The speaker suggests that a person should try to communicate and negotiate with their partner, even if they find it difficult or if it goes against their conscience. By attempting to understand the other person's perspective and finding a middle ground, they can create a rubric for future interactions. The speaker gives an example of negotiating with one's partner about the right way to greet each other at the end of a workday, emphasizing the importance of avoiding repetitive negative interactions that can lead to viewing the partner as a source of problems.