Philosophies for Life 134: Why Modern Dating Feels So Empty (So Choose Yourself First)
Dec 24, 2025
22:24
Why Modern Dating Feels So Empty (So Choose Yourself First).
Do you feel like you’re constantly swiping but never connecting? Modern dating often feels less like romance and more like a marketplace. We have more options than ever, yet we feel more disconnected and lonely. In this video, we explore the deep psychology behind why we keep attracting the wrong people and why "swiping right on yourself" is the only way to break the toxic cycle.
Picture this: you open a dating app, and instead of swiping right on someone else, you swipe right on becoming the better version of yourself. How would that change the way you show up?
Today, our dating culture runs on quick swipes and fast decisions. We move from one profile to the next, hoping the right match will appear. But in all the searching, we’re so focused on finding the right person that we rarely stop to ask if we’re actually ready to be one.
This matters because today we feel more disconnected than ever. Ghosting has become routine. Conversations stay on the surface. And a lot of us leave dates feeling confused or drained instead of understood. The issue isn’t only the apps - it’s the mindset we bring into them. Many of us go in without a clear sense of who we are, what we want, or what we’re ready to give.
In this video, we’ll talk about what it really means to choose yourself first in a stronger, healthier way..
And just to be clear, we are not against dating apps or modern ways of meeting people. It’s about using them from a place where you’ve already chosen yourself first.
Topics covered in this podcast -
00:00 – 02:05 – Introduction
02:05 – 05:34 - Why Dating Feels Different Today
05:34 – 07:49 - How Dating Apps Changed Us
07:49 – 10:09 - The Psychology Behind It
10:09 – 15:23 - What Philosophy Teaches Us About Love
15:23 – 18:03 - Putting This Into Practice
18:03 – 20:48 - The Barriers That Hold You Back
20:48 – 22:24 - Conclusion
I hope you enjoyed listening to this podcast and hope after watching this, you will start choosing yourself first.
Do you feel like you’re constantly swiping but never connecting? Modern dating often feels less like romance and more like a marketplace. We have more options than ever, yet we feel more disconnected and lonely. In this video, we explore the deep psychology behind why we keep attracting the wrong people and why "swiping right on yourself" is the only way to break the toxic cycle.
Picture this: you open a dating app, and instead of swiping right on someone else, you swipe right on becoming the better version of yourself. How would that change the way you show up?
Today, our dating culture runs on quick swipes and fast decisions. We move from one profile to the next, hoping the right match will appear. But in all the searching, we’re so focused on finding the right person that we rarely stop to ask if we’re actually ready to be one.
This matters because today we feel more disconnected than ever. Ghosting has become routine. Conversations stay on the surface. And a lot of us leave dates feeling confused or drained instead of understood. The issue isn’t only the apps - it’s the mindset we bring into them. Many of us go in without a clear sense of who we are, what we want, or what we’re ready to give.
In this video, we’ll talk about what it really means to choose yourself first in a stronger, healthier way..
And just to be clear, we are not against dating apps or modern ways of meeting people. It’s about using them from a place where you’ve already chosen yourself first.
Topics covered in this podcast -
00:00 – 02:05 – Introduction
02:05 – 05:34 - Why Dating Feels Different Today
05:34 – 07:49 - How Dating Apps Changed Us
07:49 – 10:09 - The Psychology Behind It
10:09 – 15:23 - What Philosophy Teaches Us About Love
15:23 – 18:03 - Putting This Into Practice
18:03 – 20:48 - The Barriers That Hold You Back
20:48 – 22:24 - Conclusion
I hope you enjoyed listening to this podcast and hope after watching this, you will start choosing yourself first.