

What To Do When Reflecting Feelings "Doesn't Work" (Advanced Reflecting Feelings Tips)
Jul 19, 2023
19:24
Listener Stephanie emailed me with a follow-up question to my episode titled: "'I Hate My Life!' – What To Do When Your Child Says This, Or Other Shocking Things" and described a few situations where her 7-year-old son reacts with shocking responses, but the reflecting feelings process didn't work as expected. In this episode, I give Stephanie some follow-up advice on using the reflecting feelings skill with some advanced tips to help when it feels like reflecting feelings isn't working.
- The depth of the feeling impacts the recovery. The larger the emotion, the more time it may take for feeling reflection to take effect. It's not an instant fix.
- Enlarge the meaning
- You always reflect on the new feeling that was most recently expressed
- Bonus tip: Provide alternatives (later)