310: Should I Fudge My Age in Dating Apps? | Feedback Friday
Feb 7, 2020
A 45-year-old woman faces a dilemma about whether to fudge her age on dating apps to attract potential matches. The discussion delves into the ethics of honesty in dating and the societal pressures influencing personal choices. Additionally, a listener grapples with their complicated relationship with their mother and seeks advice on emotional closeness. The episode also touches on navigating family dynamics during milestones and offers insights into managing career decisions aligned with personal values.
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Dating App Honesty
Don't lie about your age on dating apps to fool potential matches.
Come clean on the first or second date and avoid significant deceptions.
insights INSIGHT
Insecurity vs. Dishonesty
People often lie on dating apps due to insecurity, not malice.
They fear being prematurely excluded by rigid search criteria.
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Reconciling with Parents
Focus on your present relationship with your mother and let go of past guilt.
Consider professional guidance to define your wants and navigate potential guilt trips.
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As an active 45-year-old woman who is usually mistaken for someone 10 years younger, you're throwing your hat back in the dating game after six years. You realize that if you put your actual age on your dating app profile, you'll probably get filtered out by the age range of men you're looking for. Friends have encouraged you to put down 37 or 38 as your dating profile age so you'll still fall within the desired search results, but you're uncomfortable about the deception. In a situation like this, should you fudge your age in dating apps? We'll break down this and much more on the latest Feedback Friday right here!
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When you're active and appear 10 years younger than you are, is fudging your age in dating apps acceptable if you're only trying to fool the search algorithm and not potential matches?
You never really bonded with your mother and you'd like to change that now, but she considers you "selfish." How much responsibility do both parties have to create familial closeness?
There's a family rift between your father and uncle thanks to inheritance drama. You'd like to invite your aunt to your wedding, but don't want to appear disloyal to your father. What's the right thing to do?
You've noticed that people who are very successful seem to have mastered the skill of remembering people's names, but you're terrible at it. How can you get better at remembering the names of people you meet?
You have an amazing new job opportunity, but you've been planning a gap year to travel abroad and the timing couldn't be worse. Should you trust your gut and travel even though this opportunity might never come your way again? What are your options?
How do you strike a balance between being an entrepreneur and a family man without neglecting your spouse and new baby -- or the needs of the nascent company you've worked hard to build?
Life Pro Tip: Google your kid's prospective name before they're born. This way, when their name is googled, people won’t see news of some a-hole criminal with the same name.
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