Divorce (Part 1) w/ Joey Pontarelli

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Jan 17, 2024

Joey Pontarelli, founder and president of the ministry 'Restored', joins Jake and Bob to discuss healing from divorce. They delve into the wounds caused by divorce, practical advice for responding to this woundedness, and the importance of love and building a relationship with God for healing. They also explore the impact of divorce on individuals and families, the emotional struggles experienced, and the significance of being emotionally honest. Additionally, they touch on healing and woundedness in marriage and the role of parenthood in finding healing.

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Introduction

00:00 • 5min

Guest Joey Pontarelli shares about his faith, family, and ministry

04:53 • 2min

The Impact of Divorce on Individuals and Families

06:40 • 10min

Divorce: Exploring the Anatomy of a Wound

16:25 • 23min

The Importance of God's Love in Healing

39:34 • 11min

Being Emotionally Honest

50:36 • 8min

Healing and Woundedness in Marriage

58:39 • 4min

Healing Through Parenthood

01:02:14 • 7min

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Joey Pontarelli, the founder and president of the ministry “Restored”. After finding a lack of help after his parents’ divorce, Joey decided to begin ministry with “Restored” to offer practical guidance and support for teens and young adults from broken families. Jake, Bob, and Joey discuss the wounds that come from divorce, their personal experiences, and practical advice on how to respond to this woundedness.

Key Points

If there isn’t any transformation in the wounds, then the sins we fall into, as a remedy, make sense. They don’t work, but they make sense.
We often don’t want to face these wounds, so we try to outrun them. But we can’t outrun our wounds. We’re made for more than that.
The Lord understands why you struggle with each particular sin. It doesn’t surprise or scandalize Him. And He loves you where you are.
Divorce is a wound of broken love. So the medicine can only work when you reach the wound. Love is what heals.
Relationship with God is the primary healing element and agent. Give God your attention, quality time, and trust Him.
Consume great content that involves trauma and healing. Seek out coaching - a therapist, spiritual director, or mentor. Have a good community and deep relationships.
For a healthy marriage - spend time with a couple who has a healthy marriage.
The temptation in marriage is to harden your heart and to close yourself off. But instead, we are called to tenderness and vulnerability.

Resources

Restored Ministry Website
RTG Anatomy of a Wound Series
Adam Young’s Podcast: The Place We Find Ourselves
Restored Ministry Podcast
Restored Ministry Podcast with Sr. Miriam
It’s not Your Fault (Book by Joey)
Restored Ministry courses
5 tips to navigate the holidays in a broken family guide
Jay Stringer
Jason Evert

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