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Fou姐, a resilient entrepreneur from Northeast China, shares her inspiring journey from a troubled marriage to building a successful business in Beijing. She reflects on the struggles of being a single mother and the emotional distance between her and her daughter, Qimei. Their candid conversation explores themes of patriarchy, generational conflict, and empowerment. As Qimei embarks on a quest to study matriarchal cultures, both women uncover the hidden strength in their relationship, fueling a mutual understanding and rediscovery of their dreams.

在全世界男权国家的咒骂里，有两种咒骂类型。一种是诅咒脏东西，比如德语之中的“屎！”和中文之中的“臭狗屎！”，另一种是威胁辱女，比如威胁强奸女性，尤其是对方的母亲，是最常见和普遍的类型，也是男性在日常生活中的口语。除了咒骂之外，现代汉语中很多负面的词汇和文字，都与女性相关，比如“嫉妒”、“奸诈“，等等。 男权文字中无处不在的厌女和对女性的暴力威胁，是数千年男权社会积累强化的肮脏遗产，其目的在于巩固男性特权地位，时刻驯化女性，使其对自己的性别自卑自厌，服从于男性居上的性别权力框架。 各国女性在历史上一直努力修改厌女的语言，自进入现代之后，开始有了一些能积累的成果。如中国晚清时期的革命女性，在文章写作中使用“英雌“来形容了不起的女性。而在社交媒体的普及过程里，也有越来越多的年轻女性，开始有意识在公共传播中改造厌女的通用语言。本期海马星球的嘉宾鸟惠，就是其中一位。她的博士课题结合了语言学和计算机的交叉知识，研究厌女语言对人们的影响，并由此在创造一个女性友好的输入法，去掉负面意义的字的女字旁，甚至尝试给积极词汇加女字旁。 在这个创造的过程里，她得到了女导师的大力支持，但也遭遇了很多来自各个方面的压力和威胁，经历了所有变革者经历的挑战，哪怕这个变革看起来不过是很微小的进步。但正是这样的点滴努力，汇聚在一起，构成了更好的明天。 本期提到的文章和书籍： 《A Glimpse of the Change of Female Social Status from Words with radical Nǚ in the Origin of Chinese Characters》by 赵爱武 《说文解字——女部文化阐述研究综述》 《女字旁》浙江人民出版社 by 王洋洋

A fascinating gathering in Brighton brought together 2,500 voices from around the globe to discuss pressing women's issues. From feminist activism and unique movements to vital topics like surrogacy debates, the conference showcased the evolution of the women's rights landscape. An inspiring panel revisited the historic 1995 Beijing conference, connecting past struggles with today's challenges. Stories of resilience, intergenerational inspiration, and global solidarity highlighted the ongoing fight against violence and discrimination. Engaging discussions encouraged unity among diverse movements.

Nati, a festival participant known for sharing her experiences living abroad and engaging in personal journeys through haircuts, shares a candid reflection on shaving her head. She discusses the surprising social reactions and workplace dynamics that followed. Nati also dives into her career uncertainties and the judgments she faced while navigating professional life. Alongside her, the podcast features a variety of performers tackling themes of femininity, conflict, and community in humorous and thought-provoking ways.

本期播客回顾了海马2025年大会的概况和动人的细节，最后附上了李雯的开场致词。

Yifei是一个上海普通家庭长大的女孩，她受到的社会和学校教育，给了她崇尚拼搏、相信“努力就会有回报”的优绩主义信念。凭着过人的努力和天赋，她考上了复旦大学，毕业后又拿到了哈佛的全额奖学金，满怀憧憬来到了充满全世界“天龙人”（也就是富裕和特权阶层及其后代）的波士顿。然而在这里，拼搏之路的回报忽然断崖式下跌。在更高阶的游戏场里，她第一次深度体验了阶级差异带来的全方位碾压，看到自己无论如何努力，都不可能与家境优渥的“天龙人”竞争得过。她从小被灌输的优绩主义信念，开始瓦解崩塌了。 在茫然之中，她踏上了一条自我探索之路，重新去寻找生命的坐标系。在这个过程里，她虽然仍在主流社会的精英之路上谋生，但她学会了以抽离的视角，拆解了自己内化的优绩主义信念，发现了这种信念的狭隘与肤浅。 原定作为2025海马澳洲大会嘉宾的yifei，因为忽然开启了一个创业项目，而不能如约参会，于是我们远程录制了这期视频节目，作为澳洲大会的番外篇和预热篇，分享给大家。在youtube上可以看到视频版，网站和各播客平台上，大家听到的是视频版的音频整理。 本期节目视频剪辑制作：Max

Delve into the lives of the Mosuo people, a matriarchal society where women hold the reins of family and culture. Discover how daughters inherit property and grow up in nurturing communities, fostering equality and respect. Listen as an 18-year-old future leader shares insights on parenting styles, family dynamics, and the unique transition rituals into adulthood. Explore how the Mosuo culture bravely faces external pressures while celebrating their traditions, and learn why being 'like a girl' is a badge of honor.

Dive into the intriguing exploration of matriarchal societies versus patriarchal systems. Discover how matriarchy laid the foundation for early human civilization and challenged the prevailing narratives of dominance. The conversation delves into the origins of patriarchy, examining it as an invention rooted in violence and control. Experience the inspiring journey of a researcher dedicated to unearthing the truths of matriarchal history, emphasizing women's resilience and the possibility of reviving these social structures. Uncover the hidden power of female solidarity and its role in forging a progressive future.

Hayde Gotner-Abendroth, a renowned feminist scholar focused on matriarchal societies, dives deep into the often-overlooked histories of female-led systems. She challenges patriarchal narratives by revealing ancient matriarchy's contributions to advancements in farming, medicine, and community solidarity. Hayde advocates for a future rooted in matriarchal principles, emphasizing community bonds, kinship economics, and respect for nature. Her insights shed light on the ongoing existence of these societies and the vital role of maternal influence in fostering a more equitable world.

The podcast delves into the troubling realities of surrogacy, unraveling its exploitation of women under both commercial and altruistic motives. It reveals chilling narratives from China, highlighting the commodification of childbirth as a form of modern slavery. The discussion sheds light on teenage pregnancy and the unique challenges faced by young mothers, while dissecting societal pressures that drive women to sell their bodies. Ultimately, it advocates for a reimagining of societal relationships to honor women's autonomy and dignity.