to your partner, and why self-care is essential for a relationship that lasts for the long haul.Follow Kim @hellokimnicol and check out 'The New Manager Podcast'Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Rakuten Kobo: Try Kobo now, free for 30 days! Just visit kobo.comHigher Dose: Save 15% on the higherdose infrared sauna blanket with the code DATEABLE at checkout or use the link higherdose.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 11, 2022 • 22min
#brunchtalk: What should I do if they set up a date but don't give a time or place?
So you have a date lined up but as the day rolls around it's still unclear where and when you're meeting. Is the date still happening? Should you text to find out or wait patiently for a plan? In this week's brunch talk, we discuss how to manage the anxiety that comes with dating, ways to set up less ambiguous dates in the first place, and when to take initiative vs. let the other person step up.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Higher Dose: Save 15% on the higherdose infrared sauna blanket with the code DATEABLE at checkout or use the link higherdose.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy