Calmly Coping

Dr. Tara Cousineau, a Harvard clinical psychologist and author, dives deep into the hidden struggles of perfectionism. She reveals how it often stems from fear and anxiety, cloaked as a strength in high achievers. Tara shares insights on embracing self-compassion and using Internal Family Systems to heal from perfectionist urges. She emphasizes the importance of body-based practices and simple mindset shifts to soften the inner critic, encouraging listeners to break free from the exhausting pressure to perform.

Smartphones are now ubiquitous, and although they offer many benefits, they can also become a source of anxiety. Worrying about responding to notifications, the feeling of being constantly available, and coming across triggering content on social media are just a few causes. In this episode, I’m sharing the exact ways I set up and use my phone to feel calmer, more focused, and less reactive. You’ll learn simple changes to reduce mindless checking, set clear boundaries, and use your phone in a way that actually supports your mental health.   In this episode, you will learn: How compulsive phone use feeds anxiety (especially for high-achievers) The exact setup I use to support calm, clarity, and presence Practical tips and mindset shifts to structure your phone more intentionally   Mentioned in episode: Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport How to Break Up With Your Phone by Catherine Price Newsfeed Eradicator Browser Plugin (Chrome/Firefox) ScreenZen App: https://www.screenzen.co/   My favorite phone apps: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   ▶️ Watch the Free Training: Achieve a Calm Mind, Balanced Life, and Empowered Confidence in 90 Days: https://calmlycoping.com/workshop   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

What if the way you listen could completely transform your relationships? In this episode, I sit down with longtime BBC journalist and author Emily Kasriel to explore the power of deep listening as a tool for connection, calm, and healing. We dive into how to navigate difficult conversations, be fully present with others, and create space for trust and understanding. If you're craving more meaningful interactions in a fast-paced and increasingly disconnected world, this conversation is a must-listen.   In this episode, you’ll learn: Practical ways to stay grounded and open during difficult conversations A step-by-step framework to help you listen with more presence and empathy How deep listening can create safety, trust, and authentic connection   Connect with Emily: Emily Kasriel’s new book Deep Listening: https://a.co/d/gOrCmtF Emily’s website: https://www.emilykasriel.com/ Emily’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emilykasriel/   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   💌 Subscribe to the Calmly Coping Newsletter: https://calmlycoping.com/newsletter   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

Explore the fear of disappointing others and its impact on personal choices. Discover where this fear originates and the toll it takes on your well-being. Learn to spot people-pleasing tendencies in your thoughts and body. Get practical strategies for setting boundaries, even when it feels daunting. Shift your focus from others' happiness to your own self-care without guilt. Embrace small steps towards a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Do you notice your anxiety, mood, or motivation shifting with your cycle? In this episode, I’m diving into how hormone changes, especially during the pre-menstrual phase, can impact those with high-functioning anxiety, and how you can start working with your cycle rather than pushing against it. I’ll be sharing practical, compassionate strategies you can start using today.   In this episode, you will learn: Why anxiety and emotional sensitivity often spike during the pre-menstrual (luteal) phase How to track your cycle emotionally and use “cycle syncing” to reduce PMS intensity Six practical coping tools, including how to manage overwhelming emotions with the RAIN technique   Resources: International Association for Pre-Menstrual Disorders (IAPMD): https://www.iapmd.org/ Meal delivery service I use during the luteal phase: Thistle: https://www.thistle.co/?referral_key=TATIAN1PG9   Sources: https://dialnet.unirioja.es/descarga/articulo/9671035.pdf https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8906247/ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/nutrition-and-exercise-throughout-your-menstrual-cycle https://www.bswhealth.com/blog/cycle-syncing-a-self-care-approach-to-nutrition-exercise-and-daily-life https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

When was the last time you truly did nothing—no phone, no to-do list, no distractions? In a world that rewards constant doing, stillness can feel foreign, even uncomfortable. But if you're feeling overwhelmed, foggy, or stretched thin, the space you're avoiding might be exactly what’s necessary. In this episode, we’ll explore why doing nothing isn’t indulgent, it’s essential.   In this episode, you will learn: Why “doing nothing” is deeply healing for your brain and body How constant stimulation is silently draining your clarity, creativity, and energy Simple ways to reclaim small pockets of stillness in your day (even when your inner critic says “doing nothing” feels lazy or wrong)   Sources: https://scottbarrykaufman.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/Christoff-et-al.-2016.pdf https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.00722/full https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/a-20-minute-nature-break-relieves-stress https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10400419.2014.901073?journalCode=hcrj20 https://www.denverartmuseum.org/en/exhibitions/georgia-okeeffe-new-mexico https://www.who.int/news/item/17-05-2021-long-working-hours-increasing-deaths-from-heart-disease-and-stroke-who-ilo   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   🎓 Free 3-day Course: How To Calm Your Mind So You Can Finally Relax: https://calmlycoping.com/relax   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

It’s been five years of Calmly Coping — 230 episodes, thousands of listeners, and countless lessons. In this special anniversary episode, I’m reflecting on the personal and professional growth I’ve experienced, and the impact you’ve had on this journey. Let’s look back, reconnect, and look forward to what’s next.   And stick around to the end — I have a big announcement about what’s next for Calmly Coping!   In this episode, you will learn: Five transformative lessons I’ve learned from five years of creating Calmly Coping The powerful impact this podcast has had both for you and for me A special announcement about what’s ahead for Calmly Coping   And I want to give a special shoutout to my incredible team—Rochelle, my VA, and Brianna, my editor—who have supported me behind the scenes. Calmly Coping wouldn’t be what it is today without you!   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

Maegan Megginson, a holistic business mentor and licensed therapist, joins the conversation to share her insights on achieving deep rest while maintaining ambition. They discuss the societal pressures on high achievers and the importance of recognizing early signs of burnout. Maegan emphasizes that true rest is individualized and encourages listeners to explore fulfilling activities that recharge their spirits. The dialogue also delves into balancing self-improvement with personal growth and invites listeners to redefine their understanding of rest and success.

Are you stuck in the cycle of never-ending to-do lists? Discover why the mindset of needing to finish tasks before resting only leads to guilt. Explore the psychological barriers that prevent relaxation and learn to reassess your views on rest. Uncover a simple 4-step REST method to help shift your priorities towards intentional relaxation. It's time to establish boundaries and embrace self-care. Simplifying your systems can enhance your mental well-being and create the balance you’ve been craving.

If your mind races the moment your head hits the pillow — you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m joined by sleep expert Joseph Pannell, who shares his personal journey through 20 years of chronic insomnia and the powerful, science-backed strategies that helped him heal. We explore the deep connection between high-functioning anxiety, perfectionism, and insomnia, and what actually helps when you’re stuck in the spiral of overthinking at night. This conversation is validating, eye-opening, and full of relief for anyone who feels like rest is out of reach.   The truth about what insomnia is (and isn’t) Why high achievers are more prone to sleep issues How to stop spiraling at night and calm your mind Practical behavioral shifts that support natural sleep What to do when anxious thoughts wake you up at 3 AM   Joseph’s Website: https://www.sleepze.com   Joseph’s YouTube Channel: Insomnia Talks   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   ▶️ Check out Joseph’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@InsomniaTalks   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 🕊️ Moonbird (Handheld Breathing Coach)*: https://calmlycoping.com/moonbird ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.