Harry Reis

Dr. Harry Reis, a social psychologist who studies closeness and connection, and Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, a happiness researcher and author, explore why people can be loved but not feel loved. They discuss listening skills, radical curiosity, authentic sharing, kindness, and simple conversational mindsets that deepen connection and make others feel truly seen.

Sonja Lyubomirsky, leading happiness researcher, and Harry Reis, relationship scientist, explain why feeling loved matters more than being loved. They explore loneliness antidotes, the relationship seesaw of lifting others to be lifted, curiosity and real listening, pacing vulnerability, and practical mindsets for deeper connection.

Sonja Lyubomirsky, happiness researcher and author, and Harry Reis, relationship scientist on intimacy, discuss why people can be loved but not feel loved. They explore how being truly seen and understood matters, how small mindset shifts and going first change connection, and why stress, attachment patterns, and misread gestures block feeling cared for.

Jeffrey L. Cohen, Stanford social psychologist who studies belonging, and Harry Reis, University of Rochester relationship researcher, chat about connection. They explore why achievements do not create lasting love. They cover reciprocity, radical curiosity in listening, openness vs secrecy, kindness, and simple situational steps to build belonging.

Harry Reis, PhD, relationship scientist and author, explains why feeling loved differs from being loved. He outlines five mindsets—curiosity, openness, reciprocity, vulnerability, and listening—that foster stronger bonds. Short practical ideas on opening conversations, listening to learn, and building connection in both romance and work are highlighted.