I was living with a narcissist comorbid with a borderline for few years and after time, successfully recovered.
Here is what I learned about covert abuse and abuser behavior.
(00:08) Victim Can Also Be a Narcissist
(02:01) Emotional Abusiveness is Not Owned by Either Sex
(05:52) Narcissists Controlling External Perceptions of Him
(08:11) Was It Autism?
(11:47) Covert Narcissism
(13:51) Accelerated Intimacy & Provoking Love
(17:50) Recovery After Relationship & Attachment Trauma
(24:55) Summary