#292: AITA Diet and Body Edition Part 2 - with Vinny Welsby
Mar 5, 2024
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Best buddy Vinny and host discuss 'Am I The Asshole' posts on Reddit about weight and diet issues. They analyze cognitive dissonance, anti-fat attitudes, and self-esteem influences. Topics include inclusive seating choices, pressuring spouses to conform, societal biases in relationships, and taboo conversations on body acceptance.
Body image conflicts can arise from seating arrangements and weight concerns, leading to judgments and conflicts around acceptance.
Imposing societal body standards on a partner reflects control issues and deep-seated biases around weight and attractiveness.
Deep dives
Summary of Scenario 1: Embarrassing the Friend's Boyfriend
An individual hosts a dinner to celebrate moving into a new house and asks a friend's morbidly O-word boyfriend, Dale, to sit on a sturdier chair due to concerns about the old chairs holding his weight. The friend's girlfriend, Katie, gets upset, accusing the host of fat phobia and embarrassing Dale, leading to an uncomfortable situation where Katie and Dale leave early.
Summary of Scenario 2: Imposing a Diet on the Wife
A person plans to work in Japan and wants their wife to lose weight to conform to Japanese societal standards regarding body size. The person imposes a weight loss deadline for the wife to meet in order to travel with them, suggesting control over her visa application based on her weight loss. The community strongly deems the person as an asshole for this manipulation and unreasonable expectation.
Summary of General Insights
Both scenarios highlight issues of body image, fat phobia, societal perceptions, and control within relationships. The first scenario reveals the tension arising from seating arrangements and weight concerns, leading to conflicts around body acceptance and judgments. The second scenario exposes the harmful impact of imposing body standards on a partner, reflecting deep-seated issues of control, insecurity, and ingrained biases around weight and attractiveness.
In this episode, I’m cohosting with my best buddy Vinny Welsby. Have you ever read the “Am I The Asshole” questions on Reddit? If you don’t know what AITA is: People ask the internet if they were in the right or wrong about a situation that happened in their life. In the second half of this two-part episode, Vinny and I are reading some of these to give our verdict on AITA posts around weight and diets.
Show notes: summerinnanen.com/291 In this episode, we talk about: - The cognitive dissonance we see in the responses, - How you can hear the anti-fat attitudes in what people write, - How we would have handled these situations, - How people’s own self-esteem influences how they treat and view the people around them, - Plus so much more! Get the shownotes: summerinnanen.com/291 Get the free 10-Day Body Confidence Makeover with 10 steps to feel better in your body at summerinnanen.com/freebies If you're a professional who has clients or students that struggle with body image, get the Body Image Coaching Roadmap for professionals at summerinnanen.com/roadmap
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