10CBF: A Podcast for Blended Families
S2-E9: "Accepting Your Baggage and Knowing Your Triggers to Build A Better Blended Family" with Terrie Vanover
Terrie is a Divorce and Relationship Strategist. Her dynamic, vibrant, inspirational talks for both men and women motivate and educate audiences. Terrie-who is divorced- has overcome abandonment, poverty, and childhood sexual abuse. She uses the trials and her triumphs in her coaching practice, Choosing to Rise. Terrie coaches men and women to overcome their setbacks, create healthy relationships, and find happiness and peace of mind. She is the co-author of two women's empowerment books.
Terrie and I had an amazing conversation about the importance of both personal responsibility and grace in overcoming challenges and setbacks in the life of blended families.
Terrie brought lots of issues from childhood into her adulthood and marriage, and she made the conscious decision to accept her circumstances in order to heal and become the best version of herself.
"Know your own triggers!"
"You have to see what baggage you are bringing into the situation and how they affect you."
"Life presents you with people and circumstances that will show you where you still need to heal."
"The biggest challenge is differences in parenting."
Learn the difference between a request and a complaint when thinking of blended family communication.
"How you show up in your blended family helps shape how others show up as well.
"On the other side of pain is peace, and on the other side of fear is freedom."
"You can't solve internal problems with external solutions."
Resources:
FB Group for stepmoms: https://www.facebook.com/search/top?q=stepmoms%20supporting%20other%20stepmoms
Also look for Men Rise Above Divorce and Women Rise Above Divorce Facebook groups
Website: www.ChoosingtoRise.com
Tunisica O., The Empowered Stepmother https://www.amazon.com/EMPOWERED-STEPMOTHER-Thrive-Harmoniously-Blended/dp/0578425009