Latter Day Struggles

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: The Shocking Correlation Between Men Socialized in Patriarchies & Psychological/Spiritual Underdevelopment  [Part III of VI]In this episode Valerie and Nathan continue to explore how patriarchal systems can negatively impact the spiritual and psychological development of men. They discuss why patriarchal men learn to see the world transactionally, why they might struggle with listening skills, and how this all impacts their capacity to find connection with their higher selves, others, and God. Nathan shares his personal journey of moving away from these norms, emphasizing the need for men to embrace a more emotionally aware and connected way of living. Join us as we dive deep into these critical issues and offer insights for creating healthier relationships.Breaking Down Patriarchy Podcast- Amy McPhie Allebest- "How to be an Anti-PatriarchistDisentangling from Emotionally Immature People- Lindsey C. Gibson PsyDAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents- Lindsay C. Gibson PsyDSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title:  The Shocking Correlation Between Men Socialized in Patriarchies & Psychological/Spiritual Underdevelopment [Part I of VI] Join Valerie and Nathan as they kick off a new DEEP DIVE series exploring how patriarchy affects men in the LDS Church. This series compares the attributes that emotionally underdeveloped people have in common with men socialized in an institutional patriarchy.  In each episode Nathan candidly shares how he is slowly healing from the wounds that patriarchal teachings imposed upon his mind and heart.  Tune in to understand with even more clarity how patriarchal structures negatively impact the growth and development of everyone, not just women, and why addressing this topic is crucial for a healthier LDS church. Don't miss this eye-opening six-part conversation!Breaking Down Patriarchy Podcast- Amy McPhie Allebest: "How to be an Anti-PatriarchistAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents- Lindsay C. Gibson PsyDLDSS Patriarchy Series: Episodes 212, 213, 214LDSS Blog: Patriarchy's Effect on Men's Mental HealthSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Celebrating 50 Years Exponent II & Mormon Feminist Voices [Part I of II]In this episode, Valerie speaks with Katie Ludlow Rich and Heather Sundahl, the co-authors of newly  published book '50 Years of Exponent II'. They discuss the fascinating history of the original “Woman's Exponent” magazine in the late 1800s and its  revival magazine  “Exponent II”, both offering a place for Mormon feminists to gather, write, and share their experiences as  women of different eras wrestling with issues crucial to their time and their identity as women. The conversation in this and  Friday’s episode explores the impact of polygamy on Mormon feminism, the importance of women's independent voices, and how Exponent II's existence provided a crucial platform for Mormon women's stories and experiences.Trying to make sense of how feminism exists in an institutional patriarchy? Wanting to find others who value their heritage but feel passion for women’s and  gender minority issues? You’ve found your place! Please support Exponent II by purchasing the book “ 50 Years  of Exponent II” https://www.amazon.com/dp/1560854774/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_P68B2S5G0PJ8SSB93JZM?linkCode=ml2&tag=valeriehamaker-20Charitable donations always welcome to help them build an endowment. Go to https://exponentii.org/support-mormon-feminism/donation/Support the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Story of LDS Faith Expansion & Marital Resilience [Part V of V]In this episode Valerie answers a variety of audience questions regarding the complexities of the LDS faith journey when a married couple finds themselves in different places on the LDS faith spectrum.  Valerie provides resources, insights, and tools around topics that range from how to establish emotional safety in frightening conversations, how to develop emotional intimacy, how to navigate parenting struggles, healthy boundaries, and how to grow intimacy & mutual in the differentiating marriage.  NOTE: the episode that was mentioned in this episode as forthcoming addressing why LDS marriages struggle so much when one partner goes on a faith journey was dropped one episode BEFORE this one (not after this one!). Sorry for the possible confusion!  Support the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Story of LDS Faith Expansion & Marital Resilience [Part III of V]In this episode, Valerie is joined again by Katie and Jeremy as they share their journey from early religious alignment, through painful confusion and isolation, and then profound personal and relational growth and intimacy as a couple and family. Emphasizing the importance of emotional safety, attachment styles, and healthy stress management,  Through their candid discussions, Katie and Jeremy reveal how understanding each other's childhood experiences, pursuing curiosity over certainty, and utilizing trauma-informed counseling have given them the tools needed to resuscitate their marriage and find more connection than they had even before their faith expanding journey together. This episode highlights strategies for couples facing similar faith-related challenges and offers a wealth of hope, practical advice, and profound insights for couples striving to strengthen their relationships amidst evolving spiritual beliefs connected to the LDS faith tradition. For more information on the online class created and facilitated by Valerie Hamaker [Stress Management and Sharing Your Narrative] that is discussed in this episode go to https://valerie-hamaker-s-school1.teachable.com/p/a-couple-s-guide-to-faith-crisis-expansion-session-03-stress-management-sharing-your-narrativeSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: A Story of LDS Faith Expansion & Marital Resilience [Part I of V]In this episode, Valerie hosts a heartfelt and raw discussion with Katie and Jeremy about the complexities of navigating a mixed-faith marriage. They share personal stories, fears, challenges, and the journey they've taken to find common ground and love despite differing faith paths. This episode delves into the deep emotions of fear, hurt, shame, loneliness, and highlights the importance of communication, empathy, and love in overcoming marital struggles connected to faith transitions.Learn more about the online class created and facilitated by Valerie Hamaker [Establishing Safety as a Couple] discussed in this episode here Support the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Navigating Information Quality in the Latter Days  [Part I of II]Join Val and Nathan in this two-part series walking you through six questions that you can tape on your fridge and bathroom mirror to help you become a super savvy discerner of information quality.  In an age where we are inundated with information and people from all quarters of our lives wanting to persuade us to do things their way--this short series hopefully will assist you in becoming more savvy in every area of your life!  Link to Todd Cashden's book "The Art of Insubordination" hereSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Hello everyone! Here is a quick introduction to NEW curriculum that I am putting together (by popular demand!) helping our Latter-day Saint and surrounding community better understand our complicated relationship with what healthy masculinity and femininity looks like in all human beings and how this concept has been warped by being socialized in multiple layers of patriarchy.  This group beginning on November 7th at 10:30a Central is for those who have already been in at least 6 months of group work with me.  There are only 5 SEATS LEFT!!  Email admin@latterdaystruggles.com if interested and if eligible, you will receive a registration link via email.   First come first served!  Women AND men invited!  See you there!  Support the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Faith Journeying Parents of Adult Children [Part III of IV]In this tender episode Valerie has a conversation with special guest, Kim, who shares the intense emotional experience of entering into her own faith journey in the face of terror that she might lose the love and trust of her children and grandchildren.  This episode walks us through the steps she took to meet each of her adult children where they were while also standing in her own sacred truths.  Support the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website

Send us a Positive Review!Series Title: Faith Journeying Parents of Adult Children [Part I of IV]In this series Val is joined by therapist, colleague and friend Liz MacDonald to dive deeply into the world of the faith expanding Latter-day Saint with more traditionally believing adult children. They explore the unique stressors of this parent/child dynamic when the parent “goes first” on a faith journey, their fears, and some of their strategies intended to differentiate while staying in connection with their most important relationships. Support the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Access $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website