Doctor Orion Taraban is a clinical psychologist and owner of the PsycHacks Youtube channel. @psychacks    In this episode we discuss the psychology of dating, the behavioral economics of dating and how those two things make men and women have very different incentives and approachesThank you for listening!Subscribe to PsycHacks:https://www.youtube.com/@psychacksIf You’d Like To Help Support The Podcast: http://www.patreon.com/charismaoncommandIf you enjoy the podcast please SUBSCRIBE and Click the Notification bell :bell: TIMESTAMPS00:00 INTRO00:14 Why Women Go to Therapy 3 Times More Than Men03:27 Is Therapy Better Fit for Women?05:58 Men Find External Solutions to Internal Problems10:55 Why Modern Men Are Struggling in Dating13:30 Learning to Deal With Rejection15:50 The Romantic Ideal: Men Have Been Lied To20:53 Society’s Definition of Love Is Toxic23:22 Jesus: How Much Sacrifice Does Love Require?27:59 Loving Without Expecting Anything in Return30:23 "Love People Like Cats"32:29 Wounded People Recreate Their Traumatic Relationships35:05 The Crossroads: Where Decisions Really Matter37:14 How to Avoid Being Blinded by Emotions39:27 Stopping Negative Thought Cycles44:23 The Core of Mental Disorders: “Self-Focused Attention”45:34 The Surprising Power of Stepping Away From Alcohol47:22 The Black Pill: Young Men Giving Up on Life51:46 The Antidote to Hopelessness53:10 Being a Young Man Is Tough54:49 Should You “Grind Out” Your 20s?57:11 What It Means to Be a Man in 20231:01:19 The Changing Definitions of Masculinity and Femininity1:05:05 Masculinity: “To Have a Spine and to Have a Pair”1:07:40 Covid and Conformity1:09:56 Having a Healthy Level of Self-Doubt1:11:21 When Should You Stand Up Against the Crowd?1:13:54 Is “Masculinity/Femininity” a Productive Framework?1:17:30 Why Women Are Frustrated With Modern Dating1:20:26 “Women Are Still Waiting for the Offer”1:22:12 Why 99% of Women Will Be Disappointed1:26:23 Can Evolutionary Psychology Explain Dating?1:28:15 Forming Relationships: Can Compatibility Beat Status?1:30:24 Beauty Doesn’t Make a Happy Relationship1:32:04 “Find Your Ugly Duckling”1:33:26 The Dark Horse Strategy1:35:41 Debate: Do Looks/Finances Really Matter That Much?1:39:16 Personality Disorders = Childhood Coping Mechanisms1:41:39 Uncovering Internal Wounds Without Becoming a Victim1:47:33 Can You Take on Too Much Responsibility?1:48:59 You’re Not Always the Problem1:51:16 The Pros and Cons of Spirituality1:54:22 The Point of Religion: “A Felt Connection With the Divine”1:57:37 People Never Love Each Other Exactly the Same Amount2:00:05 Check Out PsycHacks on YouTube and oriontarabanpsyd.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy