ask a sub 132. In Praise Of Pickiness
Sep 7, 2025
Are we too picky with our play partners? Discover the importance of recognizing red flags like lack of respect for boundaries in relationships. Humorously dive into personal stories of overcoming fears, like attending a handgun training class dressed as a vampire. Explore the empowerment found in navigating casual connections while embracing personal boundaries. The conversation encourages open dialogue about preferences and navigating intimacy in a safe space.
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Unexpected Gun Range Revelation
- Lina Dune recounts going to a handgun class dressed as a vampire and unexpectedly becoming the best student.
- Shooting relieved a somatic feeling of fear and gave her a surprising sense of safety despite political qualms about guns.
Office Hours Offer For Kink Support
- Lina offers half-hour office hours over Zoom with camera optional to discuss kink and relationships.
- She frames sessions as nonjudgmental spaces for exploration, mapping, and support.
Pickiness As Protective Intuition
- Lina argues that pickiness about partners is your intuition protecting you in high-stakes intimacy.
- Submission multiplies vulnerability, so being selective is a safety strategy, not snobbery.