How to Increase the Likelihood of Being Accepted by Others

It's human nature to want to be liked and accepted by others. But while some seem to have a knack for it, for many of us, fear of rejection or fear of negative evaluation can get in the way.

Whether it's walking into a room for a job interview or college/grad school audition, playing in a new ensemble for the first time, or meeting your partner's family for the first time, how can we increase our chances of being liked and accepted?

A 2009 study suggests that our mindset could play a role in this.

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How to Increase the Likelihood of Being Accepted by Others

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