Eat the Rules with Summer Innanen

In this special 2-part episode I’m speaking to two incredible women who I've had the pleasure of working with in You, On Fire.   In this episode, we meet Asya... Asya is a writer, speech therapist and mom to 3 kids. Her biggest frustration with her body was comparing it to others - especially at the gym. She loved the dance classes at her gym, but all she could think about was what was wrong with her body and how it compared to others and what others were thinking of her. She says, “I was so cluttered by thoughts of comparing myself and that’s all I could think about. I couldn’t enjoy the dancing part anymore.” She wanted to be able to enjoy something that she loved so much. After joining You, On Fire, she says, ”The biggest lightbulb moment was realizing that my body and my value are totally separate. I honestly didn’t know this before.” Now, she says, “I have ups and downs. I have moments where I think, OMG I’m good, I don’t have these thoughts anymore. Then there are times where I have negative thoughts, but now I have a rebuttal. I have a way to respond to them and I don’t need to believe them. The difference is that I don’t go down the same black hole that I used to.” She says, “I am compassionate with myself now and that’s something I didn’t have before.” Overall, she says that, “It’s freed up so much mental space. All that mental space is cleared out and I’m able to enjoy my dance classes. I think it’s made me fitter because I’m in the workout now instead of critiquing myself.” She also says, “Join the program. Do not hesitate. And then join the calls - they are so valuable. It’s amazing to hear other people’s thoughts because you realize you’re not the only one.”   You, On Fire is the online group coaching program that gives you a step-by-step way of building up self-worth beyond your jean size with personalized coaching from me and lifetime access to the program—so you can break out of the diet culture cage, get free from body shame and live your fiery, free, untamed life. Go here to get all the details and get on the waitlist for the upcoming cycle: summerinnanen.com/youonfirewaitlist Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/254   Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

In this special 2-part episode I’m speaking to two incredible women who I've had the pleasure of working with in You, On Fire.   In this episode, we meet Rosie... Rosie talks about how, “as far back as I can remember, I’ve always struggled with my body image. I have really early memories of being ashamed of my body and being uncomfortable in my own skin. I feel like I’ve lived with that my whole life.” She had done a lot of work on herself over the years in therapy and other coaching and she felt like she’d come a long way, but body image was still a struggle and she needed something more specific to help her work on it. Since joining You, On Fire, she’s identified that her issues are not actually about her body, but this is what she latches onto. She’s learned how to be self-compassionate and identify what she really values. She’s also been able to tap into the activism piece of this to help inspire her and realize she is a part of something bigger. She was able to rethink how she looks at health and she realized that the most unhealthy thing about her life had been my inner critic. She says, “I’m more gentle with myself now. I don’t need to be attractive to others and that’s not my purpose.” She also went coasteering (when you climb up cliffs and jump into the ocean) which is something she never thought she’d do. She says “I was feeling the power of my body and the strength and that I could take that leap. It made me really proud. These moments help you build up trust with yourself and think about yourself in a different way.” Overall, she says “It feels really good. It’s a long path and it’s not a linear thing. It feels nice because I’m on that path now and it will continue to get better. I feel like I’ve got my own back on it. I can treat myself like my friend. Rather than being at war with myself, I can support myself through it. I have a more compassionate relationship with myself.” She also says, “I tried to do it on my own, but it wasn’t going to happen. Finding Summer’s program and the community to help me through it is something I’m so grateful for.”   You, On Fire is the online group coaching program that gives you a step-by-step way of building up self-worth beyond your jean size with personalized coaching from me and lifetime access to the program—so you can break out of the diet culture cage, get free from body shame and live your fiery, free, untamed life. Go here to get all the details and get on the waitlist for the upcoming cycle: summerinnanen.com/youonfirewaitlist Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/254   Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Danni “Amapoundcake” Adams and we’re talking about her recent self-marriage and what inspired her to do this. We also talk about our Body Image Coach Certification program, including what inspired us to create this course, what we appreciate about the way it’s structured and how we incorporate body image coaching into our businesses. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/253 In this episode, we talk about: - What inspired Danni to marry herself and what that actually looked like, - Why she would recommend self-marriage to others, - Who the Body Image Coach Certification program is for, - How this course integrates intersectionality and acknowledges the history of whiteness in the coaching industry, - Some of the feedback we’ve received about this course, - That there’s no right way to be a coach, we teach how to take skills and adapt them to your own practice, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes:  summerinnanen.com/253 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Esther Tambe, Registered Dietitian and Certified Diabetes Care and Education Specialist. We are talking about her story of going to a fat camp, myths about diabetes, and how to make health changes that won’t backfire or trigger disordered habits. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/252 In this episode, we talk about: - Esther’s relationship with her body growing up and her childhood experiences with weight loss camp, - That a lot of the diabetes messaging is rooted in shame, - The many things that impact blood sugar, - How she approaches changes based on what you can add, instead of restricting things, - Tips for getting over the mentality of wanting to change everything at once, - What to do if you don’t like vegetables, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes:  summerinnanen.com/252 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Rina Raphael, journalist and author of The Gospel of Wellness - Gyms, Gurus, Goop, and the False Promise of Self-Care. We are talking about why we are culturally so obsessed with “wellness,” is it even helping us feel better, the deceptive marketing that wellness brands use, and so much more. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/251 In this episode, we talk about: - How negative medical experiences drive women to wellness pursuits, - How wellness advice can often silence women and mask issues, - That influencers do a good job of positioning the pursuit of health as an aspirational lifestyle, - How wealth and “wellness” have become correlated, - Common things to watch-out for in marketing, - Rina’s thoughts on the future of wellness culture, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes:  summerinnanen.com/251 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Pam Luk, the founder of Ember & Ace, an athletic wear brand for plus size kids. She’s talking about what it was like growing up as a fat athlete, the ways that she’s teaching her kids to be body positive, how to teach your kids media literacy, what to do if someone calls your child fat, and how to help your child build resiliency if they are in a larger body. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/250 In this episode, we talk about: - Pam’s relationship with her body growing up, and her relationship with her body now, - How she overcame the fatphobic messages she internalized growing up, - The importance of talking to your kids about what they see in the media and why, - Some tv shows and resources that highlight body diversity, - Questions to ask your kids to help them develop positive feelings about their body, - That you can’t force your child to be ok with their body, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes:  summerinnanen.com/250 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Jessie Diaz-Herrera, the body-positive dance instructor otherwise known as Curves with Moves. We are talking about what her experiences were like growing up as a dancer, how she was able to use dance to embrace her body, the “science” behind jiggling our bodies, and her advice to others who struggle with their belly. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/249 In this episode, we talk about: - Jessie’s relationship with her body growing up, - How she found joy in movement again, after the shame and criticism she faced as a teen, - The importance of finding activities that bring you joy and confidence, - Why jiggling your body is an act of resistance, - How jiggling stemmed from a need for connection and movement during the pandemic, - How Jessie reframed jiggling as a positive thing, - That your body is equal and deserving of everything in this world, - How she deals with trolls and criticism, - How her experience having a stroke changed how she feels about her body, - That learning to love your body comes from your thought processes first, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes:  summerinnanen.com/249 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap Use coupon code EATTHERULES for a free class. Check out the live and online classes here: https://app.arketa.co/curveswithmoves/on-demand

I’m revisiting a classic episode where I talk about how to manage holiday “overeating” and concerns about your weight. I give you specific ways to manage “overeating,” guilt around eating certain foods, holiday weight gain, and general feelings of stress. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/248 In this episode, I talk about: - The diet cycle and how mental and physical restriction lead to our concerns about “overeating,” - Why I hate the term “overeating” because it’s the language of diet culture, - How to give yourself FULL permission to eat so that guilt doesn’t get invited to the table, - What to do if you feel you eat without “savouring,” - How to work through stress about holiday weight gain, - How to handle feelings of holiday stress and feeling overwhelmed with social events, - What to do if you’re worried about photos, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes:  summerinnanen.com/248   Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

I’m joined by Amy Green Smith, certified and credentialed life coach and hypnotherapist, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. We are talking all about how to speak up, set boundaries, and deal with diet and body talk from your friends, family, and other people in your life. She’s giving us scripts to use, and how to work through the fight or flight response when someone says something that you don’t know how to respond to. Show notes: summerinnanen.com/247 In this episode, we talk about: - Some overall things to keep in mind when considering setting a boundary or speaking up, - That you will have to rehearse and practice boundary setting, - How just because someone asks you a question, that does not mean you have to answer, - That people will not make change unless they feel understood, - What message you send to your own mind when you sweep things under the rug, - Advice for being around family with a history of commenting on your body, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes:  summerinnanen.com/247 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap

In this special 2-part episode I’m speaking to two incredible women who I've had the pleasure of working with in You, On Fire.   In this episode, we meet April... April says she started hating her body when she was 8 years old when traumatizing events led her to have a “punishing relationship with her body.” She had been in therapy for years, but had never addressed her relationship with food and exercise. She was in a “constant battle with her body” and was afraid of what would happen if she stopped her restrictive ways. She felt like her body was wearing out from all the over-exercising she was doing and knew she couldn’t continue. One day, she had a realization when she was talking to a friend and said, “if I just liked myself, all of this could stop.” Since doing YOF, she’s learned to trust herself and her body. She says she’s been “feeling really neutral in her body and that’s amazing.” She also says she has “a neutral relationship with movement now.” She doesn’t freak out if she misses days of movement and she chooses movement that feels good for her body. One particular highlight was when she wore a bathing suit (for the first time since her body changed) on a family boating trip and she wasn’t concerned with how she looked, rather she was in the moment. Standing in front of the mirror, she’s had moments where she thinks, “this is me and I might even think she’s beautiful.” Lastly, she says, “Most of the time I’m not thinking about it, which is a relief. There are moments where I even feel good and accepting. There are hard days too, but I have mantras that will get me through and I know they will pass. I’m in a much more comfortable place than I was a year ago.”   You, On Fire is the online group coaching program that gives you a step-by-step way of building up self-worth beyond your jean size with personalized coaching from me and lifetime access to the program—so you can break out of the diet culture cage, get free from body shame and live your fiery, free, untamed life. Go here to get all the details and get on the waitlist for the upcoming cycle: summerinnanen.com/youonfirewaitlist Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/246   Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap