Calmly Coping

If you’ve ever felt like you should have it all together—but inside, you're exhausted, scattered, or secretly struggling to keep up—this episode is for you. I'm joined by Rebecca Tolbert, a clinical therapist and ADHD coach who brings warmth, wisdom, and lived experience to the conversation around ADHD in high-achieving professionals. We explore how ADHD can show up in subtle, unexpected ways, why it’s often overlooked in women, and how learning to work with your brain—rather than against it—can change everything.   In this episode, you will learn: The subtle ways ADHD can show up in high-achievers How to manage your energy through “sprinter-style” productivity The SEMPRE skill set that supports ADHD brains and nervous systems Why acceptance and joyful structure are key to sustainable success   Connect with Rebecca: Download the SEMPRE Pillars: https://rebecca-tolbert.kit.com/1a445b31ce www.consciousstrides.com instagram: @rebeccatolbert LinkedIn: Rebecca Tolbert, LICSW   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   💌 Subscribe to the Calmly Coping Newsletter: https://calmlycoping.com/newsletter   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

Feeling unmotivated and exhausted? The discussion explores how to distinguish between depression and burnout, highlighting their overlapping symptoms. Listeners will learn practical tips for identifying their feelings and actionable strategies for recovery. Understanding these differences can lead to better support and healing, helping you transition from surviving to thriving.

If you're feeling unmotivated, then this is for you, especially if you're feeling unmotivated because of overwhelm. Many times we can reach a point of lacking motivation or desire to do anything because there is so much on our plate, so much on our minds, and so much going on all around us. So in this episode, I'm going to share why that happens and practical steps for what you can do about it.   In this episode, you will learn: Why overwhelm, not laziness, is often the real cause of lost motivation My 5-step reset to help you move from mental fog to clear, focused action How to meet yourself with compassion instead of pressure when your energy is low   Mentioned in episode: How to Get Organized with High-Functioning Anxiety: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/organizing-with-high-functioning-anxiety/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/DlEYrWdOVmo Do You Have Unrealistic Expectations? Here’s What To Do: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/unrealistic-expectations/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/xEkbSU53zJo Feeling Unmotivated? This is for you: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/feeling-unmotivated/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/WwDydU0DnVg   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   📝 Download the free guide: Goodbye Overwhelm: Your Guide To Accomplish More By Doing Less: http://calmlycoping.com/overwhelm   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

Are you feeling exhausted, burnt-out, and done with your job… but leaving doesn’t feel like an option right now? Maybe you feel trapped financially, fear the consequences of leaving, don’t see any other options, or don’t even know what you want to do next… If so, know that you’re not alone. I have worked with many clients in this exact situation, and in this episode I’ll dive deeper into the reasons why you’re feeling trapped, along with practical tips to find a way towards more calm, energy, and freedom.   In this episode, you will learn: Why staying in a draining job can feel like the only option, even when it's harming your mental health. The deeper emotional and psychological reasons behind feeling stuck Practical, compassionate steps you can take right now to protect your energy and reconnect with a sense of possibility.   Mentioned in episode: Escape Survival Mode and Heal Your Nervous System: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/heal-nervous-system/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/YDtmmN942Fg How to Really Disconnect from Work: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/disconnect-from-work/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/ZfA2nKTTxKg Evening Routine to Calm Your Mind and Disconnect from Work: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/evening-routine/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/V0euexQIjx4 How to Set Boundaries With Work (Without Feeling Guilty): https://www.becalmwithtati.com/work-boundaries/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/zUbJWUoeIYY   Sources: The Workplace Dynamic of People-Pleasing: https://www.mdpi.com/2673-8392/5/3/95 The Job Demands–Resources model: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Job_demands-resources_model   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   🎓 Learn more about Calm, Balanced, & Confident: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/calm-balanced-confident/   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

In this discussion with Lindsay Bryan-Podvin, a financial therapist and author of The Financial Anxiety Solution, listeners explore the deep connection between financial anxiety and mental well-being. Lindsay shares insights on how money stress can mask itself as productivity, particularly for high achievers. She emphasizes the importance of shifting mindsets for a healthier relationship with finances and challenges societal norms linking self-worth to income. Practical strategies for managing financial stress and overcoming perfectionism are also highlighted.

Feeling like you’re never enough? The discussion highlights how unrealistic expectations can harm mental health, particularly for high achievers. It offers insights on recognizing when your goals don’t serve you, and provides strategies to recalibrate them without losing your drive. Self-awareness and self-compassion take center stage as essential tools for maintaining ambition while preserving your peace of mind. Tune in for practical ways to achieve a balanced life amidst the pressures of ambition.

If overthinking has ever gotten you to talk yourself out of doing something before you even started, you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m sharing why our minds spiral into decision paralysis, how perfectionism and anxiety can sabotage our progress, and therapist-approved strategies to help you shift from spiraling thoughts to intentional action.   In this episode, you will learn: Why overthinking keeps you stuck in place How to recognize protective patterns like perfectionism and fear of failure Mindful, practical ways to simplify your decisions and move forward   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   📝 Free Guide: Stop Overthinking and Start Relaxing: https://calmlycoping.com/overthinking   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

We often believe that if we can just control things — our environment, other people, the outcome — we’ll finally feel calm. But what if the opposite is true? In this episode, I share how a daily source of frustration transformed completely when I chose acceptance over control. You’ll learn how this mindset shift can improve emotion regulation, reduce anxiety, and help you navigate life with more ease, especially if you’re a high-achiever who often gets caught in “shoulds” and expectations.   In this episode, you will learn: How acceptance (not control) leads to calm and emotion regulation The difference between acceptance and resignation Practical ways to reduce frustration when things don’t go as planned   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

Dr. Tara Cousineau, a Harvard clinical psychologist and author, dives deep into the hidden struggles of perfectionism. She reveals how it often stems from fear and anxiety, cloaked as a strength in high achievers. Tara shares insights on embracing self-compassion and using Internal Family Systems to heal from perfectionist urges. She emphasizes the importance of body-based practices and simple mindset shifts to soften the inner critic, encouraging listeners to break free from the exhausting pressure to perform.

Smartphones are now ubiquitous, and although they offer many benefits, they can also become a source of anxiety. Worrying about responding to notifications, the feeling of being constantly available, and coming across triggering content on social media are just a few causes. In this episode, I’m sharing the exact ways I set up and use my phone to feel calmer, more focused, and less reactive. You’ll learn simple changes to reduce mindless checking, set clear boundaries, and use your phone in a way that actually supports your mental health.   In this episode, you will learn: How compulsive phone use feeds anxiety (especially for high-achievers) The exact setup I use to support calm, clarity, and presence Practical tips and mindset shifts to structure your phone more intentionally   Mentioned in episode: Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport How to Break Up With Your Phone by Catherine Price Newsfeed Eradicator Browser Plugin (Chrome/Firefox) ScreenZen App: https://www.screenzen.co/   My favorite phone apps: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081   ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ———————   ▶️ Watch the Free Training: Achieve a Calm Mind, Balanced Life, and Empowered Confidence in 90 Days: https://calmlycoping.com/workshop   💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ———————   Want more?   👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ———————   My favorite tools: 🧘🏽‍♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 ———————   Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ———————   Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.   *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.