Hello lovers and friends, we’re back just in time for Valentine’s day with an episode that might just solve all your relationship blues (even if you’re just dating you!). This week we’re digging into the four attachment styles — what they are, how they show up in relationships, and how to navigate them like a thoroughly therapized pro.

Whether you’re aware of them or not, everyone has repeated patterns and automatic responses that crop up in their love life. Sometimes those reactions aren’t healthy, but luckily for us, we can do the work to create security and stability. That’s where attachment styles come in — the four attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) are influenced by our formative years, and they characterize how we interact and behave in relationships as adults.

But any attachment anxieties that crop up can be healed, and we called in Jessica Baum (who literally wrote the book on anxious attachment) to help! Jessica is a psychotherapist and couples counselor, founder of The Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, and the founder of Be Self-full®, a company that provides counseling, group coaching and courses for couples and individuals.

This is a juicy one, so join us as we discuss:

The four attachment styles and how they show up in relationships
How your childhood influences your attachment style
Ways your attachment style plays into chemistry and attraction
Strategies for self-soothing and working towards secure attachments
Self-regulating vs co-regulation with your partner
What a codependent relationship might look like
The key to supporting your partner’s attachment style

We hope this episode helps you create secure attachments and prioritize self-improvement. In case we don’t say it enough, we love you!

Take Jessica’s quiz to find out what your attachment style is!

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