In this episode, Tera sits down with trauma-informed coach Echo Vetter to unpack something most of us were never taught—how to process anger in a healthy way. Echo breaks down the difference between core anger and secondary anger, why we misdefine it, and how it actually exists to protect us. She explains how unprocessed anger lives in the body, often showing up as chronic pain, stress, or emotional shutdown, and shares practical ways to reconnect with ourselves so we stop resisting our own energy. Phyllis opens up about her personal journey of storing anger for decades, the toll it’s taken on her health, and the fear that facing it might damage her closest relationships. Echo offers powerful insight on how we can rewire the way we relate to anger—so instead of being afraid of it, we learn to partner with it and let it fuel the change we need.

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Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:

Echo Hill Vetter’s Substack | Letters from Nashville: ⁠https://substack.com/@echohillvetter⁠
Echo on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter⁠
Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: ⁠https://calendly.com/echohillvetter⁠
Echo’s LinkTree: ⁠https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter

Chapters:

00:00:00 - The Weight of Unprocessed Anger
00:00:37 - Who’s in the Room? Meet the Voices Behind the Mic
00:01:48 - A Road Trip, A Wedding, and Deep Talks
00:03:27 - Anger Isn’t Just One Thing
00:04:26 - Why We Have Anger (And Why We Fear It)
00:05:08 - Making Friends with an Uncomfortable Emotion
00:09:25 - How to Stop Fighting Your Own Energy
00:14:49 - Three Pages a Day: Writing Through Emotion
00:23:17 - Why Men and Women Experience Anger Differently
00:29:51 - The Moment You Realize You’re Holding More Than You Thought
00:30:21 - Is This Anger Mine to Carry?
00:32:42 - The Survival Strategies We Never Question
00:38:31 - What Happens When You Ignore Your Body’s Signals
00:40:26 - How the Judgment Cycle Keeps You Stuck
00:42:12 - The Smallest Shift That Changes Everything
00:50:38 - The Emotional Tool You Need (That No One Taught You)
00:54:04 - Closing Thoughts & What Happens Next

Brian J. McVeigh

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