#712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs
Modern Wisdom
People-Pleasing Tendency in Relationships
People frequently exhibit a people-pleasing tendency in relationships by lingering in situations that they instinctively feel are unhealthy or unsatisfactory, often under the guise of protecting their partner. This behavior leads to self-deception, where individuals postpone the necessary discomfort of making a definitive decision about their relationship, believing it to be a noble act. A set of introspective questions can help individuals assess their relationship's health, including whether they genuinely admire their partner or merely their potential, and if they are being true to themselves or conforming to their partner's preferences. The tendency to prioritize a partner's feelings over one's own fulfillment often results in existential crises, revealing the internal conflict between the desire for comfort and the pursuit of authentic, healthy connections.
