Cohabitation before marriage is prevalent in the U.S., with 70% of couples choosing this path, yet studies reveal it can lead to less stable relationships and higher divorce rates.
The podcast emphasizes the critical implications of cohabitation on children, as 40% may experience instability, which negatively affects their long-term well-being and development.
Deep dives
Rising Trend of Cohabitation
Cohabitation has become increasingly normalized, with more adults aged 18 to 44 having cohabited than those who have ever been married. Statistics show that 70% of couples in America choose to live together before marriage. Additionally, a significant portion of self-identified Christians, about 41%, accept cohabitation without plans for marriage. This trend raises concerns about the lack of discussion and guidance around cohabitation, particularly within religious communities.
Impacts on Children and Stability
Cohabiting relationships are often less stable than traditional marriages, which has dire implications for children. By 12 years of age, approximately 40% of children in the U.S. will have experienced a cohabiting household. Cohabitation leads to a higher likelihood of instability, which can cause distress for children who are involved, making their long-term well-being a significant concern. Furthermore, while certain cohabiting situations may be suitable for children, many are fraught with challenges that can disrupt their development.
Perceived Benefits versus Real Outcomes
Many believe that cohabiting before marriage leads to better relationship outcomes; however, research contradicts this assumption. Data indicates that those who cohabit before engagement are significantly more likely to experience marital dissolution compared to those who move in after engagement. Furthermore, motivations for cohabitation, such as financial convenience, often correlate with higher rates of divorce, highlighting that practical reasons for cohabiting can backfire. The evidence suggests that individuals can gain no substantial relational insights through cohabitation that cannot be learned through other means.
Importance of Commitment in Relationships
The absence of a formal commitment in cohabiting relationships can lead to misunderstandings and decreased trust between partners. Without the public commitment of marriage, individuals may feel less compelled to work through conflicts, leading to higher rates of domestic strife and infidelity. Cohabitation often fosters an environment where the relationship lacks the permanence necessary for deep emotional bonds. Ultimately, the choice to cohabit can undermine the foundation of what true commitment embodies in a lasting marriage.
What does the Bible say, if anything, about living together before marriage? Given that 70% of Americans now cohabit before marriage, and roughly 2/3 believe it will improve the odds of relationship success, what does the data show about how effective it is? While this is a huge topic in the church and culture today, surprisingly, few people are discussing it. In this episode, Sean and Scott discuss a recent study on cohabitation from the Institute for Family Studies.
Think Biblically: Conversations on Faith and Culture is a podcast from Talbot School of Theology at Biola University, which offers degrees both online and on campus in Southern California.
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