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今天，受到良好教育的女性越来越多地意识到，生孩子的必要条件是给孩子提供安全良好的生活。 然而，即便是受过很好教育的女性，大多数都还不太意识到另一个必要条件，那就是女性需要充分知悉生育对女性可能造成的损伤，充分保护自己。 即便在貌似资讯发达的今日，生育损伤仍是一个深深被羞耻和禁忌挟裹的话题。它仿佛是极少数情况（但并不是），或者是不值一提的，甚至似乎女性遭遇生育损伤是因为她自己做错了什么。 然而，如果我们稍微做一些调研，就会发现，每一个生育的女性身上，都会存在生育损伤，女性的每一次生育，都会给她增加一些损伤。从线粒体、骨骼到大脑，女性的身体在怀孕和生育过程里，要遭遇无数挑战，越过无数她自己都不知道的险关。 而在父权社会不平等的性别秩序里，不仅女性被认为有生育的义务，而且婚姻往往意味着更年长的男性和年轻的女性结合。大多数女性需要用自己的子宫和整个身体，来承担衰老的精子带来的风险，而一旦生下来的孩子不够健康，母亲却是第一个被责怪的人。 这一期海马星球与大魔王一起，讨论了女性可能遭遇的生育损伤、这些损伤的起源、女性可以如何全面自主地看待自己的生育权、改写父权式生育的历史篇章。

当我们批判父权社会，很少有人去追究它最底层的基本规则设置。这些设置让黑暗人格与鱼得水，熟练使用这套规则，不仅会得到默许，甚至还被鼓励，更甚至会得到财富、名誉和地位的奖赏，所以即便是健康正常的人，也会不由自主地去适应和模仿黑暗人格的行为。但他们也会因此遭受持续创伤，即便他们自己可能毫无觉察。 本期海马星球请心理咨询师李双双一起，对比和分析了父权社会的特征与黑暗人格特质的重合之处，探讨了从私人关系到组织、社会之中的等级制、极度排外、导向原子化/孤立的操纵、暴力威慑等设置。这套设置从父权社会以暴力摧毁母权社会开始，迄今已经五六千年。然而，如果足够多的人充分学习和透视了这套设置，不再配合它的游戏，它就会无计可施、轰然崩塌。 在节目最后，我们分享了如何以“灰岩法则”、“黄岩法则”和“Don’t go DEEP”的策略，化解黑暗人格者对我们的操纵，而同样重要的，是节目开头介绍里提到的办法：寻找有同情心的同类、共建平等而安全的社群，互相保护照料。这恰恰是母权社会能维持万年和平的原因。 性别打结 by 艾伦•约翰逊 心理学家Ramani Durvasula 《文革遗伤心理研究》by 陆建华 https://health.wenwo.com/iw/aiwenArticle/554c450281df18c6274d05e3 Versuch über die modern Seele Chinas by Antje Haag 德中心理治疗研究院主席主席阿夫•葛拉赫（Alf Gerlach）

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