Eat the Rules with Summer Innanen

To celebrate the 100th episode of Fearless Rebelle Radio, I’ve crowd-sourced your best lessons on fat acceptance, body positivity, life without dieting, health at every size, self-worth and more. The idea to crowd-source lessons from you came from Ellen Orr, who helps to manage my Facebook community and I ran with it because I think we are eachother’s greatest teachers and you have been some of my best teachers. The work we’re doing here is radical and not exactly mainstream, so the best way for us to learn and grow is to share what we know with eachother. I’m always so blown away by the brilliant, thoughtful and compassionate words of support and advice that are given in my Facebook community. And I’m so excited to share your words with the world here. We cover your best lessons on fat acceptance, body positivity, diet culture, life without diets, health at every size, our worth, age positivity, self-care, motherhood, feminism and words of encouragement for you.

I’m chatting with Tracy Brown, somatic nutritional therapist, about how to “trust your body.” We talk about what it means to trust your body and how to become more attuned in order to feel safe in your body and have a better relationship with food. In this episode, we chat about: - How Tracy uses somatic therapy in her coaching and why this is so impactful for her client’s relationship with food,  - What it means to be an attuned eater and apply attunement to various aspects of your life,  - How to decode your desires to be smaller and urges to diet to figure out the real meaning behind them,  - What it means to trust your body and how long it can take for someone to rebuild trust, - The importance of using your intellectual mind, heart and gut to heal, - How to get connected with your body and feelings when you’re a Type-A personality or intellectual thinker, - How to appreciate and trust your body when you have chronic illness, Plus, so much more!

I'm talking to Amy E. Smith, certified confidence coach and founder of TheJoyJunkie.com.She talks about the relationship between self-worth and people pleasing, how to let go of people pleasing tendencies and start being more intentional about your desires and needs. We chat about: - The relationship between being able to navigate relationships and your self-worth,  - Why “owning your voice” have everything to do with self-worth, - The ways in which people pleasing prevents us from cultivating self-worth, - The two ways we subtly send that message that everyone else’s needs are more important than our own, - Why “negative” emotions will not disappear with more self-help and how you can start embracing them to feel more whole, - How to let go of what other people think and trying to control the outcome of every situation, - Two ways to operate from a place of grace and kindness when setting boundaries or standing your ground, And more!

In this episode of Fearless Rebelle Radio I’m catching up with Laurel, one of the amazing women who went through the Rock Your Body program last year. Laurel is here to tell her story about how she went from being “health and exercise obsessed” to feeling free in her life and body. She tells the truth about how this doesn't happen overnight and what tools helped her the most. 

I’m talking about the difference between body esteem and self-worth, why fat is not a feeling, what we can learn from our bad body days and 5 questions to help you work through moments of body shame. I'm talking about: - The difference between self-esteem and self-worth, - Why having body confidence and body-esteem only addresses a small piece of our self-worth, - The importance of self-compassion as it relates to our self-worth and body image, - Why self-worth and body image are interconnected, - Why fat is not a feeling and how to tap into your real emotions, - What our bad body days are telling us and how to decode your moments of body shame, - 5 questions you can ask yourself to work through moments of body shame.

I’m chatting with Victoria Welsby, Confidence and Body Love Coach from BAM POW LIFE, about why we are so scared of fat, what you can do to change your internal bias and what to do if you’re afraid your partner will leave you if you gain weight. We talk about: - Victoria’s story of being homeless, experiencing abuse and low self-esteem and how her adversity made her more resilient and helped her become an awesome fat activist,  - We explore why society is so afraid of fat and what Victoria learned when she did a social experiment asking people their thoughts on fat bodies, - What the good fatty/bad fatty dichotomy is and why our culture is so obsessed with health, - How to challenge and change the internalized fatphobia and help others to see their biases, - What Victoria did when her partner told her that he would find her more attractive if she was thinner, - What to do if you’re in a relationship where you are afraid your partner will leave you if you gain weight, - Whether it’s possible to change your partner’s point of view and help them challenge their social conditioning, And so much more!

I’m chatting with Kelly Diels, Feminist Marking Consultant, about the Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB). We’re talking about how empowerment is being misused and co-opted in the online world, how this upholds patriarchal systems, why self-care is a collective issue and what you can watch out for as a consumer to advocate for yourself and demand better. Specifically, the ways in which Kelly noticed how “empowerment” and social triggers were being used to market services and how this was misaligned with true empowerment. What the Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB) is and how to watch out for it. The ways in which FLEB uphold patriarchal systems and maintain authority over other women. How to become a more astute consumer and the specific tactics to watch out for. Why we need collective social change and personal success strategies to overcome our obstacles and have more successful self-improvement models. How women are conditioned to be “brands” (objects for consumption) and the ways this perpetuates feelings of inferiority. How coaches can become better at marketing their services and truly stand for empowerment, plus, so much more! 

I’m chatting with Jennifer Rollin, MSW, LCSW-C, about the difference between eating disorders and disordered eating, how weight-stigma creates issues within eating disorder recovery and healthcare and our thoughts on ED before and after pics. We talk about: The difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating. Whether or not eating disorders would exist in the absence of diet culture. How weight stigma creates problems in eating disorder recovery and the healthcare system. How to improve eating disorder recovery rates at an institutional level. What you can do for yourself to find better healthcare and support if you feel like you are being discriminated against. What to do at the doctor when they request that you get weighed. Our perspectives on eating disorder before and after pictures – are they problematic or helpful? Plus, so much more! 

I’m chatting with Mara Glatzel, MSW – intuitive guide and energy healer – about how to advocate for yourself, stop being chained to your to-do list and realize you are enough exactly as you are, regardless of your productivity and imperfections. In this episode, we chat about: How to recognize your needs and advocate for yourself, even when you don’t feel like you’re worth it. How to overcome the fear and hesitation that accompanies receiving and advocating for ourselves. How to identify and set boundaries for yourself. The importance of rest, why rest does not mean sleeping and how to create a more restful existence for yourself. Why being productive won’t make you more worthy and how to step away from your to-do list. How mothering has changed Mara and helped her become more aligned to her purpose, plus so much more. 

I’m talking about why body positivity and intentional attempts at weight loss cannot co-exist and answering common questions associated with this debate. In this episode, I talk about: What do we mean when we talk about weight loss in the context of body positivity. What body positivity really is and why it is different than “loving your body." Why the statement “You can love your body and still want to change it” is perhaps true, yet not body positive. Why the promotion and labeling of weight loss as “body positivity” is destructive and harmful to fat acceptance. How I respond to common pushback and questions around weight and body positivity. What to do if you need to lose weight “for health reasons." What kind of discussions belong in body positive spaces. Why I don’t make the rules on any of this crap and who to follow for more advice. Plus, so much more!