Healthy Parenting Handbook with Katie Kimball

In today's Healthy Parenting Handbook, I'm going to take 5 different arguments against kids doing chores and learning life skills and counter them with facts, stories, research, and a big ol' dose of common sense.These are real arguments I hear from both well-meaning parents AND keyboard warriors on social media, plus one from a well-established expert I heard on a podcast that I simply do not agree with!If you've ever had to listen to someone say it's cruelty to make your kids clean a bathroom or have felt yourself that maybe kids are busy enough - maybe life skills aren't important to learn now - this one's for you.Resources I Mention for Chores and Life SkillsReserve your spot in our 2024 Life Skills Now Summer CampPurchase access to Life Skills Now Season One from 2022 or Season Two from 20233 Reasons Giving Kids Responsibility Is a Gift Kitchen Stewardship Raising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

Oh, parents. Parents in the tech age...there REALLY is no handbook for this! We've never seen our parents struggle through having the Internet in our kids' pockets, and honestly? I don't like the feeling of making it up as I go along.That's why I've been following Andrea and Tyler at Better Screen Time for a few years in my personal email, and I don't know why I didn't ask her to do an interview sooner!We dug deep in this interview,  including:Risks of screen use and technology, including some I NEVER even consideredWhy we can't parent from a place of fear (even though that bit above is scary!!!)How parents can consciously choose when a child gets a personal deviceThe risk of allowing our kids to self-soothe with screensThe importance of kids under 6 doing the hard work of playingThe difference between watching a show and playing on an interactive touch screen (mind-blowing!)What questions you should ask your kids to help build a family tech plan (and why "together" works better than "rules from the top")This interview is required listening for all parents, and we really dig into healthy screen boundaries for kids younger than 10. Lay the foundations for family tech use with this interview, and watch in a few months when I have Andrea back to tackle the tough topic of tweens, teens, and smartphones.Andrea offered a free gift for our listeners 100 screen-free activities.Andrea is a camp leader for #LifeSkillsNow Summer Camp this June! Sign up for free here!Check out 3rd Rock Essentials and use code KITCHENSTEW for 20% off!Resources We Mention for Better Screen TimeMy second interview with Andrea about teens and screensFind Andrea OnlineAndrea's book: Creating a Tech Healthy FamilyAndrea's Courses: Creating a Tech Healthy Family, Untangling Teens and TechDr. Dimitri Christakis is a leader in screen research with kidsReset Your Child's BrainHere's the interview I mentioned with Dina Rose about healthy eating habitsFollow Andrea on social media: Instagram, Facebook Kitchen Stewardship Raising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

Power. Control. Parenting.Which of these three doesn’t belong?My guest today is Wendy Snyder, a positive parenting educator who reminds us, “Control is not the goal of parenting.”Obviously, there is a balance of power in a parent-child relationship, but taking the power or fighting over who has power isn’t the right game to play.Wendy will teach you:Why yelling is sometimes what parents do when they feel powerLESSWhy it’s so difficult to parent “cactus kids” - aka those who want to be in powerSteps to reduce your reliance on fear, force, bribery, rewards & nagging to influence your kidsPowerful positive strategies that not only help you self-calm, but also work to decrease pushback from your kiddosHow to get to the root of your child’s power-seeking misbehavior so you can effectively redirect them toward better behaviorIf you’re struggling with a powerful child or wishing you had a roadmap to calmer parenting, this one is for you!Wendy was a camp leader in #LifeSkillsNow Season 3. You can purchase access to the season here or see four free life skills workshops now!Thanks to today's sponsor Perfect Supplements. Shop here: https://kidscookrealfood.com/perfectResources We Mention for Raising Strong-Willed KidsWendy's free power struggles master classFind Wendy onlineIs your child highly sensitive?Get more practical tips for picky eaters hereFollow her on social media: Facebook, Instagram, Youtube The Fresh Start Family Show podcastWendy's free guide to raising strong-willed kids Kitchen Stewardship Raising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

I used Tosha's tips the very DAY we recorded this interview, and I have to tell you -- they work. So well.Once you hear about her strategy for reducing frustration and nipping "negative spirals" in the bud, you'll know why when my husband spent a ton of time hanging with our then-5-year-old, Gabe, over Christmas break, he said:"You know, Gabe has had a really good break. He hasn't been having any tantrums or behavior issues at ALL. And I'm really treasuring my time with him...he won't be little for very much longer!!"Tosha Schore is a parent coach who specializes in the biggest surprise of her own life -- parenting boys!In this interview that I did NOT want to end, you'll learn:Why empowered women can still raise strong, balanced boysThe very first step to disciplining without punishment (I kind of had to ask this twice because I wasn't understanding; I was a little slow to catch on because the answer has nothing to do with children!!)Why words are not powerful enough to stop aggressive behaviorHow the isolation of modern parenting is hurting our effortsThe mindset shift that rocked my thinking when Tosha explained how to respond to and appreciate a boy getting upset when fun time ends (I will have to work HARD to implement this one, folks, I need all the encouragement I can get!)The most powerful antidote to aggression (and it's free to use!)I do think a lot of Tosha's tips apply to girls too, but I really appreciate her focus on boys and the disconnect a lot of mommas in particular feel with their opposite-gender child. (Yes, boys and girls are different! Amazing fact!!)Resources We Mention for Parenting BoysTosha's 10-day reconnect: Register now Tosha's websiteTosha's book: Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges (Amazon/Bookshop.org)Tosha's Facebook pageIt starts with a healthy parent: Interview with Dr. Ryan WohlfertPositive parenting strategies: Interview with Suzanne TuckerVisit today's sponsor, Happsy, at https://www.kidscookrealfood.com/happsy and see full show notes and video at https://www.kidscookrealfood.com/017. Kitchen Stewardship Raising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

Jessica Lahey, a middle school teacher and bestselling author of The Gift of Failure, shares her insights on building resilience in children. She discusses how rising perfectionism hampers learning and why kids fear failure. Jessica emphasizes the importance of using the word 'yet' to shift focus from outcomes to growth. She explores the impact of household responsibilities on emotional resilience and advocates for allowing children autonomy through small choices. Lastly, she hints at her upcoming book on parenting strategies to combat addiction.

I'm so happy to have my stress mastery mentor here today!Heidi Hanna, PhD, is one of the most intellectual, intuitive and compassionate people I know, and I'm honored to host her wisdom today. We recorded this interview in March 2020, when we were all in a tailspin and figuring out managing our stress was more important than ever!Fill your brain with Dr. Hanna's research and her personal experience today:At age 10, Heidi was fainting from stress - literally. Find out how to help if this happens to your child, or if they seem to get stomachaches and headaches in uncomfortable situations.Highly sensitive kids actually fare better than other kids if raised in the right environment...but we don't always get that right as you'll hear.What research is showing about how stress-sensitive people's brains work and why Dr. Hanna doesn't love the term "negativity bias," even though it's technically accurate to describe stress-sensitive people.Why HSCs sometimes spiral into thinking like, "It's all my fault, I messed that up, I'm so dumb, and this is why NO ONE LIKES ME!" (I feel like that's my whole high school life!)And more importantly, what parents can do to help kids stop that spiral, appreciate what their reactions are trying to tell them, and reverse the reaction.How we can look at the ways in which our kids (or ourselves) are reacting to stress and understand what recharge techniques they need to get more capacity.Dr. Hanna's encouragement for parents of HSCs and how we can see the positive about our children's personality.Resources We Mention for Managing StressDr. Hanna's websiteDr. Hanna's courses: Stress Mastery Fundamentals 101 and Stress Mastery FoundationsElaine Aron's WebsiteMy Healthy Parenting Handbook Episodes on Stress Mastery: part 1 and part 2My interview with Dr. K, an expert on highly sensitive childrenMy introduction to highly sensitive peopleGoNoodleHeartMath device helps regulate stress responseCheck out today's sponsor, JustThrive, at https://www.kidscookrealfood.com/justhrive, and use Katie15 for 15% off! Kitchen Stewardship Raising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

We talked last week about STRESS and its impact on our health and our relationship with our families. I challenged you to be more aware of your breath and take the “Moment to Breathe” challenge, and a few of you chimed in after trying it that it’s really working!!Personally I found being aware of my breath and its ability to control my bodily reaction to stress to be life changing and revolutionary! Why? Because I can control my breath, and in this world where too often things feel out of control, that’s a game-changer.In part 2 today, we’ll discuss how to close the gap between demand and capacity…it turns out that stress ISN’T what happens to you that’s stressful, it’s a combination of what happens and how capable you are in reacting to it. (Hint: Responding is better than reacting anyway. More in the video!)I’ll teach my Stress Mastery instructor’s BFF method – you’ve learned the “B” and now for the rest! Dr. Heidi Hanna is the director of the American Institute of Stress and absolutely brilliant at making stress positive fuel for change, plus keeping everything easy to understand. I hope I share her information well as I’m certified as a “Stress Mastery Educator"!Show NotesTake this free quiz to find out how stressed you are.Free recharge suggestions and meditations.The Inner Balance sensorOur sleep hacks post on Kitchen StewardshipCheck out the free Stress Mastery for Busy Moms Challenge here! Kitchen Stewardship Raising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

Raise your thumb if you feel STRESS on a normal day!We busy moms (and dads) tend to experience stress and feel it right down to our breathing and heart rate, and it affects the way we parent, our productivity, and our own mental AND physical health.Today I’m so excited to use my stress mastery training to teach you about how our brains respond to stress, how it affects our bodies, and best of all, how WE CAN be in control of it!Check out this one simple technique that you can teach your kids for stress relief!Notes for TodayThe American Institute of StressChef Junior cookbookGet more help with my Stress Mastery for Busy Moms free challenge! Kitchen Stewardship Raising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

Ryan Pink is a survivor. Like many of us, he’s faced some hard things, and has come out the other side swinging.In this episode, we dive pretty deeply into trauma - what it is and isn’t, and how we can protect our kids from trauma digging too deeply into them.Ryan walks through his own healing journey, including how expensive it was (I hope you’re sitting down!).That experience led him to ask a lot of questions and talk to over 500 adults trying to heal from their own trauma, and he came up with some answers…and more questions.“What did we do to heal from trauma before therapy existed? Can we still tap into those strategies?”What if people don’t have a lot of money or bandwidth to figure out how to heal from their own demons?Ryan founded HopeGuide, an online service designed to reduce the barriers to healing for those with trauma. You’ll love hearing about how HopeGuide works, and even more, how Ryan instructs us to build resilience in our families for our children.Shall I spoil the ending? I think so:”Relationship is THE most important thing we can have.”If you’re on board with that, this interview is for you!Resourced We Mentioned Today:Hope Guide, for lower-cost guidance on healing from traumaThe Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté (Amazon/Bookshop.org)I talked all about helicopter parenting and free-range kids with Lenore SkenazyBuilding resilience in kids through self-compassion with Dr. Mary WildeTips for improving sleep qualityResearch on the different forms of magnesiumDr. Kelly Brogan on helping kids with depression and anxietyThe benefits of family dinnerDr. Meg Haworth on how your body might be holding onto trauma from childhood Kitchen Stewardship Raising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

How does a mom get time for herself to dream?She uses a system!My guest today founded Mom University to give moms the training, tools, and support for the most important job they will ever do.In this episode, she’ll teach us about a proven method for figuring out what that “thing” is outside of motherhood that you really want, and then making it happen - without sacrificing your family in the process.In fact, everyone will be happier when Mom is doing better.We talk about making dreams into actionable goals, then making tiny habits that actually STICK to make those goals into a reality. Chanelle applies her system for all of you who are thinking, “I wish I could teach my kids to cook!” but it feels too big, too hard.You’ll love this inspirational episode!Resources for Moms We Mentioned Today:Mom University - scroll to the bottom of the page and opt in for the Simplify ToolboxThe Kids Cook Real Food™ eCourse and the free knife skills classSubscribe to Chanelle's Mom University podcastHow to teach kids to cook when you don't like messes.Chanelle's books on AmazonFind Chanelle on her website or on Instagram @UniversityforMoms‌ Kitchen Stewardship Raising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!