In this episode of Talk Twenties, we sit down with Tam Kaur to explore her transformative journey from a shy individual to a self-love advocate and successful YouTuber with over a million subscribers.

Tam shares the process of writing her self-development book, her strategies for breaking through on YouTube, and how she grew from 2K to 1 million subscribers in just six months. We dive deep into the importance of setting boundaries, overcoming narcissistic abuse, and cultivating intrinsic confidence.

Tam also discusses the role of self-love in relationships, why she quit dating for a year, and her insights on healing after breakups.

Whether you're looking for inspiration in your personal growth journey or tips on succeeding in the digital world, this episode is packed with actionable advice and empowering stories.

Host: Gaby Mendes

Guest: Tam Kaur 

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Chapters

0:00 - Intro to Tam Kaur

1:00 - Why Tam Wrote Her Self-Development Book

3:00 - The Process of Writing a Book

4:00 - Holding the First Hard Copy

5:20 - Inside Tam’s Camera Roll: 1 Year Ago

6:50 - Tam’s YouTube Journey to 1 Million Subscribers

8:18 - Mindset to Continue YouTube Despite Slow Growth

8:57 - Tam Kaur’s YouTube Success Formula

9:25 - Biggest Tips for Aspiring Self-Development YouTubers

12:00 - Inspiration vs. Individuality in Content Creation

14:05 - Breaking Down Self-Love and Tam’s Book

17:00 - Love Languages for Yourself

21:20 - Having a Self-Love Year: Quitting Dating

22:00 - Narcissism vs. Self-Love

23:50 - Setting Boundaries & Avoiding People-Pleasing

29:00 - Realistic Routines for Self-Love and Productivity

30:22 - Tam’s 3 Types of Routines

32:26 - Healing and Self-Development: The Hard Truth

34:53 - Self-Blame vs. Self-Education

36:45 - Breakups: Why Tam Loves Them

38:05 - Mindset Shifts During Breakups

39:20 - Friendship Breakups and Making New Friends

42:35 - Not Allowing Insecure People in Your Life

44:48 - Journey from Shy to Self-Obsessed

45:55 - Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Confidence

47:05 - Developing Intrinsic Confidence

50:40 - Dating After a Year of Self-Love

53:45 - You Are the Love of Your Own Life

55:30 - Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers

57:05 - Advice to 20-Year-Old Tam