Your Move with Andy Stanley Podcast Games We Play
Jan 30, 2026
The conversation explores how competition seeps into relationships and why 'winning' often hurts more than helps. It names common toxic games like blame, guilt, and passive aggression. It contrasts those with a healthier option: a deliberate practice of valuing and honoring others. The idea of choosing humility and out-honoring people is presented as a transformative relational strategy.
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Dodgeball Reveals Relationship Competition
- Andy describes a staff dodgeball tournament where jerseys and competition were serious.
- The pastor's wife was excluded because she was "too competitive," illustrating how competitiveness shows up in relationships.
Winning Arguments Costs The Relationship
- Relational games that require a loser leave everyone worse off because the relationship itself is the true prize.
- Winning an argument often costs trust, closeness, or future cooperation in the relationship.
The Guessing Game In Marriage
- Andy lists common relationship games and admits he played the "guessing game" early in his marriage.
- His spouse, Sandra, refused to play, which forced him to change the behavior.